To ALL PARENTS!!!?

Question

how can a I ,a 13 year old child, convince my parents that i can go out with my friends and her parents to the mall, movies, and more. I mean all I do is clean the house, take care of my little sisiter , and do nothing because they won't let me do nothing. I feel like i'm just here to make life easier for them, how can I convince them that life isn't fair (for me) in the house.

P.S~ and i make good grades!!!

I'M 13 NOT 5 YEARS OLD!!!! I KNOW HOW TO HANDLE ABDUCTIONS!!!!

Answer 1

niceeeeeeee

Answer 2

Have your friend's parents call and invite you. Many parents just want to make sure that there is actually a parental unit supervising and that the kids won't be alone in the mall.

I was always one of those parents. If you parents are still nervous about allowing you out with strangers, suggest that THEY do the supervision for you and your friends.
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Don't be so cocky about your age and your safety from abductions. As a parent, when you just wrote that, my first reaction was that you aren't mature enough to be out on your own. You NEED to realize that abductions happen to adults. Just last week a 16 year old male was abducted http://www.mississauganews.com/article/5232 and is missing. Teenagers, college students and adults are abducted, raped and murdered every week. Being 13 does not make you suddenly safe---no matter what you THINK you know.

Trust me, I'm on your side in this issue. I think children of your age deserve some time out on their own a bit, but I am starting to get a picture of why your parents have doubts.

Answer 3

I am the mom of a 13 year old boy, and I wouldn't allow my son to go to the mall alone either, or even just with friends. When we go, usually we are together, or if we split up, I won't be very far away and we each have a cell phone so we can stay in touch. We set up a time and place to meet again, and he knows if he's late, that's the last time we do it! I agree with everyone else, there are some really horrible people out there and our children are precious to us.

Having said all that, you sound like a good kid and if I were your parent, I would allow you to go with your friend and her parents. I would want you to have a cell phone with you, I would expect you to answer it right away if I called, I would expect you to stay with your friend's parents, and I would want to meet them and your friend before you go with them.

Ask your parents again, nicely, and if you can make sure they have all the above information, I think they might let you go. Remember, they want to know you're mature enough to do this safely, so don't get upset or throw a tantrum, it won't help you get what you want. Try to stay calm and answer all their questions. You need to make them feel they can trust you and that you will be safe.

Good luck!

Answer 4

Sorry to hear about your situation. But I do have a 12 yr old daughter and it very hard to let her go out to the mall and movie these days. There are just so much bad people in today society. But hearing what you wrote that your friend parent will be along maybe you can ask your mom to come along one time with your little sister for lunch and let your mom and your friends parent get to know each other and your mom might think she is trustable to hand you to them for care. I would mind if my daughter ask me to go along a shopping date with her friend and mom. But sometime it do take time for parent to feel ease to let their kids out. For myself I am learning to let my daughter to go out for a short period of time like to the library or to her summer camp school.

From what you stated at the last statement I don't think your ready to go out on your own. Nobody can handle abduction not even an adult can handle it. Just because your 13 your still your mom child you need to look into your mom side she just want to protect you from bad people.

Answer 5

My son is 15. I sometimes take his friends to the mall, moves, ect. He does have a cell phone so I have dropped him off at a movie with his friends, and picked them up and drove them home. Or Im fine with it if one of his friends moms drive, Since I know them very well also.

I live in a city with 100,000 population, way more during the school year, when the college is at full enrollment. I do not let my child run wild, I know where he is and who he is with at all times. Its a matter of saftey.

At thirteen there is nothing wrong with you helping out in the house or watching your little sister. Since in my beliefs you are too young to date, However I dont agree that you should be the only one doing the house work. But there is no reason , why you cant help pick up, help with laundry, dishes, and helping make the food, all skills you need to know laer in life when your on your own.

My children help in the house, cook, yard work ect. And i never have had to ask them to pitch in, they have always asked what they could do to help. Life isnt fair. But I would be taking you to do these things.......

atleast your not one of the thirteen year olds posting that your pregnant............. So as far as i see it your parents are doing their job so far. Ask your mom to take you and a few friends to the mall since you help out.

You know i grew up in a home where my mother abused me, hitting, name calling, she did NOTHING IN THE HOUSE. At 11 years old i was doing all the cooking ( sometimes it wasnt so good) and all the cleaning. I took care of the home and all my nieces and nephews. I didnt get allowance it was just expected. I was not allowed to go with friends until i was 16, And i got very good grades........My life was not fair as a child but i made it.

You know how to handle obductions????? if you dont want to be treated like a 5 year old dont act like one...... Im sure all the young teens that have been taken and murdered this year in the US thought they knew how to handle it as well, not to mentioned the ones that were raped, and beat and left for dead that lived.

Answer 6

Well there is no convincing them it is whether or not they want you to go. If you ask and they say no then there has to be a reason why they say no other than (cause I said so). You seem like a good lil kid, but if you just talk to dem about it and just let em know dat you are just curious when you are gonna be able to hang out wit your friends if they are gonna be wit there parents anyway. I dont know to many 13 year olds dat are gonna be wit their parents when they go out. Just hang in there they are just lookin out for you. Even though it doesnt seem like it. I am gonna be ova protective of my daughter too cause she is only 1 right now but I dont want anything to happen to her. The world has changed whether you know it or not and I am pretty sure you will understand it one day. Just cause you cant enjoy da liberties dat you friends do afta school doesnt mean dat you will not have a good life later on. Strict parents tend to have successful children. You will be thanking tem lata.

Answer 7

Does your mom know your friend's parents? Most parents feel more comfortable when they know the other parents that will be supervising. Do they have any problems with this particular friend or their parents? Perhaps they might let you go with a different family.

Do you get to invite your friend to your house? That might be a good way to get the parents talking.

Have you ever asked your parents to take you and a friend to the mall or movies? That way, you could still get to go out, and they should have no problems with trust.

At 13, these aren't unreasonable requests, with proper supervision.

Answer 8

Tell them that your friend and her parents are going to the mall and movies for a 'fun day' and invited you to come along. Ask them if you get all of your chores and all done, if you would be allowed to go with them. Let them know that you feel like you do a lot around the house and you do good in school and you would like to be able to be rewarded for your good deeds if it isn't too much. Tell them that you do everything that they ask of you to do and explain that her parents will be with you the entire time. Have her parents call and speak with your parents and invite you to come along with them.

Answer 9

Believe me, if you do this now, it'll pay off in the long run. Right now you're 13. It may look like your parents don't trust you, but they really do. If they didn't trust you, they wouldn't have left you alone with your sister. Taking care of a younger sibling is a big responsibility.
As you do this now, your parents are trusting and respecting you. Keep this up, and when you're older, they'll trust you with..... let's say, going out alone with your boyfriend, going out with friends, staying out late, things like that.
If you argue now, then they will most likely not be so forgiving in the future.

Answer 10

exactly what you said 13 yo CHILD. Although you may feel grown up you are only 13 which I feel is too young to go to the mall alone. There are some sick people out there. If you cannot go alone have your mom or older person come along and hang out in the food court that way you can go off on your own.

Answer 11

Honey, they are just being protective of you. You are still really young and if you watch the news to day there are way to many young abductions out there and they just don't want you to be one of them. I would show them you are trustworthy and have them get you a cell phone so they will always know where you are. Also have them talk to your friends parents to make sure they know you are going where you say you are.