2007-11-23 15:36:36 · 12 answers · asked by Sassy Shut Your Mouth 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
well my mom and dad got divorced and i understand how it can be hard to discuss it with children but just dont talk bad about the other parent in front of the children . and tell them the sometimes people are better as friends or you guys just dont get alone any more but that does not mean that we dont love you . and as for family it is best to keep them out of it that only starts mess and it could make it hard for the children if they are around those family members and they speak bad about the father . i dont care how bad he is the kids dont need all that i know i did not like to hear bad things about either of my parents and i love the fact that my mom tried to keep us out of drama the best way she knew how
2007-11-23 17:29:50 · answer #1 · answered by ♥ tweety ♥ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't get a divorce your children will get hurt more than anyone in a divorce if you can seek out a good marriage conciliar and fix what ever is broke do not put the kids in the middle of this you and your spouse should cross every bridge you have to to make this thing called a marriage work so that the family does not suffer because you and your spouse can only think about your shelf's good luck
2007-11-23 15:47:31 · answer #2 · answered by furface 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
other family members will probably judge you and tell you what they think which you can ignore.
but with kids, explain them that it's not their fault, and tell them both mom and dad love them no matter what. and make sure that the mom and dad don't badmouth each other in front of the kids.
my parents got divorced when I was young, and I'm glad they did. they've been happy every since. it didn't have much effect on me.
2007-11-23 15:47:29 · answer #3 · answered by little concerned 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Children -- gently, with compassion. It may be your ex, but it is the child's mother/father.
Other family members -- are adults and that just depends on your style. But I'm emphatic about the first part.
2007-11-23 15:44:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just explain that it didn't work out but everyone is still loved and it's only the "two parents" fault that this happened. Don't let anybody else take the blame or feel like it's their faul
2007-11-23 15:40:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
get everyone around the table. let them know what's going on. what's working out and what isn't. what you've decided to do. say everything in a calm manner. be 100% honest, mean what u say. and tell them what's going to happen. don't let it escalate into an argument between anyone. if someone yells at you, don't respond and let the tension dissipate b4 u begin again
2007-11-23 15:44:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you just have to sit everyone down in the same area so there is no confusion and just out with it! Its gonna be sooo hard but as long as your both your both there answering questions, it will be a little easier.
2007-11-23 15:41:21 · answer #7 · answered by enochsangel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They really shouldn't have to. Wait until the children can understand the concept.
Good luck.
2007-11-23 15:39:30 · answer #8 · answered by box of rain 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
my parents got devorced a few years ago. and they sat me down and told me that my dad was moving out, that he was till going to see me and that they sitll loved each other and just wanted space for a while and they would see how it went. that worked pretty well. good luck
2007-11-23 15:45:58 · answer #9 · answered by Nichola R 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
keep telling them that its not thier fauld, cause kids tend to think that
2007-11-23 15:42:53 · answer #10 · answered by Checks and Goats 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋