Marriage & Divorce - 27 November 2007

My bf likes ’guys nite’ once a week…which would be fine every few weeks buts its once a week…NOW it wasn’t always this way…but nearing yr together now an it became clearer tat the girlies werent always wanted out 4the night. Which is okay, but when I am there I want my mans attention? but he feels as we see so much of each other normally tat wen were out in a group with his mates he will wana talk 2them rather than give me his attention. Eg..He’l be on other side of room talking 2his buddies &leave me with a few of his mates. I then get all jealous and moody as I feel im not out often with them, so when I am a bit of his attention would be nice!Its now@stage where I wont go out with them as i don’t wana make a scene! I know its silly,hes very good &patient about it all, but i want it to all stop as i want to be able to go out with them ¬ even WANT his constant attention-i am possessive/controlling but that 1nite a week i wana be able 2control MYSELF! Anyone got helpful advice for me

2007-11-27 23:30:16 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

You can say that I am consistently bad-mouthing you as a gender. I'm not. Just looking for reasons not to quit and give up.

You make fun of guys who live w/Mom. I dont...but if she is unable to take care of herself, why is it so wrong to move her into a spare bedroom? Ive read your posts about how this is a bad thing.

You want a guy who has a good enough job, can fix everything around the house, read to your kid and still talk out your problems with you. So why complain if we cant do one of those things?

Sensitive: weak. Putting boundries down: mean. Funny: insecure or slimy. Quiet: boring.

So this is what you want: a guy who dances w/you at the clubs when he's not working his steady job and not keeping in shape at the gym. Comes home and reads to the child you had w/someone else, "shares" but only about things that matter to you, doesnt have any interests that dont concern you or anything connected to you and gives you his paycheck.

I know, not all girls are like thi

2007-11-27 23:08:05 · 18 answers · asked by csiders30 4

If someone cheats or leaves you what is the best revenge. Or just the best thing you can do?

2007-11-27 22:51:53 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

My family friend for decades,7yrs best friends in love for yrs hasnt told me about his past.Only said he had ex-gf who got married had kids,he was in gang etc.This is my first bf or relationship.I want to know about his past not being nosy just to know him before marriage.We're to play truth or dare.Give questions for truth which i can ask to know about his past.Best questions get best answer 10points.

2007-11-27 22:51:04 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

i'm on disability and my doctor won't release me for two month!!! My disability pay is nothing. i have two children and am seperated from my husband who doesn't pay.He was paying but is on a break from the military. I have two kids and need more than disability any ideas. I'm afraid if i work for a check they won't hold my job which they are being nice and waiting on me to come back. Any ideas i have even though about avon.

2007-11-27 22:47:43 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

im really worried about her drinking probelm.

It's not that she drinks a lot on a daily basis. it's that there are a lot of family issues going on in her side of the family, i can't help her there because she believes that its a very personal issue (and theres also the fact that i don't speak chinese)

She only drinks usually when she's really down, which never happend a lot till now. I come home pretty late at night from my job, and during those days she visits her family, my first stop on the way home is our local bar where she's passed out in the table. then i gotta carry her home at about 2a.m. and tuck her in, then sleep.

Its really hard to keep doing this, the word "Rehab" makes her overprotective, so i try to be as helpful as i can during these times. Problem now is, the thought of having to take care of her every monday till this issue resolves makes it hard to hang on.

BTW: the bartender is a good friend of mine, he can't refuse to serve or delute his drinks, but he makes sure she's being watched for me

2007-11-27 22:43:47 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

is it better to cheat rather than divorce ,y r men afriad to get a divorce,if it is only sex that most cheat 4,y not spice things up with the wife,married men act like they respect thier holy vows but still cheat.i know about the cake and eating it 2 thing,but that sounds like such a stupid excuse 4 cheating.is temptation that hard 2 resist.or r they really affriad of somrthing else.what is the biggest fear y men stay in thier marriage.the kids,the money,the house,thats all old and tired excuses. tell the truth men...tell the truth.i used 2 b with a married guy and i ended it but he acted like his world was crushed and i did the worst thing in the world by leaving him.he begged,we faught.tires were slashed, vases ended over heads,the never ending threats from each other,it took months 4 him to leave.so after leaving him,i was lead 2 ask,is sex so bad in marriages that instead of making things work with the wife they would rather cheat.IS IT REALLY SEX,do tell or is there more to it

2007-11-27 22:43:24 · 14 answers · asked by kim27 2

wont get ahead just more and more behind.im worried as she has 2 small children

2007-11-27 22:35:28 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

My church says it is and it makes so much sense.

2007-11-27 22:24:58 · 26 answers · asked by Little Angel 1

My husband dont compliments me at all...and I just found that he been complimenting women here allot...and its really hurting me, feels like I am not attravtive at all...So i told him that i need a time and space that were going to seperated...and we have two kids. What should I do?

2007-11-27 22:12:37 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

he's 29-no kids never married. i am 28 with 3 little girls (ages 8,6,and 5) that i have part-time. we've had a few issues in the past-i was diagnosed with PMDD but now on meds and seeing a counselor-things are good.

we don't live together but i spend almost all of my time at his house (we both work nites Sun-Tues 7p-7a) and the kids just started spending the nite with me at his house on weekends. my cat is now staying at his house too.

we've discussed living together by Feb when my apt lease is up and marriage in future. his sisters and parents treat me like family (his oldest sister's kids call me aunt) and we're all very close.

he goes to all of my kids' events (cheer class,school events,etc) and helps me pick the kids up from school.

he's dropped proposal hints in the past but hasn't in about 6 months. should i expect something in the near future or wait it out another year since things seem to be moving along ok?

2007-11-27 22:11:29 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

Would u consider that as cheating?

2007-11-27 22:02:14 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

first,,,,3 kids-14 years and she was my friend...my ex's ''old'' lady is very ''j'' of me..and i am tired of it,,no matter what we are in each others lives for good!!( for my kids)..(thats it)''been there,,done that,,won't do it again..ne ways,,i told him just cause she would do her ex's ,,don't mean i would do mine..my kids bein involved with their dad is important to me,,i didn't have mine...their dad lives in diff''province and their phone calls have slowed down alot,,when they went to visit they came home like 1 1/2 months early,,cause she kicked them all out..they came home and then he went back...oh ya..he can only call,,when he is at her house...should and do i really deal with this kinda imaturity from her,,she is involved with her ex weekly (cause of her kids)..i don't think my kids ''happiness'' is worth her stupidness..i know the happiness i want and it ain't him (not at all)..so why all the b's from her,,she was my friend.. =(... i thought she would ''try'' with my kids.

2007-11-27 22:00:00 · 8 answers · asked by barp 1

we would argue over small, little, unimportant things.. like when i was asking for payment from someone who owed me money , i wrote ''where the hell is my payment'' and we fought because of that usage of word hell.. he also doesnt like me to have myspace or facebook because he said they are useless and stupid. there was a time he had facebook once so i wrote him sweet comments on his profile and the next day, he deleted his account! he was so unappreciative.. i also cannot watch porn because he said its a sin, he doesnt like me swearing or utter bad words etc.. hes a christian and he didnt show all this until we married..other than this flaws, hes kind, sweet, good provider and i know he loves me deeply.. shall i leave him? his narrow mindedness is killing me day after day..

2007-11-27 21:54:56 · 17 answers · asked by M 1

If so, how? I think sometimes men can expect too much and be too harsh.

2007-11-27 21:54:16 · 29 answers · asked by Little Angel 1

2007-11-27 21:46:48 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

When I try to approach her about it she immediately tries to turn the tables on me by saying I have a gambling problem. This may be true, but that is a completely different issue! What do I do!?

2007-11-27 21:34:23 · 23 answers · asked by Jimbo 1

are you in favor or against divorce? and why?!?

2007-11-27 21:02:14 · 24 answers · asked by Hanna M 1

Hello,

I would never cheat on my husband and I love him so much, but I really fancy Bruce Campbell (the film star) and fantasize about him.

I feel guilty for thinking this, but he's so gorgeous...I feel like this is like cheating, fantasizing about another man. Does it not matter though as it's a filmstar??

2007-11-27 20:50:46 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband works away all week home at weekends. Whilst away at night when he goes out for a pint, he switches his phone off. If i get upset he will switch it off all night so he says we dont argue. I dont know which area he works and only allowed his mobilie number, so i no other way of contactin him. When he is home, we get on very well, only thin is we dont have a love life. He says he wants me but sexually never feels like it, it is the way he is. Before we married our sex life was fine.I have tried every trick in the book, he wont go to counsellin cause he says there is nothin wrong, it is the way he is. sex four times in two half years is not a lot with your husband. I asked about an affair, he nows says im parnoid and sick in head and need help. Am i mad?

2007-11-27 20:33:26 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

i felt bad everytime i spoke to my husband about money,what will i do?

2007-11-27 20:32:59 · 15 answers · asked by Joanne W 1

how can i prove to my self that i can do everything?

2007-11-27 20:27:15 · 10 answers · asked by Joanne W 1

I have been dating my girlfriend for 3 years and am looking to pop the question over the Christmas break (we are both college students graduating in may). I could pop the question as soon as she gets off the plane from visiting her mother over Christmas, or I could wait until she gets back and do it somewhere else after a nice dinner.

So my question is:
Where do I ask her?
When should I ask her? (Christmas day is out... she doesn't get back till new years eve)
If I should do the traditional romantic dinner, where should we do it?

2007-11-27 20:24:53 · 4 answers · asked by eck_03 4

My ex had naked fotos of a female friend whom he also works with and when i found them, dumped him.

He's now calling and says it wasn't an affair. She sent them to him and he just hadn't got around to deleting them. I'm not buying it but do wonder.

I mean, I would never send such pix of myself to anyone, not even him. But does that mean that if she did, they're not necessarily having an affair?

Either way, I still think it's inappropriate. Am I alone in thinking that?

2007-11-27 20:04:34 · 36 answers · asked by noodlemcgoo 1

I have noticed things coming up missing in my home then I thought it might be my daughter, I got her in a good rehab. last yr she is doing drugs, well over the summer i caught her stealing money, and my meds. well this fall my husband is missing all kinds of power tools, we went to the police and and they are investigating, well my husbands collects collector HO trains well thousands of dollars are gone in train engines and i talked to some of there friend and they fessed up her husband took them and trying to sell them for drugs, my husband is crushed he has been collecting them for 30 yrs and me and him just been married 4 yrs I called the police again, and they wont do nothing please help what do i do my husband wants to beat him to death, but what hurts so bad my daughter was involved, and she is 7 months pregnant and she has only been married 1 yr he was a piece of **** then and he is now we have done so much for them , she called the cops on me today for phone hurrassment.

2007-11-27 19:40:42 · 11 answers · asked by Warm_Hearted 2

Used to have it all the time then about 6 years ago we went to once a month which then dwindled to virtually never. Last time we actually had penetrative sex was over a year ago and the last time he actually came was over 5 years ago now.
Obviously there is something wrong. We are both in our 30's. He won't talk to me about it and i feel like a nympho if I even suggest it. What can I do?

2007-11-27 19:17:22 · 28 answers · asked by Kurious Kat 1

my husband dont know that I am here too..i am actaully spying him...most of his answer here are answering question to women how they look like..do i need help or him?

2007-11-27 19:14:43 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

do some men and women have such a problem with it? I have a couple of friends that think it would be the end of the world if they split up with their spouses, even though they are in bad marriages. I just did not want to be married to her any more so I divorced her, it was very easy. Why is it so hard for people to leave a bad situation? It really made my life easier and much better.

2007-11-27 19:06:37 · 5 answers · asked by All Knowing 4

Let me start by saying, This is a new name for privacy reasons.I am not a troll..I need help.

I have been with my husband for 13 years, married 11. Over the past couple of years things have gone from bad to worse. He is all the time calling me lazy, stupid, dumb btch, along with many others..Just tonight he called me lazy cause i didnt want to go to the store for him. He says i never do anything yet I am the one cooking,cleaning,taking care of kids, helping with homework ect..

Yet this man, works nights, comes in at 6am, sleeps, gets up and leave and stays out with buddies or hunting until time to go to work again

Tonight, I just snapped, I had enough of the verbal and i hit him, in the chest and told him im sick of this..I think it just stunned him cause he just left the house and went to work.

This worries me because i am not a violent person, i just had enough.

I know i need to leave but have no job and no family i can stay with...

I need suggestions!!

2007-11-27 18:42:49 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

My love and I have been through hell and back with each other and both feel that we should just wipe the slate clean and start over, you know.....start new memories to erase the old ones. The problem is, the past always has a way of sneaking up on us and it tries to cause problems. We've both did our share of misbehaving, but we're wiser and more mature now. Nothing would make us happier than acting as if the things that we have dealt with never happened but it is way easier said than done. What are some ways that we can stop ourselves from dwelling on the past. We really love each other and we've both done a lot of growing up. We also have a daughter on the way and we really want to be a loving family. Please help us, what are some ways that you all lost focus on the past?

2007-11-27 18:39:08 · 9 answers · asked by Tnisha 1