My cousin resently just had her 8th child. She and her husband have agreed they want, at the very lest, 10 to 12. They saiy they would be happier with like 20. I'm worried that they won't be able to suport all of them. So how many is too many?
2007-04-30 09:55:56 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
i think if they are happy and can support them than the more the merrier a child is a gift from god so each one is a blessing so i have no problem with people that have 20 kids as long as they are not using our tax dollars to take care of them
2007-04-30 11:06:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
The question of how many is too many varies between any group of people you talk to. Just like you and your cousin are not in agreement, someone else would say that two or three is the maximum number of children a couple should have.
The first and primary consideration should be the health of the mother and can she withstand all the pregnancies involved. The second consideration is how many children can they afford to care for, this includes food, clothing, education and incidental things. The third is do they have the space and the necessary transportation for a large number of children. And the last and most important thing is do they have the stamina and love in their hearts to provide a happy home for a large number of children?
My wife and I had three children and I have to admit they were more well behaved than the average child but there were times when I thought we had three too many children.
2007-04-30 17:49:55 · answer #2 · answered by don n 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I don't believe you can have too many children unless you can't care for them physically and emotionally. For some couples, 1 child is too many. For other couples, having many children is just what they want. We are fortunate in the United States to be able to choose how many children we want with no interference from the government. As moms get older and have more pregnancies, there is often a time that comes when their body just won't support another pregnancy. Your cousin and her husband may just well be that couple that has many biological children and then adopts more to make their family as complete as they want. I think large families are great. I only have 4 kids, but I would have been happy with more if my husband was willing.
2007-04-30 17:08:12 · answer #3 · answered by sevenofus 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how much money they make, how much time they have to spend with all of these kids and if they have the room and patients for so many children. I personally feel that you cant give so many children the induvidual attention they need, but thats just me. I have 4 kids and I feel thats a lot to handle. I also work full time so my situation is probably very different than your cousins. Look at the Dugger family. They seem happy and well adjusted with so many kids. I dont know how they do it. they live in a nice house, they go on vacations. they live a better life than I do, and they have over 20 kids.
I wish your cousin well with her rapidly growing family.
2007-04-30 17:21:28 · answer #4 · answered by eightieschick70 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, I suppose that as long as each child is getting plenty of attention and love. BUT if the children cannot be supported financially then they need to stop and realize it's not right or fair to make them go without just to fill some desire to have twenty kids. Maybe try counseling if they still feel the need to have more kids after 8.
2007-04-30 17:55:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
First...you need to realize that this is not your life. THis is your cousins...whatever happens with her should not affect you. If she wants 20 kids, you should be supportive...emotionally. Second, If they can't afford it down the long run, it's not your problem. They should have thought it all out before they had all the kids. But if they have the money, and they are happy, then they should be able to do what they want, and you should support that and be happy for them!
2007-04-30 17:13:25 · answer #6 · answered by Sarah N 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
They are already past too many. In the old days, kids were needed to work on farms. Children did not get the attention that they deserved. I know several families with 11 and 12 children (adults now). While they were not abused, it was children raising children because the parents were always working (either away from home or just cleaning, cooking and all).
One of the insurance companies in my state will now no longer allow families to have more than 5 children on their policy without paying additional premiums. It's unfair to those who only have 2 or 3 to have to pay for all those children, especially with the cost of medical care today.
2007-04-30 17:09:32 · answer #7 · answered by CarbonDated 7 · 0⤊ 5⤋
she is was past too many. i have a daughter, Isabella, and thats it. it also depends on how much money the family has to support they children and themselves. they could wind up bankrupt. They could lose the house, cars, everything...they should stop now while there already at it!
2007-04-30 18:04:54 · answer #8 · answered by JJ's Advice Column 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well if they have the money to support a big family let them.
2007-04-30 17:01:40 · answer #9 · answered by soopersmart 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
butt out, its their responisbilities not yours. I have five kids and i would have five more if i could afford, but i cant so i did the responsible thing and got my tubes tied. Trust they will be as responsible.
2007-04-30 19:04:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋