my two kids both sleep with me...3 & 2 years old...they have their own rooms but with no bed.. is that bad?
2007-08-02 16:32:29 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
they have a roof over their head? Love? food? clothes? if you answered yes to these then they are NOT being neglected. sounds like you got 2 snuggle bugs :)
2007-08-02 16:36:51 · answer #1 · answered by Nib 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
While not necessarily a bad thing, eventually they should have their own beds. My three year old still sleeps with me. I am however working on weening him so that I can have time alone and hopefully company one day.
Work on getting the kids a bed when you can afford them, I would suspect that you might get a tax refund buy them beds then, maybe they only sleep with you becasue that is the only place to be comforrtable, I sure know its better than a floor. My sister has to save for a down payment on a house and could not afford beds for her kids, she went to garage sales and used a temporary bed she found there. Eventually they had to get beds she bought she found that they enjoyed the blow up barbie and shrek beds until she could afford real beds (located at Wal-Mart @ about 35 dollars a piece).
2007-08-02 16:55:09 · answer #2 · answered by nene 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Its not neglect but it is bad parenting. I know you like sleeping near them, cuddling etc. But sleeping in a big boy bed is a big learning stepping stone. They should be sleeping through the night in their own beds by now. You are just setting yourself up for a hard time of getting them out of bed. Its a big developmental step. Its hard.... but you need to let them go...go sleep in another room that is!
Why not get bunk beds, or twin beds? That way, they wont be alone in the room which could allieve one concern you might have, and then theres the temptation of "sleepovers" and fun they can have together. I loved sharing a room with my sister. We bitched about it but we had so much fun. When we woke up in the morning we could crawl into bed with our parents to snuggle but that was like a treat in the morning. We knew bedtime, our bedroom. Why not put them in one room together for now and use the other as a playroom and then, when they are a bit older, they get their very own big, big-boyroom.
You really need to think about this. A child's psychological platform is laid before the age of 5.
2007-08-02 18:47:51 · answer #3 · answered by MonkeyMama 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
my boys didn't sleep in their own beds until recently (ages 4 and 2) and the pediatrician knew it and said it was my choice as a parent. They are happy and overall healthy and that is what matters. I bought them beds but they wouldn't sleep in them but if they are sleeping with you then they have a bed it is just yours. If you made them sleep on the floor that would probably be considered a problem but i don't even think that would count as neglect with childrens services
2007-08-02 16:37:19 · answer #4 · answered by momof3boys 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would not call it neglect but I would get them their own beds because they should have the choice. One day they will want their own space and eventually the three of you will run out of room!
2007-08-02 16:38:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not child neglect. But I have 5 children, and I let them each sleep in my bed until they were about 3 or 4 MONTHS. It's really bad ethic to let them sleep with you any long than that. You will probably never bed train them now.
2007-08-02 16:48:52 · answer #6 · answered by Shaina 1 · 2⤊ 3⤋
At times I ask myself, why did I buy my 2 year old daughter a bed when she always sleep in ours? Not having a bed for your kids is not neglect at all. As a matter of fact, it is financially smart since they sleep with you anyways. And it also increases the space that they can play in their room.
2007-08-02 17:01:37 · answer #7 · answered by atl_ace1 4 · 1⤊ 3⤋
They DO have a bed... a nice cozy one where they can snuggle up with mommy!! That's not neglecting them AT ALL... and anyone who tells you otherwise is just jealous of the fact that you have two people keeping you warm at night who will always love you unconditionally!! (better than a man if you ask me!)
2007-08-02 16:42:26 · answer #8 · answered by Laura 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
it is not good.actually in some states that is neglect.i hope you are not sleeping with a man also in that same bed.if your kids are afraid to be alone they could share a room together even.it is not a good idea to keep sharing your bed all the time with your kids.if you cannot afford beds for the kids contact the local community services of your local Seventh Day Adventist Church and tell them you need help providing your children with beds.good luck.
2007-08-02 16:44:56 · answer #9 · answered by dixie58 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
That is not child neglect, not having beds. You will buy them beds when they are ready and when you can afford to buy the right ones, I'm assuming....
2007-08-02 16:36:17 · answer #10 · answered by all_stardusty 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No its not neglect..they are still sleeping in a bed. They will get too big for it one day. Even if you get one queen have have them share..your fine
2007-08-02 16:36:01 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋