Marriage & Divorce - 27 November 2007

I am currently dating a woman with a young child. She has been divorced for around 3 years now and the ex husband plays little role in the upbringing of his son. I've noticed how defiant the son has gotten over the last year we've been seeing each other - temper tantrums, not listening, completely ignores his mother's wishes and even goes as far as hitting her with fists, and any other objects he can throw at her. Coming into a scenario like this, it bothers me to see her son acting out this way, however I recognize the fact that I am not the child's father, nor do I want to be. What role I do play is that of a male figure he can look up to. I am curious if anyone out there has any "non invasive" advice where I can assist my girlfriend in toning down her son's violent tendencies without over stepping my bounds.

2007-11-27 13:55:37 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

i keep on asking my boyfriend who he love most,me or his live in partner were she's in abroad ,and he keeps on teeling me that he's feeling for us is the same.
should i beleive him?

2007-11-27 13:55:20 · 6 answers · asked by yvon 1

2007-11-27 13:47:12 · 10 answers · asked by the evil1 3

It is not like I am against pornography, I just feel like every time I glance over at his computer screen, he is scoping out (hetero) porn. We have been married 5 months and have no children. I try to open myself up once and awhile to sharing with him and the porn, but it just seems constant. Not to completely over-share, but I am always feeling (and expressing to him) that I want sex. He says that he is too tired or doesn't have time rather frequently. Any thoughts I will consider helpful.

2007-11-27 13:45:08 · 11 answers · asked by Misa K 1

This person is clinically depress and I been trying to think of positive things to say, I care about this person just as I do everyfriend. This person accepts what I say; however, he uses the dreadful "but". This person doesn't like therapy becuase he says it doesn't last. I don't give out what fuels this depressing. Help please. One more thing: He somewhat believes in God.

2007-11-27 13:43:42 · 4 answers · asked by Yoboking 3

but i want to know if he is cheating on me as we are not divorced. Plus after 3 yrs i feel used for a greencard two months after he got it he left. I really think i want to know because i just want to see if it was the greencard or cheating after three yrs you want to know why it's over. The strange thing is it is over even though we are not divorced. Why do i want to know so badly it's driving me nuts.

2007-11-27 13:33:54 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

His ex loves to spend extravagantly, and we cannot afford her tastes, what is a reasonable amount to spend on a jacket?

2007-11-27 13:29:12 · 28 answers · asked by Brown eyed girl 7

Been married 15 years, 4 great kids. Great life till my husband got hurt at work (fireman) and became addicted to vicodin..... for the last 3 years we have dealt with re-habs and legal problems. He is now serving an 8 year prison sentence. Now I am a single mom, never thought this could happen to a "strong member" of the church. Do I stay with him?

2007-11-27 13:27:17 · 8 answers · asked by hopeful 1

This morning, we were to be in court and she did not show up. I called her to remind her last night and she told me she was in another state. I found out just now she was here in town through her aunt. She just did not go to court. This was for Non-support. She has not paid any of her child support since I was awarded custody. What happens next? I can prove she was in our town. She does have a few warrants out for her arrest.

2007-11-27 13:24:57 · 15 answers · asked by Bones 5

the sexual intercourse getting less than the first time of marrage...so that makes the wife confused..(why he didnt love sex as much as before)...etc

2007-11-27 13:19:51 · 15 answers · asked by always_need_you 1

2007-11-27 13:17:03 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

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2007-11-27 13:13:54 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

I had the hardest time trusting again after I deside to divorce my ex. I gave my self time to heal and now after many years of been single ,I aloud my self to date again.I am starting to suspect that this knew person is also capable of been abusive,but what if I am over reacting because of my past. P.S. excuse my spelling ,english is my secong lenguage-thanks in advance for your help

2007-11-27 13:09:34 · 8 answers · asked by Canela 3

I am so excited, but my friends and family seem disinterested in this news because of our history. It's hard for them to be happy for me when (I'm guessing) they have doubts it will work out in the long run. I don't have doubts, but I get caught up in what everyone else thinks. The biggest reason why we broke up in the past was because I wanted to get married and he wasn't ready. I have been staying with my parents for the past several months. Since then he had a wake up call and is ready to commit. I think he's even more excited about this than I am - if that's even possible..
So, is this just one of those situations where I have to go it alone until everyone realizes this is for real? Do I set them all straight and tell them how I feel?
It would be great if they could be excited and happy with me.

2007-11-27 13:08:58 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

Okay people today is my 33rd birthday. I am as sick as a dog... very bad cold. My husband got home from work around 5:15. He did not bring/give me anything! He did give me a hug and said Happy Birthday... but that's it. Then he asked me what I had made for dinner. Should I be upset... or am I taking it to the extreme?

2007-11-27 13:07:07 · 27 answers · asked by iwish4love 4

I rescently found out that my wife of 6 years has gambled away all of the money in my account, her account and maxed out every credit card we have. All together adding up to over 20,000. After I investigated into it she has been doing this for over a year now. I feel very betrayed almost like as if she has been living another life I didn't know about. We have 2 kids, a house, and a dog together. I dont even know if I love her anymore how can I tell. She begged me for the past 2 days not to leave her and that she will never step foot in a casino again, but how can I trust someone who has lied to me for over a year. I am really lost and dont know what to do any help would be appreciated.

2007-11-27 13:05:56 · 12 answers · asked by Robert 2

My husband cheated on me for almost a year and completely neglected me. He always looked at me in the eyes and lied to me everytime I asked him if he was having an affair because I knew there was something going on. We have a small baby and he wants to come see him every day. I told him I don't want him to come to my house, the less I see him or hear from him, the better. We were supposed to go on vacation in a few weeks but since I have discovered that he was a cheater and a liar and I have decided to divorce him, I have told him to forget about spending our vacation time together. He still wants us to go on vacation together, he is calling me and asking me to forgive him and give him a second chance. I love him but I feel so hurt that I find extremely difficult to trust him again. Does he deserve a second chance?

2007-11-27 13:05:32 · 18 answers · asked by thatgirl 1

I am newly separated from my husband, and a friend is interested in me. I told him to wait because I need a lot of time to myself. He said okay and that was yesterday morning.
Yesterday evening when I got home I went online and chatted in religion chatrooms like normal and he came online and we didn't IM. Instead I kept chatting. He soon signed off, and I did too. Today, I got home from work to find this e-mail from him saying, "if you needed to be alone, then why are you in chatrooms, I dont think i understand you anymore, I am losing feelings for you" and I said to him that I am entitled to time alone, I can chat and do what i want. He said to me in another e-mail that I can take a year. I said, I will. When I called him phone he did the childish thing, he didn't even pick up and I know he's sitting there.

Is this controlling or what? I don't need this chit. Any advice? See if he and I can talk, or say fuggit?

2007-11-27 12:49:42 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

cant't stand the fact that my dad cheeted on my mom, and to top it off him and his hoe are living together, whenever i see them together i cant even look at them. do i forgive and forget ?

2007-11-27 12:48:23 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

Can she interfere with the time and financial support that I spend with my other kids? I've screwed up in my life in more ways than one, I just hate the idea of not being to be there for child that my girlfriend is presently carrying. I missed out on all my kids' best years because I was going to school and working two some times three jobs. It scares the heck out of me, not being there for the latest. I wasn't planning on this. I never wanted to have more kids, but it happened cuz my freaking sperm is apparently too sticky. My other kids were all born over 7 years ago when I was too dumb and messed up. I wanna be a full time dad for her so badly but if my other kids are gonna get screwed over then I'm not sure what I'm supposed to do.

2007-11-27 12:46:14 · 9 answers · asked by Sean 2

My husband and I are getting ready to go through a seperation. I told him that he has 30 days to pack all of his stuff and move out of our apartment. He told me that if I kick him out that he would hunt me down, and kill me. I told him that I would have the locks changed and have a restraining order against him, and he just laughed. He said that if he couldn't be with me no one could be with me. I have had him arrested before and he came back again. His parents think that we just need time apart and we will learn to appreciate each others company, I believe that my life is in danger if we stay together. I have tried leaving him before and that did not work. So is there any other possible thing that I could do?

2007-11-27 12:44:53 · 13 answers · asked by Jordan Is My Love 3

I went to a friend of mines Myspace page today. Her husband in the military and she had posted a blog about cheating due to being deployed with those of the opposite sex. I've been divorced for two years now but was married to my high school sweetheart for almost 8 years. One particular person had responded to the blog saying, "I totally understand. Cheating is horrible! I could NEVER pursue a married man. I think that's the worst thing a woman can do." What struck me as ironic in this is that my ex-husband used to work with her when we first were married. We had been married a year and I was 8 months pregnant with my daughter, and later found out that she had 'pleasured him orally' at that time. I think it's such bull to be such a hypocrit! Although I've moved past that whole time in my life, this really aggravated me. I have made mistakes...and I admit them. Doesn't anyone have enough character to be honest anymore? Am I the only person who is still REAL?

2007-11-27 12:40:31 · 17 answers · asked by Paranormal Investigator in Ohio 2

explain what do you like in your real relationships from your partner..what are your expectations? how does he/ she make you feel secure?..No general answers pleas I need details..I need to know what does a healthy, and real relationship look like...be reasonable.

2007-11-27 12:37:50 · 16 answers · asked by Paris 1

Could you married people please tell me how you met your spouses?? How does one actually find their true soulmate?

2007-11-27 12:31:04 · 26 answers · asked by mellisa 2

2007-11-27 12:26:44 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

Seems like many women(even men) are catty towards each other and cannot accept females as authority figures.
Cause if that wasnt the case there would have been at LEAST 1 woman President in America since the year America, land of the free and equal was born.

Over 200 years of "free and equal" and no woman President yet? hmmmmmmmmmmmm interesting. And for those who are slow and will point out that women havent had the right to vote until recently...........THAT's my point. It isnt free and equal then is it?????

2007-11-27 12:25:10 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

i married a woman who was a virgin.we just got back from our honeymoon but i noticed whenever we have sex she just lays there and stares at the ceiling.its not enjoyable for me and when im done she rolls over and goes to sleep.
what do you think is wrong?

2007-11-27 12:19:26 · 19 answers · asked by .i. 1

My partner over the last few months, after he got brave enough to hire an adult movie, seems to be watching it on a regular basis. At first i didn't mind, but watching it i think it degrades the real meaning of sex. They shag either other, they dont love each other. And they do all these fantasy things like girl on girl etc. My boyfriend used to like the innocent types, but now it seems he thinks strippers aren't 'sluts' and even got a number from a 'bi' one saying shes a 'cool' chick and might be a good friend. I put my foot down about that but iam wondering if watching porn is corrupting him and hes confusing it with the real world.. as i could not see the old him even wanting to give a stripper the time of day rather than getting her number. what do u think and how could i discourage the movies without controling.

2007-11-27 12:18:12 · 5 answers · asked by jiveybaby 1

I have 3 kids and seems like one of them has had issues here lately that has required my immediate attention and I have missed a few days of work. Do you ever feel worried that you will be written up or fired for putting your kids first?

2007-11-27 12:17:02 · 3 answers · asked by firecracker 4

2007-11-27 12:13:58 · 16 answers · asked by melie_rea_1 1