My bf likes ’guys nite’ once a week…which would be fine every few weeks buts its once a week…NOW it wasn’t always this way…but nearing yr together now an it became clearer tat the girlies werent always wanted out 4the night. Which is okay, but when I am there I want my mans attention? but he feels as we see so much of each other normally tat wen were out in a group with his mates he will wana talk 2them rather than give me his attention. Eg..He’l be on other side of room talking 2his buddies &leave me with a few of his mates. I then get all jealous and moody as I feel im not out often with them, so when I am a bit of his attention would be nice!Its now@stage where I wont go out with them as i don’t wana make a scene! I know its silly,hes very good &patient about it all, but i want it to all stop as i want to be able to go out with them ¬ even WANT his constant attention-i am possessive/controlling but that 1nite a week i wana be able 2control MYSELF! Anyone got helpful advice for me
2007-11-27 23:30:16 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
ok, you need to stop going. Its called guys night for a reason. You cant spend every waking second with your boyfriend. If you want this relationship to last longer, you better start having some girlfriends and spending time with them. The only way to have a healthy relationship is to also have friends. You need to learn this sooner then later. Get some girlfriends and that one night a week, go out with friends. Being possessive and controlling is not an attractive quality to have. Show your boyfriend you are fine with it and have your own life too. That is much more attractive.
2007-11-28 00:07:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry... you won't like my answer, but here it is. If you are that possessive and controlling, you are NOT endearing yourself to anybody being that way. So he wants one night a week with his friends...big freaking deal. I don't get this attitude some woman have... it really shows how immature you are .. sorry, but thats it in a nutshell honey. If he is with you all the other time, and you can't even give him one night out?? And if you go with him, you want all his attention as well?? I would dump you in a New York minute...
2007-11-28 07:39:47 · answer #2 · answered by Racer 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not only are you possessive and controlling you are young and dumb. "Guy's night out once a week" actually means he is seeing his mistress at least once a week. I know your man is special and he would never do that because he is so great. I know your man would never cheat. I have heard that 10,000 times and in my life women have been wrong 10,000 times. I know he probably took you out with the guys a few times but that is so you would believe him. Before you make any other decisions in life you need a few facts that you obviously have not learned yet:
1. There is no Santa
2. All men cheat, almost all women cheat
3. Marriage sucks
4. Everyone lies (you even lie to yourself)
5. Life is not fair
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2007-11-28 07:57:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
How about Grow up. If you are out in a group and he has friends and you have friends, I don't see why you have such a problem with him talking to his friends. It is called jealousy, and you better learn to control it before he isn't so patient about it anymore. As you say, he is a good guy. If you can't control yourself, then you are better off to let him go without you.
2007-11-28 07:55:09 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You both need a life seperate from each other. As most relationships don't work out for long periods keep your friends close, not to bother him, but to keep your own identity. He is setting the example for you to follow. Independence in a relationship is a good thing. We aren't so needy that way.
2007-11-28 07:43:34 · answer #5 · answered by Sue 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need to grow up.... in every relationship the guys need their time just like women need our time... i honestly dont see it as a problem with him hangin out with the guys once a week...its a good stress releiver from the every day rush, of work, family, yes even you...its called taking a break...and you need to learn to control your possessiveness and your controlling issues... the world doesnt revolve around you and you need to get your head out of the clouds and have a serious reality check
2007-11-28 08:18:50 · answer #6 · answered by eyesicyblue 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are insecure, and need to plan a girl's night out on the nights that he goes out! If you can't handle him being across the room, you really need to readjust your attitude. you will eventually run him off. Way too needy!!!!
2007-11-28 07:35:49 · answer #7 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Grow up
2007-11-28 07:36:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
He doesn't have a problem seeing his friends often and whining about that. Dump the whiny boy.
2007-11-28 07:35:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋