I am so excited, but my friends and family seem disinterested in this news because of our history. It's hard for them to be happy for me when (I'm guessing) they have doubts it will work out in the long run. I don't have doubts, but I get caught up in what everyone else thinks. The biggest reason why we broke up in the past was because I wanted to get married and he wasn't ready. I have been staying with my parents for the past several months. Since then he had a wake up call and is ready to commit. I think he's even more excited about this than I am - if that's even possible..
So, is this just one of those situations where I have to go it alone until everyone realizes this is for real? Do I set them all straight and tell them how I feel?
It would be great if they could be excited and happy with me.
2007-11-27 13:08:58 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You can't force people to be happy for you or even understand your situation. So be excited and they will come around when they see that this is for real. Trust is earned once your family and friends see that he is serious and they begin to trust him they will get on board.
2007-11-27 13:17:10 · answer #1 · answered by YUMMY1 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Open your eyes really wide and take a very very good look at things now. Think about your past on and off thing. Maybe he wants things to be nice for christmas and will get cold feet again. Usually if your family knows and loves you , if they are not enthusiastic about a relationship, they have good reason. If he has truly changed, it may take years for them to see that and open up to his joining your family. Be sure that you and your guy have a place of your own to live in after the wedding.
2007-11-27 21:29:00 · answer #2 · answered by plaplant8 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has to prove himself to your family and friends and really show them he is serious and ready to commit to you for the rest of your lives. Your family probably thinks he doesn't understand what he's asking you to do. And since you broke up because he wasn't ready to commit, I can see why they would be skeptical. Stay on your toes and stay engaged for a little while before tying the knot. Good luck!
2007-11-27 21:24:47 · answer #3 · answered by cindos_69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only one who can live your life is you. So who cares whether or not others are happy about the decision you've made.
It's good he told you he wasn't ready to commit. Shows he can be honest about his feelings.
No way to really tell if you're doing the right thing, yes, it's one of those things that only time will tell if it's the real thing or not. Just live your life, advice or opinions of others should be listened to just take what you want and leave the rest and if they get pissed , that's their problem not yours. Good luck to you both.
2007-11-27 21:44:45 · answer #4 · answered by sweetepetey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes people get tired of drama and turbulance in life... and your relationship seems like it was full of both.
i probably wouldn't be excited either.
perhaps you and your boyfriend could put a check on your emotional maturity, and you might also stop trying to pressure and control him (such as when you tried to get him to marry you so much -- that's not good).
Maybe if you have a long engagement and you both act like grown ups and get along, solve your problems rationally, your family will "see" by your actions that it's for real.
Talking it up to them isn't going to convince them at all.
2007-11-27 21:27:20 · answer #5 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They love you and want to protect you...
I would not "set them straight"...
I might say something like "I wish you could be more excited for me and my upcoming wedding, and I understand you worry about me and want to make sure I am OK"
Then give them time to see how you and he have matured and how your relationship has matured and grown... without pointing it out in an obvious way (actions speak louder than words).
Good luck with your wedding and marriage!!
2007-11-27 21:21:45 · answer #6 · answered by Gatubella 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and your boyfriend can be very excited but you can't blame your family and friends for being skeptical.
Give them some time and as things progress they'll get on board.
2007-11-27 21:14:50 · answer #7 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love makes you blind. Find out why your friends and family aren't excited. They probably have valid concerns.
2007-11-27 21:49:53 · answer #8 · answered by Jill 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is on again off again I can understand why, but its not up to them to show enthusiasm its up to you to love your man and vica versa so don't worry about the others just you and your relationship.
2007-11-27 21:22:15 · answer #9 · answered by BILL 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋