Been married 15 years, 4 great kids. Great life till my husband got hurt at work (fireman) and became addicted to vicodin..... for the last 3 years we have dealt with re-habs and legal problems. He is now serving an 8 year prison sentence. Now I am a single mom, never thought this could happen to a "strong member" of the church. Do I stay with him?
2007-11-27 13:27:17 · 8 answers · asked by hopeful 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Technically, you can divorce him on the grounds that he is in prison. Morally, that is a choice you have to make after weighing the pros and cons. If you choose to stay, remember he will have to spend the rest of his life trying to stay in recovery.
2007-11-27 13:36:31 · answer #1 · answered by Teresa 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A "strong member" of the church does not necessarily mean of "strong faith". But even the 'strong' of faith are met with things in life they have a difficulty of avoiding.
If you are a believer in the Lord, and if you have made the commitment to Him and your husband, then there is no question on whether or not staying with him.
Sometimes we are strongest at our weakest times, and all you need do is ask for guidance.
Yes, these are hard times in your life, but they too will pass if you strive for a 'good outcome'.
Stay busy. Get a new hobby. The time will pass, and before you know it he will be home. Support him as best you can!!!!
I'll pray for you...........
2007-11-27 13:39:25 · answer #2 · answered by Susan M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't stay with him. My boyfriend was addicted to vicodin for a while and when those weren't strong enough for him anymore, he turned to heroin. It's a losing battle. No amount of love can make him change. He has to want it for himself and if he can't do that, he sure as hell isn't going to do it for you or even his children. I hate to be so harsh, but it's the honest truth. I have been struggling with this problem with my boyfriend for 4 long years. Please, for your children's sake, get out of this marriage. I know it will be hard (look at me, I can't even bring myself to leave my boyfriend) but you have children involved and they don't need to be around drug users.
2007-11-27 13:39:30 · answer #3 · answered by cindos_69 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if you love him and trust in the unknown yes. If you cant stomach the thought of dealing all of this and doing a number, then bail. He was already warned by all the guys there to expect divorce papers.
2007-11-27 14:24:35 · answer #4 · answered by mouse81841 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh hon, i'm sorry.. yes i've been there.
maybe you could seek a therapist to talk about this? sometimes it helps to hear yourself talk, in order to make a sound decision... a therapist can help you learn to cope and find your own direction in life.... they are not there to tell you what to do, but to help you find your way....
take care and do what is best for YOU... it's your life, after all.
sending warm thoughts and hugs your way
2007-11-27 13:36:44 · answer #5 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no you need to get on with your lifehe will not come out of prison any better ,mostly worse and if i were you i would do what i have to to for your kids and you, my family the same
2007-11-27 13:34:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
What does he have to offer that you would even think about staying with him?
2007-11-27 13:57:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would when you got married it was in sickness and in health.Addiction is a sickness.
2007-11-27 13:35:32 · answer #8 · answered by ali 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋