I went to a friend of mines Myspace page today. Her husband in the military and she had posted a blog about cheating due to being deployed with those of the opposite sex. I've been divorced for two years now but was married to my high school sweetheart for almost 8 years. One particular person had responded to the blog saying, "I totally understand. Cheating is horrible! I could NEVER pursue a married man. I think that's the worst thing a woman can do." What struck me as ironic in this is that my ex-husband used to work with her when we first were married. We had been married a year and I was 8 months pregnant with my daughter, and later found out that she had 'pleasured him orally' at that time. I think it's such bull to be such a hypocrit! Although I've moved past that whole time in my life, this really aggravated me. I have made mistakes...and I admit them. Doesn't anyone have enough character to be honest anymore? Am I the only person who is still REAL?
2007-11-27 12:40:31 · 17 answers · asked by Paranormal Investigator in Ohio 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I AM AGREEING WITH YOU 100% i feel the exact same way...i often feel like many people dont have any dignity and integrity and that alone makes it hard for me to trust anyone....
i think the best thing is for people like us to rise above them and show them what a real human being is supposed to act if they want respect these days....
2007-11-27 12:46:22 · answer #1 · answered by ebony_316 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is sad, but you can't expect much from those who are cheaters... they are the least ones to be honest. If they were they wouldn't become cheaters. I just don't understand though, like how hard is it to be true be honest to oneself? People grow up knowing from right and wrong yet so many steer in the wrong direction. Lack of education or lack of parental guidance, whatever it is... I just wonder what triggers people to cheat on their boyfriend/girlfriends or spouses? Stop being greedy, if you don't love them anymore let it go before you move on, it really irks me. I know it shouldn't it isn't my life, people have rights to feel what they feel, but damn not when you do it in a manner that isn't necessary at all it just aggravates me. Just a bit, especially when it happens to those that I know and I hear about it. In most if not all, infidelity can be prevented but people are just stupid and greedy and go that route instead of doing the right thing.
2007-11-27 21:21:41 · answer #2 · answered by Flower 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've been honest with my wife and have been totally fuking NAILED for it. So ignoring the truth, or not speaking of unpleasant things in our marriage is what she requires. I prefer getting things out and fixed. So lying is a requirement in my marriage and I'm sure my wife and I are not unique. There is absolutely NO TALKING ABOUT OUR SEX LIFE, because it's not a comfortable topic for her, so we just go on NOT addressing the ills we have in that department. Hey, it's not what I want to do, but that's just the way it is.
2007-11-27 20:54:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you're not the only person who is still "real". There are still many, many of us who will "not bend their knees to Baal." (Isaiah)
Yes, some people will lie, will b.s., and will be hypocritical. That's their problem; you can rise above it.
And, by the way, Myspace is just a nasty operation run through Rupert Murdoch; it's a means of profiling and manipulating people. Talk about LIES! HA!
2007-11-27 20:48:47 · answer #4 · answered by Joya 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
people havent changed over the years, you are just seeing what the world really is and what life is all about. you try to find someone to settle with and the next thing you know their being 'pleasured orally' and you for some reason didnt care then and now that your older and alot more bitter your the only real person in the world. get over it, double click your mouse and be happy.
2007-11-27 21:36:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
girl you dont stand alone in this, my sis got divorced by her husband and they had been married 8 years and he lead ever one in the family to believe that he loved her and his to beautiful daughters but then she found out he had cheated on her and was seen with other girls and she left him and then he got engaged like a day later and she knew that he was never in love with her from the beginning and it's bull that he lead our family to believe that he was the best thing in the world for her and the best christian that ever walked this Land and whats bad is he drinks now and ever few min calls her and yells at her and cusses her out and idk it's like pple dont care if you get hurt or not it's like they think that you'll get over it and that it's no BIG DEAL??? yeahi would think that it is and i think that if pple want to do this and not be nice and in a truce LOVING relationship that involves marriage and kids, why are they here? why don't they just move??
we should make a state for single pple who are just not into this anymore and let them cheat on each other and see what's it's like and how it feels to do this bull-screw!!!!!!
2007-11-27 20:54:46 · answer #6 · answered by #2 DUKE 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, Im real and honest, and lying is an immature way to escape reality. Its a quick way out now a days. More adults are acting like chldren instead of being honest with each other. its real sad.
2007-11-27 20:44:50 · answer #7 · answered by lwomar 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"Real" people get overlooked. As much as everyone says they want honesty, when they get it, it's not as exciting to them or they just don't know how to handle it.. Most everyone is out for themselves and they couldn't care less who they hurt. Selfishness is the reason why no one is honest anymore.
2007-11-27 20:46:47 · answer #8 · answered by Amber 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are still some of us out here that tell the truth and tell it like it is. I don't like liars and i believe that anyone who lies is selfish and doesn't care how it affects the person you are lying to.
2007-11-27 20:55:30 · answer #9 · answered by Teenie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's probably embarrassed by it. You know the truth, 'nuff said.
But I do agree with you; People are too full of pride these days and could use a lesson in humility.
But hey, I'm guilty of it too.
2007-11-27 20:46:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋