Marriage & Divorce - 23 November 2007

The main thing I want to ask your opinion is was the violence in 'stage 3' my fault. I did nothing to provoke him but had I contributed to an environment where that was 'acceptable' making it easier for him to break the taboo against hitting women?

Long post, thanks for reading.

I got pregnant but the father was not sure if he wanted to commit or not and the relationship was volotile. The first incident was before I was pregnant. He was playing music loud and I had asked him to turn it down but he kept it loud just to annoy me so I took a knife and came up to him just to scare him. He reacted by holding my arm and twisting the knife away but I was not going to do anything and I was surprised he would do anything.

Then when I was pregnant and we were living together he was having an affair but I did not know it, just suspected at the time. One time I took his phone and wanted to see the texts and he shoved me. That was the first time he laid his hands on me and I was shocked.

2007-11-23 23:16:03 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

I posted a question earlier about my relationship--I got up courage to talk to him about things. He and I talked and talked and he swore it wasn't anything more than a fantasy and he doesn't want anyone other than me.

I told him I just wasn't sure what to believe. He got all defensive and I told him I just wanted him to be happy. I said I'd rather him be happy with someone else rather than miserable with me. We talked more and I thought we'd talked everything out and it was gonna be ok.

He tried to be sexual toward me and I just wasn't in the mood. I've been hurting all day home alone and tired from cleaning up Thanksgiving while he was at the mall with friends and I just didn't want sex right then.

He got mad and said "What do you want from me" and I said I just wanted him happy he got all cranky and I said "be where you want to be weither it be here, at a friends, or whereever"

He left. Just grabbed his keys, kissed my cheek, and left.........

2007-11-23 21:24:44 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

We have been together for 5 1/2 years , Had a baby in 2005, Got married two months ago. We both have met each others families n our families met each other families n enjoyed great company. ~ So .. I was thinking about christmas gifts and decided to find out my grandmothers family history for my father n my aunt .. I thought that would be a great gift. Any how in the process of doing so my husband sat next to me on the couch n asked to help me (there is alot of history) He was sooo shocked when he found out my great great great grandfather is also his great great great grandfather which makes us 4th cousin .. in no out way our families cross besides of this.~Hes taking this every well .. he said its too far away to matter n the ring on his finger makes him my husband and nothing else. Me on the other hand is taking this very badly, I cried and called my parents .. only to get my head chewed off by them .. they told me the same thing my husband told me. Am I'm taking this 2 far??

2007-11-23 20:02:13 · 44 answers · asked by hmmmmm777 1

i.e. because the bible says not to.

How do you think sex before marriage affects the marriage?

2007-11-23 19:59:52 · 22 answers · asked by ☆★starquality5050★☆ 3

My current girlfriend is 30 years old and says she has had 16 former lovers. She said some of them were one-nighters during her college days but the majority of them were failed relationships. We always use protection and she said she has been tested. Is this ballpark average of is she just easy?

2007-11-23 19:55:40 · 21 answers · asked by Michael M 1

I've always wondered, is marriage worth it? Every marriage I've ever seen, including 3 of my fathers, have gone straight down the drain and caused nothing but strife.

My question is....what makes marriage worth it? What's good about it? Bad?

2007-11-23 19:27:08 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

ok heres my story i was 17 and this 29 yr old beg to marry me and wrote me poems and song and told me he alwyas gonna be there fo me no matter what and i fell in love with him and give him 100% trust, he promised i was gonna beable to go to college well to keep him happy i end up workin 2 jobs trying to pay most of the bills and then 8 months later he started to treat me bad cuase alot of bills was coming and he was stressin, well i got into this bad car accident where my car wen under a semi trailer, ad he wasn there for me , put his new car sales man job be4 me didnt want to take me to the hospital! so i left cus i was shocked and i left, next day i tried to work thing out he didnt want nothing to do with me, then i found out i waspregnant and he didnt care wither, well after 7wks ihad a miscarrige, we've bin separated for 2 months and he dont want nothingto do with me! he backstab me, how can i get over this? does karma really happen? will he get punish for this?

2007-11-23 19:19:50 · 10 answers · asked by rhea 1

good at ansering q's. really, ive gotten some good ansers.

now here's the q.

im gonna be goin to vegas next semester and im really lookin for ideally a A) pretty girlfriend B) dating and stuff C) random 1 nighters

what are the girls like in vegas and how can i go about accomplishing this?

2007-11-23 19:10:36 · 11 answers · asked by Greg D 1

I am newly married to the man of my dreams he is the sweetest guy i've ever met in my life. Sounds great but it's Not! My mother-in-law isn't a nice person. It bothers her that he is 31 years old & i'm 18. She never even gave me a chance. She told people that she didn't like me before we even met. She refused to attend our wedding. Our wedding gift was her telling him> You've made your bed- you'll have to lie in it. I was excited i was spending Thanksgiving with his family until i noticed she kept rolling her eyes at me & she ignored me & talking to my husband. I've never felt so bad in my life. I went home & cried my eyes out. I have never done anything to her & i can't understand why she hates me. She has invited my husband on a trip with her this weekend & she didn't invite me. I really love my husband with all of my heart. Why didn't he just tell his mom to stop being mean to me & refuse to go on this trip? Can i do anything to make this woman ever like me?

2007-11-23 19:04:21 · 12 answers · asked by Ashley 3

a) She possibly loves someone else
b) That she snuck around behind your back and you didn't notice
c) That other people might know
d) The actual sex act
e) The squirty bit at the end of the sex act and her getting it up her
f) That you kissed that mouth and...
g) other - what is the bit that kills you

2007-11-23 18:53:48 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

i dont want to pay for it...thats not really my style. im lookin for more the "oh we just met lets have some fun" type night AND the "ya! i'd love to go on a date with you" type thing.

so i want to just get tourist type girls for the night, dates, and ideally a girlfriend.

whats the best way to go about accomplishing this kinda thing\ in vegass!

2007-11-23 18:38:40 · 6 answers · asked by Greg D 1

2007-11-23 18:18:35 · 21 answers · asked by Little Angel 1

My high school sweetheart and I got a hold of eachother on myspace and we sent e-mails back and forth and Isaid a lot of things that I shouldn't have and didn't mean like leaving my husband and stuff. I am very happy with my husband and baby, I was just remembering High school and stuff. I would never leave my husband. My husband found out and read the e-mails and he took me back twice, it happened 2 times this year and I swore it won't again. I truly love my husband, I guess I was just leading my Ex on. My husband says it was cheating, I don't know. Do u think it is?

2007-11-23 17:58:05 · 16 answers · asked by JoJo 2

2007-11-23 17:54:43 · 4 answers · asked by gg 1

my sister have been chatting online with this guy for 2 months and they decided to get married in this 2 weeks time without us knowing. He even asks her to go to Canada alone, get married there and stays there. It troubled us so much as why she had made the decision so sudden. He is Pakistani currently applying Canadian nationality and also applying permit to set up business there and it is all in process so he told her. He couldnt fetch my sister here like most gentlemen do plus to meet my family first just because of financial problems. How does he going marry my sister with everything still uncertain and in a very suspicious way. I thought of syndicate of people smugling women and i fear my sister is one of the statistics. What do you think guys.. tq

2007-11-23 17:32:26 · 14 answers · asked by honey 1

2007-11-23 17:31:10 · 29 answers · asked by Judith 1

Me and my wife seperated about 4 months ago and now she has boyfriend of 20 (we are both 34!) I now have been living on my own for 2 months. I have been reading alot of divorce recovery books and am trying to heal myself, this is the question: Is it ok for me to start dating even though I am still married? I want to make friends of the opposite sex, I just don't know if it would be appropriate for me to do that since I am still married. I do not feel me and my ex will work things out. Women do you have any advice for me?

2007-11-23 17:30:51 · 18 answers · asked by Sylent 1

2007-11-23 16:37:10 · 9 answers · asked by adriana g 1

my husband always passes gas in the house this is an ongoing behavior which i find very rude, i know its natural but this is all day every day i feel very disrespected am i wrong for feeling this way and is their any thing he can use for this ?

2007-11-23 16:31:46 · 15 answers · asked by cocoa 4 3

2007-11-23 16:20:21 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been married for two years ten months. My husband and moved from our home because I could not accept the new him. I have not dealt very well with this situation, he thinks I should just accept that things did not work out and move on but he get extremely angry with me when I ask him for us to sit and talk about what really happened. I feel like I was not doing something right. I love my husband dearly and I feel like I can't move on until he lets me know what happened. What forced him to make the decision he made? I need closure

2007-11-23 15:49:50 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

my ex wife keeps taking back my last name and she has been married 5 times now. Im her second. We have a child who is an adult now. Why does she want to keep taking back my last name?? wtf... Can i do anything to stop her. She getting another divorce.....i live in texas and she lives in fl??

2007-11-23 15:48:15 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-11-23 15:46:10 · 7 answers · asked by James 4

Would you be ready, willing and able? If not, for what reason would you turn her down?

2007-11-23 15:46:00 · 13 answers · asked by ncgirl 3

We have 4 little boys and since Leaving the Marine Corps a year ago my mild mannered husband has become a raging monster. I am 8 months pregnant with our 4th, he rips my hair out, pulls my hair, hits me in the head and face, chokes me and squeezes my neck. He is also verbally abusive to our 8yr old son calling him unspeakable things. I know that his Sgt First Class is aware of the situtation because I have informed his wife but the command is "powerless" to do anything to stop him unless I call the police and force their hand or he goes to them with his issues. I can't take anymore of this or him. He blames his anger and behavior on not having time alone with me and various other B.S. excuses. I was married to an abusive cocaine addict when I was younger and have a current 5yr order of protection, figures I would choose a loser the 2nd time around. I know there is legal on post but I'm not sure if the process is legal seperation first. The post in half in Ky and we live in Tn.

2007-11-23 15:38:29 · 9 answers · asked by nicolejmatthews 2

2007-11-23 15:36:36 · 12 answers · asked by Sassy Shut Your Mouth 5

2007-11-23 15:23:51 · 7 answers · asked by justme 1

For single people to want to be married, and for married people to want to be single or married to someone else?

How many of you would say "I'm content with where I am" (married/singlewise)?

2007-11-23 15:23:37 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am in a long term relationship that is very good. I have a once in a lifetime opportunity to take a job in a different country. My partner can't move for at least 6 months and she might not even find a new job in the new city. I want the job but it makes me extremely sad (and somewhat non-functional) to think that I will be without her or that we have to be long-distance. What do I do?

2007-11-23 15:21:17 · 12 answers · asked by Charles M 2

2007-11-23 15:19:46 · 18 answers · asked by pathma cute 1