what do you do when you have bad kids?

Question

U have three they drive me insane they arer6,5,and3. I'm with them every day. I'm a stay at home mom

Answer 1

Try www.disciplinehelp.com for ideas on what to do with them. Children are NOT "bad" - they are bored or haven't learned to socialize with each other properly.

Having a schedule helps, and nothing fun can be done until chores are complete. I know - I've got 9 children, 7 still at home (ages 9-13). I love being home with them during the summer. We are never bored because we have a schedule of activities every day - chores, schoolwork, reading, swimming, park, library, and other free activities. When they are home they like to make crafts, build forts, ride bikes, and play with their cars and toys.

Check out www.geocities.com/fosteradoptfun for ideas on summer activities. It's for the Dallas/Fort Worth TX area, but there are "anywhere" activities and links to other things to do.

It's all in how you look at it - life can either be a welcome challenge, or a burden. Turn your frustration into a challenge to find out what their behavior is trying to tell you.

Answer 2

Start using appropriate discipline. I know someone with exactly the same problem and she feels that she is disciplining them well. She yells a lot and lets them know (loudly) that there will be consequences for their actions. She tries to remain chummy with them by following up her shouting with a pet name i.e. "STOP THAT RIGHT NOW OR YOU ARE GOING TO BE IN TROUBLE, you goofy kid". She also nevers follows through on what she says is going to happen. They know it, so they tune her out while she walks around shouting. The best thing you can do when they act up is to make sure you are at face level with them, tell them firmly that their behavior is unacceptable and tell them exactly what the consequences will be if they don't straighten out i.e. you will not be going to grandma's house tomorrow if you don't stop.... The important thing is that if they don't stop, do not under any circumstances let them go to grandma's house & remind them why. Also, with 3 kids, make sure you aren't punishing all of them for what 1 does - if one doesn't go to grandma's house, the other 2 should if they have behaved. The other thing you might want to consider if you can, is a part-time job. Get out with adults, and force yourself to think about other things periodically. Sorry, but I find the stay-at-home moms having more trouble with discipline because they are way too involved with their kids and cannot be as objective. This isn't ALL (so some of you can calm down), but I have seen it with many.

Answer 3

You stop what your doing and reevaluate your situation and try to make a more comfortable situation for you and your kids. Your kids aren't bad and you have plenty of time for improvement. For starters create a schedule and try to stick to it as much as possible. We all know in real world schedule has to be adjusted for emergencies etc...Network with other stay at home moms to get other ideas or start a play group. Have a bit more patience and realize kids are just kids love and nourish them. Ask a friend or family member to come over so you can have an hour for yourself.

Answer 4

You don,t have bad kids, just not good parenting skills. Kids need discipline in their lives, if you show them that they are driving you insane they will only walk over you. Set rules and stick to it . Add small rewards for good behavior, and take away privileges when need to, like favorite toy, or game. Get a babysitter who can come in for an hour maybe for one day in the week to help you, so you would not be so overwhelm.

Answer 5

They are probably not really bad kids but probably a little mischevious. At their ages its pretty common. You are probably just getting stressed because you are with them all the time and don't get a break. I recommend hiring a babysitter and getting out and having fun with some adults once in a while. I bet you will feel a lot better once you do.

Answer 6

I know exactly what you mean!! I have 2 kids and they fight like cats and dogs. I can't do anything without them being a step behind me. It drives me literally crazy!! I'm a stay at home mom, too. When you find a solution to the insaneness, let me know!! I'm willing to try anything before I lose my mind!! LOL Best of Luck!!

Answer 7

I bet they are angels one on one though... and angels when they are with a sitter.... they are probably just normal children and test you to see how far they can get. Most kids do this to their mothers but yet are totally different children for other people! Set strick limits and stick to them. Consistency is key! And by all means... get a sitter every now and then and enjoy some mom time!!!

Answer 8

Sweet Pea don't ever call kids bad thy are just probably unruly a little. Just set boundaries and pray for them they know not what they do. I have three myself and I know it can be trying but you have to reach deep within and try new things with the children. Good luck and God bless!

Answer 9

You dont have BAD kids you have kids who like to get into trouble and push your buttons because they know you can crack down on them punish them and be serious about it. If you say no and they keep bugging you over and over again dont give in no matter how annoying they get. Eventually they will realize that you are serious and will not change you mind. You are the mom not them you need to show them that.

Answer 10

i'm a stay at home mom and my kids drive me crazy. i just look at all the good points and try to relax. maybe the kids are bored. try to find something you can all do for fun.