When I try to approach her about it she immediately tries to turn the tables on me by saying I have a gambling problem. This may be true, but that is a completely different issue! What do I do!?
2007-11-27 21:34:23 · 23 answers · asked by Jimbo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
attend to your issue then ask her again, dont critise
2007-11-27 21:37:01 · answer #1 · answered by bilbobagsend 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all my deepest sympathy and empathy!! I went through life with a father that has a drinking problem. Secondly unless she is willing to admit to you she has a problem, stop wasting your time because no matter what you do, she will fight you and go right back. Get her to admit the problerm then half the battle has been won. Get help - professional for you both.
Your gambling might not seem to be the same but addiction is addictioj - regardless of what yoyu might think
2007-11-27 21:49:59 · answer #2 · answered by CLEVER 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are both on the Highway to Hell, and I shall meet you no doubt at the "Penniless P Head" Hotel en route to our destination.
She is killing herself, slowly and surely, maybe without intention, but she will probably get worse.
You are killing your future, both together, and also as an individual.
Any addiction is a problem, and denial just builds upon itself.
"I drink because you gamble"
"I gamble because you drink"
"I've stopped drinking"
"I bet you haven't"
"I won... Cheers"
"I bet you won't have another one"
"Too right... I'll have 3 or 4"
"I bet you just can't stick to one"
"Oh... I didn't tell you did I?"
"Tell me what?"
"What are the odds of us splitting up?"
"50/50 or phone a friend?"
You BOTH need help.
2007-11-27 21:50:53 · answer #3 · answered by MikeD2 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's a very difficult problem you got,
try to explain to her the problem, she has to see the problem by herself, the consequence.
Your gambling problem is another issue, but it's similar, you must make effort too, to show the good way to her...
Easy to say, but difficult to do, so if all your try dont work, try with her friends, mother, etc.... and if the problem still here. dont hesitate to get help by a doctor.
I hope my advices will help you.
Good Luck
2007-11-27 21:42:50 · answer #4 · answered by Laurent 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You acknowledge you have a problem with gambling so you MUST QUIT! Try gamblers anonymous. While you get treatment for your addiction you will learn how to help her with hers. Go from there. Good luck.
2007-11-28 05:42:12 · answer #5 · answered by mikey_fiveoh 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make a deal with her that if she gives up the drinking you will give your gambling problem up.I really hope you can work this out.Big problems in a marriage .Gambling and drinking.
2007-11-27 21:46:58 · answer #6 · answered by embellishment3 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are both weaknesses that often have similar beginnings. Tell her that you are going to seek help for your problem if you are ready to, so long as she seeks help for hers. But if you do truly have a gambling problem you should seek help... At the very least it will show her you are committed to self improvement.
2007-11-27 21:39:52 · answer #7 · answered by doughnut 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can I move in with you guys? I like to drink AND gamble!
2007-11-27 21:56:09 · answer #8 · answered by ferris2001mt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both need help!! Try getting counseling for both of you!! Both issues will ruin your lives. I live near gambling and drinking. I have seen both destroy relationships and marriages, even put people in financial ruins!!!!
2007-11-27 21:37:29 · answer #9 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You both need counseling! That can help you. You need to make a pact, no more gambling and no more drinking!!<33
2007-11-27 21:39:06 · answer #10 · answered by ♥♥Mommy to 2 Divas♥♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem is not drinking or gambling. You do have a problem it is called marriage LMAO good luck!!!
2007-11-28 00:31:49 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋