What should you do when your four year old can't stand to be around you?

Answer 1

Probably your four year old is just trying to establish his/her independence. Just continue to be loving and supportive. Allow him/her some extra space and try to keep in mind it's just a phase. You could try scheduling some fun activities for the two of you to do together (crafts, games, outings, etc). Just having constant positive interactions will help keep a good relationship going and strengthen your bond, but allowing the child space to feel grown up and independent should also help. Once they are done feeling grown up they will go back to normal and show their appreciation for you.

Answer 2

I really can't think of a single instance where a four year old couldn't stand to be around you.

Nothing good anyhow.

You're really going to have to provide more information. Are you not home much? Do you hit them or their mother? Yell often? Drink heavily?

I could speculate all day but it'd be nothing but assumptions about your character. Really going to need some more details and even then I doubt I'd get half the picture, much less the whole picture.

My only suggestion is to try and spend more quality time with them, and hey hopefully it's just a phase.

Answer 3

First, don't worry about it too much. Kids go through phases; for the first year of his life, my son really didn't have an interest in me, even though his twin sister was devoted to me, but now at 15 months he can't stay out of my arms.

Second, take a few moments to consider if there's a legitimate reason for it. Do you smoke? Your child might hate the smell. Do you behave erratically? Kids this age need firm and consistent boundaries and predictable behavior from you, and you might be an unsettling person to be around. Do you hit your kids or come home drunk? I wouldn't want to be around you, either. Do you throw your child in the air, even though he/she is begging for you to stop? That'll drive a kid away. Be honest with yourself.

Finally: perhaps they're mirroring another member of your family. Are you having marital problems? Does your significant other openly show you disdain and avoid you? Your child might be emulating that.

Good luck. Remember, everything is a phase. :)

Answer 4

I have a four year old son, and we hang out all the time. You have to start really early. Spend time with them, read to them intead of letting them watch TV. Do you scold alot? Maybe that's another reason. Be understanding and swallow those frustrating moments. He helps me out in the kitchen when we get home instead of running off to the TV. Have conversations with them, during private moments like baths, ride home from school etc. U'de be suprised how much understanding they have at this age.

Answer 5

PLAY WITH THEM TRY TO DO THINGS THAY LIKE TO DO. DONT FORCE THEM TO PLAY WITH U THO. MAYBE TRY TO SPOIL THEM A LIL BIT, 4 YEAR OLD ARNT STUPID THEY ARE PEOPLE AND THEY HAVE THEIR OWN OPINON AND FELLINGS ABOUT THINGS IF THAT DOESNT WORK JUST TRY ACTUALLY TALKING TO THEM AND ASK WHY MAYBE THERE IS A REASON THEY CANT STAND TO BE AROUND U. U MIGHT BE SURPRISED WHAT U FIND OUT

Answer 6

Are you dad or mom? My daughter went through not wanting anything to do with daddy it took a while for her to get over. I stay home & she did not want anything to do w/ my hubby whom works...ALOT. But he took more time to take her to the movies or out to lunch (just them ) she came around.

Answer 7

children get bored, that way its good to have them in a social environment, like taking them out daily to a park or inviting his friends over for the afternoon,

Answer 8

probably a phase! It will be back at age 13!

Answer 9

ouch, sounds like my son who loves me. He doesn't like to be around my husband. Mommy's boy! Keep trying, don't give up!

Answer 10

I would make him/her into shape and let them know you are awsome. Go to cheekie cheese or even mcdonalds play pen, and reword them when do something good. If that does not work, force them, or even whipp them into shape by spanking, tell them your the boss