i married a woman who was a virgin.we just got back from our honeymoon but i noticed whenever we have sex she just lays there and stares at the ceiling.its not enjoyable for me and when im done she rolls over and goes to sleep.
what do you think is wrong?
2007-11-27 12:19:26 · 19 answers · asked by .i. 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
yes.she was a virgrin i popped it and she made a few noises but nothing significant
2007-11-27 12:25:25 · update #1
How's the foreplay??? Communication is #1.
2007-11-27 12:23:21 · answer #1 · answered by grami 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
man... that's a tough one. i think you need to take the lead on this one. i can't possibly believe that she hasn't seen movies where others are having sex and both partners are very animated. I think you should communicate your needs, but also address hers as well. bring sex out into the open and treat it as what fun loving couple do... if she has a different opinion of the subject i would try to identify where it could have come from. if this doesn't work for you... i would get in touch with profession help and consult a sex therapist. gl
2007-11-27 20:28:49 · answer #2 · answered by cauzntrouble 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She was a virgin... that means she has no experience, so it up to you to be gentle and loving taking your time and patience with her. Dont be pushy with her or expect her to know things just cause she is a women. You and she have to work on this, find out what she likes, and doenst like... It will take time but im sure it will be worth it all. Good luck.
2007-11-27 21:37:19 · answer #3 · answered by deerlady2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it was uncomfortable for her. Sounds like she didn't "climax" so she probably doesn't understand the "thrill" of the whole sex thing. You need to ASK her though. COmmunication is KEY to Any relationship. Good Luck !!!
2007-11-27 20:28:00 · answer #4 · answered by casper 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what are these ppl telling you.....sweetheart i think that it is a blessing that you married a virgin...because she is so new to the sex thing you need to ask her questions about your performance and talk to her about what you like to do....
you know even if she is a virgin she does know what makes her body tick and you need to learn it...ask her if there were anything that she ever thought of trying.....
about the rolling over thing..lol many women have that issue trust me....whenever she rolls over cuddle with her and asl her if she is ok and if she enjoyed...try to get her to talk to you and you respond positively.....
2007-11-27 20:27:36 · answer #5 · answered by ebony_316 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You married a virgin. It's up to you to teach her about sex. If you have trouble have her watch a telemundo soap opera That should show her how to act in bed.
2007-11-27 20:37:32 · answer #6 · answered by Jill 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just need to be patient, talk to her, take things slowly. I wouldn't do anything crazy (adult movies, toys, etc.) right now. My wife said it still hurt for several times. Her losing her virginity to you is a sacred thing, and you should be glad she saved herself for you. Just be patient and things will happen. Talk to her, find out what feels good for her.
2007-11-27 20:31:04 · answer #7 · answered by derek1079 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Were you gentle with her? Maybe she was not ready emotionally , but felt obligated to do so because you are now man & wife.
I talk to her with clothes on & ask her If you maybe rushed her.
2007-11-27 20:23:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think she doesn't understand sex. You need to discuss it. Talk about healthy sex. READ books together. Help her to learn.
2007-11-27 20:25:19 · answer #9 · answered by lady_phoenix39 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well either it's because she is inexperienced, or she doesn't think it is worth all the hype! She may not be satisfied by your manhood! Does she even moan? I could say a whole lot more but I don't want to hurt your feelings so I am done!
2007-11-27 20:22:43 · answer #10 · answered by Nicole J 2 · 0⤊ 4⤋