Anyone who is mature, wisdom and experienced ,Need your Advice!?

Question

explain what do you like in your real relationships from your partner..what are your expectations? how does he/ she make you feel secure?..No general answers pleas I need details..I need to know what does a healthy, and real relationship look like...be reasonable.

No answrs like "great, awsome, wonderfull ,etc, like that, thats pretty childish answer, be reasonable.

Answer 1

Great question!
Next to me is the safest place on earth for her as she has that type of trust in me and I have always shown her respect and she I. We make each other laugh-often. We do not argue about money as we discuss everything regularly. I trust her by her words and mostly by her actions. If we have strong feelings about something with the other person we are always welcome to discuss it with each other and that requires total focus during our conversations. I take the time to listen to her tell me every detail of any given event when she feels like it and I share in her experience of "whatever" and she mine. We have plenty of alone time/down time to stay sane.

We have never called each other foul names-though we have both felt like it from time to time but refuse to treat each other that way. I have had plenty of relationships along the way and have been in a relationship where we did call names and get plenty angry and oh my God that was so very miserable, at least part of the time. We can all use the love and support of our mates, friends, and strangers.
Counseling is always good to for you and yours!

Verbalize all expectations and all expectation failures. Be clear on where each other stand on these key points.
How exclusive is the relationship-where do you both want to go with it?
Are you sure you're both at the same place in your life when it comes to the future you want?
How will you spend your free time outside of work-alone together or with friends-and doing what?
How do you want to live-at what level be comfy-if at all?
Ever discussed you ideas on God and church and what about politics?

You should feel safest and the most loved and cared for woman on earth with the right guy. We can be trained very little, sometimes, as can the lady folk, but some people learn to compromise and everybody gets enough of what they need.
Be kind to yourself and accept no less from anyone!
Bc

Answer 2

In a real relationship, while it has moments of difficulties, the partners do not threaten to leave or hurl insults or "hit below the belt".

There is a basic sense of respect, awe and admiration coming from each partner for the other.

They embrace their sense of obligation to each other in joy. They try to give more than they get/expect. They forgive each other's small transgressions. They laugh and help each other grow. They take care of each other, always looking for the small and apparently insignificant details that make it fun to be together.

They support each other during difficult times.. and they cannot imagine there ever being something they would not do for their other (assuming it was legal).

With years, they grow a closeness and intimacy that is apparent to others around them, like they share a sweet and delicious secret...

They take care of themselves and each other to help ensure a long and healthy life together. They chose to do things that support the relationship and bring them closer together rather than do things that may damage their partnership.

They flirt and have a passion for each other... they are physical, hold hands, hug, touch each other a lot...

They care enough to give each other space and freedom to move around their own interests without forcing each other to participate if it is not "their thing". By the same token, they also make an effort to participate in each other's passions for something...sports, causes, etc.

They make a concerted effort to spend regular, fun and meaningful time together. They cannot imagine life without the other... and cannot remember their life before the other.

They are each other's biggest fans and still challenge each other to become the best they can be. They inspire each other so each partner wants to be better because of their mate.

They trust each other and they rely on each other... if they wonder about something, they ask and not accuse...

I could got on, but I think I hit some main points...

Answer 3

what i like in my relationship is being able to trust him without a doubt, comes from knowing him a long time, seeing how he treated others who were in relationships with him. they make u feel secure by allowing u to speak your mind, without fear of being attacked emotionally. they can also make u feel secure financially, always knowing they are on the same page as u are with finances. a healthy relationship is patient, kind, considerate, loving, non judge mental, has respect and is always loyal. a healthy relationship is not all take its meeting the other person half way, being able to discuss like adults just what the problems are, and working them out together. if u feel secure u usually are, if your intuition tells u theres a problem than there usually always is. listen to your gut feeling about someone and if u have any reservations wait and don't jump in to anything. Real love will give all the advantage to the other person and not be a taker or a user.

Answer 4

A healthy relationship is hard and rare to find but when you have found it you would know. When a person loves you they put you first, they respect your decisions, they Cherish your feelings, they will understand and empathize with you as much as possible, they stand there ground when you are wrong. They give to you as much as you give to them. A real relationship is not to play with they will let you know that you are the one they want and need. Remember this love is just, love is kind, love is not boastful. Those are just some of the keys that I live and love by. Good Luck and May God Bless

Answer 5

If you want:....."No general answers pleas I need details..I need to know what does a healthy, and real relationship look like...be reasonable" ..

THEN spend the money to go to a counselor, don't be cheap and try to find the Answer on Yahoo for one lol

Answer 6

My real relationship has it ups and downs.....My husband is not perfect but I overlook it even though somethings really shouldn't be overlooked. But he makes up for it by being a good husband and father....he doesn't like to do things without me and he calls me when he is at work....no I am not controlling...we have been together for over 15 years. We value family and I think that makes it work....plus when there is a problem we talk about it not run from it. Not sure if this is what you were looking for....

Answer 7

I think that at the beginning of a relationship, things are "nice." You dont' really come to know each other till one down the road when your defenses are down and the newness has worn off. I think all couples fight at times and that is healthy. No one can always agree all of the time. I just like to know that he is there, that I know he is around if I need help or advice. I know he will be honest in his answers to my questions. I like to know his opinions on things. There are times that he annoys me and I know I annoy him sometimes too. There is alot of give and take.

Answer 8

A mature parture makes you feel special by listening to you, and caring about what is important to you, by being honest and upfront about things. That person should show that he is a man of his word by doing what he says he will, and never hanging you out on a limb. If you ask that person a question, you should always get an honest and thoughtful answer, with no lies of omission.

Answer 9

My husband makes me feel secure by letting me stay at home and raise our son while he works. He supports our family financially, and in many other ways. He always sticks up for me & is very protective. He doesn't let me drive out of town by myself, he rides with me or makes sure my mom, mother in law or a friend goes with me (for safety). He calls me while at work to see how my day is going -- he usually does this a few times a week. Basically I know he will always be there for me if I need him. Best Wishes!

Answer 10

My husband listens to me, he treats me well in front of his friends, he puts me first, he compliments me, he thinks about me during the day and finds ways to let me know that he is thinking about me like sending an I love you over text or stopping in with flowers, when we fight he takes the initiative to hug me or say I'm sorry first, if I am bothered by something (like the fact that he wasn't helping much around the house) - he starts to do it more - like just tonight he came home and swept the floor since I was busy with the kids and had just fed them so there was food on the floor. I am very lucky! He is very sweet and considerate :o)