im really worried about her drinking probelm.
It's not that she drinks a lot on a daily basis. it's that there are a lot of family issues going on in her side of the family, i can't help her there because she believes that its a very personal issue (and theres also the fact that i don't speak chinese)
She only drinks usually when she's really down, which never happend a lot till now. I come home pretty late at night from my job, and during those days she visits her family, my first stop on the way home is our local bar where she's passed out in the table. then i gotta carry her home at about 2a.m. and tuck her in, then sleep.
Its really hard to keep doing this, the word "Rehab" makes her overprotective, so i try to be as helpful as i can during these times. Problem now is, the thought of having to take care of her every monday till this issue resolves makes it hard to hang on.
BTW: the bartender is a good friend of mine, he can't refuse to serve or delute his drinks, but he makes sure she's being watched for me
2007-11-27 22:43:47 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Tell her that she needs help, and get her some!!!! Otherwise, it will get worse!!
2007-11-27 22:49:49 · answer #1 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you talk to your wife about the reason of her drinking? Maybe there is a problem between you and her that she did not express with out you knowing. Try to talk to her and let her see the situation from your perspectives. Let her express the her feeling without interrupting her in that way you and her can really talk to a deeper end and find out the real problem.
Is this happened a lot or how many times did she did this? Passing away one time is not reason enough to put her in rehab. Set a day and have time to her, that's what husband for. In sickness and in health you will support each other til death do you part. I do hope you will find solution for this.
2007-11-28 07:54:36 · answer #2 · answered by Mabel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your wife has a very serious problem. Anyway you look at it she needs help either trough AAA or some other method. You need to lay down the law with her that she can not keep going on like this while you are trying to have a relationship with her. At this point she is working herself to become a none productive looser in our social structure. If she values your marriage then she needs to do a turn around now, otherwise all I see in the horizon is divorce.
2007-11-28 06:54:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if the problem is her family.Then maybe she should stay away from them for a while.As far as her drinking.What way is that helping the problem.The bar tender can refuse to serve her if he wanted to.Maybe she needs a wake up call.I know it sounds cruel,but maybe if you wouldn't pick her up and carry her home and let her deal with monday thing on her own.She might wake up a little.Hope things work out.
2007-11-28 07:06:48 · answer #4 · answered by lollypop 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would help if you understood the stress she's under. Knowing the reasons that she has turned to alcohol can help you to help her. Learning the method 'EFT' can really help you to help her, if you learn to do it effectively, and she isn't resistant to the help. To be effective, you need to understand the situation pretty well... I suggest reading the following articles listed, then surfing Gary Craig's EFT Web site, where you can read about EFT helping people with varius addictions, & get free instructions on how to do EFT for her, & yourself. Put
2007-11-28 07:00:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
who has time to sit and BABYSIT a grown butt woman who dosent want to get help for her family issues. you cant help her if she doesnt want it and if she cant help herself. she needs to grow up and you need to stop enabling her. you need to talk to her family or tell her that she needs to get some help for her alcohol problem whether she wants to her it or not. she has a problem and you both need to face it head on. you cant continue to pick her up from the local bar. how embarrassing is that. seek some family/marriage counseling, but she needs to face the issues head on and drinking is not the answer. GodBless
2007-11-28 07:22:58 · answer #6 · answered by Crystal G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs help. Medical and emotional support. I am sure you can bring her back to her normal ways by your love and support and she will never forget you for that. Take her to a counsilling centre. All the best.
2007-11-28 06:52:46 · answer #7 · answered by Mannu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quit going to pick her up --- leave her passed out *** until she can get herself home. She needs to realize she has a problem you already know it. When she realizes she needs help she will get it!
2007-11-28 13:30:46 · answer #8 · answered by mikey_fiveoh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should of left her right where she was and when she sobered up told her this is not acceptable to you and she needs to make a choice....alcohol or you because she isn't getting both.
2007-11-28 07:27:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her keep drinking she has every right to she is married.
2007-11-28 08:03:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
make sure she knows you love her and the two of you come frist . take her on a trip
2007-11-28 07:07:17 · answer #11 · answered by chuck k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋