my wife gave birth to a baby girl yesturday and my son olson is a mommas boy and gets upset wen his moms not home and dosn't play with him and when her and the baby gets home im worried that its going to be promble what can i do to get him to not act that way any ideas
2007-08-02 07:15:07 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Keep your little guy involved!!! Let him know he is a big part of the baby's life, he is important, and you still love him just as much as the new baby. Let him help get the clothes, diaper, toy, paci. whatever it is you need for baby that he is able to do. Then, let him know what it is you are doing for baby. "We are washing the baby's face. We are changing the baby's diaper. We are feeding the baby." Use the "we" so he feels like he is part of what you are doing.
Also, if he is a "momma's boy" you take time to be with the baby and let "momma" spend special time with her little guy. Don't push him to the back because there is a new little one. Let him know he is a big brother and that's something very special and he has special thing he can do to help his new little sister. Kids are smarter than we give them credit for.
Good luck and Congratulations on your new little one.
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Mommy of four-RN
2007-08-02 07:30:48 · answer #1 · answered by SweetPea 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All the things people have said are great. If he's really jealous though, keep an eye on him around the baby. Kids can be mean - without realizing the extent of what they are doing.
One thing that works, call it a bribe or whatever, but take him a present that is "all his" when you bring the baby home. Also, let him go pick out a stuffed animal or something to give the baby when it gets there. (The others are right, talk that baby up like it's the most wonderful thing thats happened since sliced bread...but also letting him know what a wonderful big brother he is now. How he will GET to help mom out with the baby, and let him see your example!) He needs to associate the baby with good things right from the start.
Long term... Saying "NO!" constantly makes them more apt to hate the baby, instead show him the right way to be gentle, and explain why the rough action can hurt the baby, with a manipulating "...and you don't want to hurt the baby, do you?"
Maybe sometimes you can take him out for something as simple as an ice cream cone, so that he looks forward to being out with someone besides mom.
You'll do fine, because you aren't afraid to ask for help.
May God keep his hand on you and your family.
2007-08-02 07:41:31 · answer #2 · answered by savannah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try and get him excited about the new baby sister! My son was two when his baby brother was born and we made it a huge deal that baby brother was coming home! My parents bought my two year old a new toy and told him that his baby brother got that for him! It was exciting to him..... Take him to go see mommy, and the new baby! He will be so excited about the new baby sister and playing with his new baby sister that he wont realize so much that he is not getting as much of Mommy's attention. Also make this time daddy and me time! He will adjust and be fine....... Good Luck and God Bless!
2007-08-02 07:26:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Show him how to play with toys by himself, and let him throw a fit for a few days.
jealousy is a learned thing, he can have feelings of jealousy, but that doesnt mean he's allowed to act on it.
As for being a mommas boy, that should have been handled earlier, but just get him involved in other activities, let him know that the new baby and mommy have to rest so they can play with him later.
He's a mommas boy because he's been allowed to be, just encourage him into other things.
2007-08-02 07:20:26 · answer #4 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain to him that he is the "Big Brother" now. That he is going to help protect and teach the baby. Take him shopping for a gift for mommy (and the baby). Make a t-shirt or button that says "I'm the big brother". Make him feel important but in a "big- boy / helper" kind of way.
2007-08-02 07:23:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal jealousy - try involving him with the baby so he understands he the big brother and has to protect her and stuff - spend some time with him away from mom so he gets used to doing things with both of you
2007-08-02 07:19:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Play with him and give him a lot of attention. he is feeling jealous because of the new baby. also let him hold the baby (if he is old enough) and you could even give him a duty with helping the baby. Like bringing a pacifier, toy, clean bottle, or diaper. Once he has a helpful job, he will feel more appreciated and less bothersome to yourself and your wife.
2007-08-02 07:18:43 · answer #7 · answered by Malina 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
make sure that you do not pay less attention to him when the baby comes home and make sure that he has plenty of time to be with his mom and the baby and ask him to help do things for the baby like getting a diaper so that he feels included...i hope this helps!!!
2007-08-02 07:24:33 · answer #8 · answered by Savannah's Mommy! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make sure you involve him in everything, really make a big deal of him being the "super big brother" and "mommas special helper" the more he feels needed the easier it will be on him give him special tasks to do that he can handle on his own and he will love it and feel like a big boy to
2007-08-02 07:19:50 · answer #9 · answered by Bambam 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My siblings still remember when I was born. My dad cooked hot dogs in a thermos (because it's funny, not because of incompetence) and they did some special thing. It got their minds off of mommy being gone.
2007-08-02 07:49:27 · answer #10 · answered by buterfly_2_lovely 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋