Marriage & Divorce - 23 November 2007

My husband and I both work full time. We both make good money although he makes almost double what I do. He has already given me my christmas present................ A family cruise this comming summer (paid in full ) . I don't make enough money to get him anyhting close to that. He always does this...The presents he gives me are far more expensive than I can afford to give him. What can I get him to compete with what he gave me????

2007-11-23 06:10:10 · 19 answers · asked by DEBBY'S BABY 4

My wife and I are in the midst of a long (15 months +) rather contentious divorce. Her lawyers took my deposition last week. My lawyer and I are due to take hers this week. My deposition was pretty unremarkable - no real bombshells.

My lawyer called this morning to suggest we may not really need my wife's deposition. From the questions I was asked, we got a pretty good idea of what their tack will be in settlement discussions. We also aren't really looking for any particular information from my wife. We have what we need to support our position in negotiations, or, if it comes to it, at trial.

It seems like kind of a no brainer to cancel the deposition, save c$1,500 in the process and possibly continue to lower the level of acrimony in the process.

Does anybody think it would be a bad idea in the circumstances to cancel the deposition?

Thanks alot.

2007-11-23 05:42:07 · 7 answers · asked by maxcastignetti 2

2007-11-23 05:06:50 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous

She is a very great child just thinks we are not fair. She works and goes 2 school. She got mad over us charging her and everyone else one dollar for a cd. I don't understand why she made a big deal out of it and now says she hates my husband(likes him when she wants something). I have been up all night trying to figure out what to say 2 her. I love her dearly. She is my life..What do I do to show her how lucky she really is?

2007-11-23 04:13:37 · 22 answers · asked by bree4u2 1

I don't know why but I've noticed that my husband show's little to no sexual interest in me. I have never felt insecure about myself because I know I'm a good looking person, I get attention all the time when I go out. So I know that he's not unattracted to me. But for some reason even if i dress really sexy in front of him he doesn't show much interest. He cuddles w/me every night but that's as far as it goes. Should I just give him his space and pretend I don't care? I've already tried several things. I've already told him that he's been very distant, and he says he's just been tired. I told him he's changed, n he begins telling me that he loves me a lot n will never change. Am i just being a little sensitive because I just had a baby and my minds always telling me negative things? I don't even physically feel like i had a baby because I didn't gain ANY weight whatsoever and my body's back to 120 lbs. few days back he complained n said i don't ever come on to him. is it maybe me?

2007-11-23 03:53:10 · 19 answers · asked by SugaNsPice 4

Literally i check if my partner was with other gf negative.I check if my partners gay negative.When offer partner intimacy asking to come over or i go over partner said no.My partners 36 self mid 20s both work as professionals.We were long distance few years kept in touch online when used to call me names but on phone or in person partners fine.We are together from start of holidays.What reasons can be there if no other gf or not gay.Therapy didnt work.We want to save marriage & love eachother very much.

2007-11-23 03:49:14 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

How to move on living with your spouse after loosing your trust and respect.But you can't think of putting your children as victim,especially you'r financially crippled and no friend,relative or family to turn too

2007-11-23 03:46:29 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

When I come home, I have a tendency to just kick off my shoes and leave them. This irritates my husband so he hides them from me. I have found my shoes on top of the refrigerator and behind the dog food. Once I think he threw away one of my shoes (I had one shoe wondering where the other was). I have tried to be better about it, but sometimes I forget. Why does he get so irritated by me leaving my shoes out when he leaves all sorts of things out too! What if I hid his cell phone behind the dog food? That would not be right. I feel he does it to teach me a lesson and I feel that is very condescending and patronizing. What do you think?

2007-11-23 03:38:06 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

After over a decade of marriage and 2 deployments, my spouse suddenly announces that he is no longer in love (I love you but...). After this announcement, he turned very distant and cruel, and makes hints of divorce. He has minimized all contact with the children and I, and has nothing positive to say about us, work or life in general. I am unsure if it is the stresses of war, or he has simply lost his committement. I have been loyal and supportive. Is he able to file for divorce from Iraq? Any suggestions for me. Time is of the essence.

2007-11-23 03:23:23 · 15 answers · asked by Bailey 1

Ok I now have a THIRD married guy flirting with me...I don't want this!!!! Why do I seem to attract married ones and not the single ones? The only thing I can think of is that I am completely my goofy self around the married guys because I am not thinking I need to impress anyone but with the single ones I might come across more reserved.
Also how do I let the married ones know its just not going to happen without being rude? I have joked with them when they have made passes about how "they won't do me any good since they are married" but they don't seem to take the hint. I don't want them to feel bad -like its them- because I could see myself dating at least 2 of them ...IF they weren't married but I want them to realize I am not the one they need to be chasing if they are looking for an affair. I am so frustrated ...why can't the single guys give me as much attention????

2007-11-23 03:12:42 · 17 answers · asked by jenny s 2

my friend, has a boyfriend who vows he loves her , yet he is going on holiday with his wife,(they have been seperated for years) i understand how upset she is ,what do i advise her ,????

2007-11-23 02:45:12 · 37 answers · asked by ? 6

I have been inside my box for a long time,and I seem to be having trouble coming out of it,and I have tried to come out,but having trouble, sexualy,and all around. If you have any ideas that would work let me know. Only honest answers please!!! This has become a serious problem for me!!!

2007-11-23 02:31:06 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

Long story,so I'll break it down to the basics.
A few years ago the wife(now ex) cheated on me, got knocked up and I divorced her.
She got the house and car (which I still make payments on) as well as alimony and child support for a kid that is not even mine.
Since the divorce, my boss has let me do as much overtime as I could, but with the sluggish economy he can no longer approve overtime.
I got a night job at Home Depot but it's 1/3 of what I made on O.T.
I have friends and family who have been very good to me and deserve something, but with her maintenance, the attorneys payments and the cutbacks at work I don't even have enough to pay my own bills.
I thought if I stole some things (from stores, not individuals) it might be excusable ?

2007-11-23 02:18:29 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous

My hubby use to raise his ex's little girl til she was about 6.She moved away to live with her real dad but is now coming back to Seattle.This girl has contacted his family and spent Thanksgiving w/them. I have alot of bad memories about her and her mom and the hell they put me through. Not leaving my husband out b/c he usually took their side(dont know why I stayed w/him!stupidity I'll admit!)He even put that little girl before our own daughter who is a year younger. Since hearing of this, I am haunted by my past. There is alot of anger I have towards him for our past and what he did to us.Its been bothering me so much that I dont even want to be w/him anymore. We now have more children and I know he loves them with all his heart and they to him. Thats whats been stopping me from leaving him. I hate him so much right now that these memories are on my mind and I want OUT!!

2007-11-23 02:05:36 · 10 answers · asked by taylor_22 1

I've been in a relationship with this man for 2 years now. We have a daughter together. Generally he is very nice on the surface, but underneath he has a lot of problems and instability.

He drinks and when he does he cannot control himself. When we fight, he throws our furniture around and crawls in a corner and bawls. If I try to leave, he threatens suicide and tells me to 'take good care of his daughter.' We live across the street from his parents so everytime something happens, he runs over crying to his mother. I have no one here.

Worse, he runs over to his parent's house every day and tells them I'm mean to him all the time, that I don't keep the house perfectly clean. His sister even admitted to me last night that he is a major overexaggerator and that she doesn't think those things of me.

We got into a fight last night and he told me to leave and not come back and that he'd be taking my daughter away from me. How can I prevent him from doing this? I want to protect her.

2007-11-23 02:04:24 · 17 answers · asked by Agnostic 2

why dont men agree to their love for their wives? why are they so egoist? In our relationship my husband has never ever given importance to my feelings. . he never has any word of praise for me whatever good i do. he has a lot of 'main' in our relationship. he never hugs me , never kisses me. its only at the time when he wants me on bed only then he comes close to me. and that too once in a week. othervise he never touches me . he never holds my hands.
i have lost all my confidence. i feel shattered because of his this type of behaviour. i am a good looking, educated smart lady. but he has made me as if i am thing to be used & then ignored. i feel hurt. what do i do. its not that he is not expressive. he shows his love towards the kids, towards his mother towards every other person in his family, including his brother, sister etc. but has never ever shown his feelings towards me.
i have started disrespecting & disliking him

2007-11-23 01:45:23 · 6 answers · asked by cancer 1

I had a very good relationship with my partner that called it off because she said that she is not ready to commit yet. We live in different towns about 4 hours away & met on the internet. The chemistry was incredible. She called it off a couple weeks ago because she said that she was not being fair to me & that she was not going to hurt me. She said she did not want to commit and that she was not leaving her job or where she worked. She said she needed to finish her therapy before she was ready for any relationship and that I had been through enough shitty relaionships & she was not going to contribute to it. I get a text message from her once in a great while. For Thanksgiving she sent me a Big warm thanksgiving hug & said that I was a part of her and she carried our experiences together in her heart always. We both love each other no doubt, but she is not ready to commit or leave her job of 8 years or the town she lives in. I can not leave where I live either. What do you do?

2007-11-23 01:40:47 · 10 answers · asked by J.J. 1

I had a very good relationship with my partner that called it off because she said that she is not ready to commit yet. We live in different towns about 4 hours away & met on the internet. The chemistry was incredible. She called it off a couple weeks ago because she said that she was not being fair to me & that she was not going to hurt me. She said she did not want to commit and that she was not leaving her job or where she worked. She said she needed to finish her therapy before she was ready for any relationship and that I had been through enough shitty relaionships & she was not going to contribute to it. I get a text message from her once in a great while. For Thanksgiving she sent me a Big warm thanksgiving hug & said that I was a part of her and she carried our experiences together in her heart always. We both love each other no doubt, but she is not ready to commit or leave her job of 8 years or the town she lives in. I can not leave where I live either. What do you do?

2007-11-23 01:39:03 · 7 answers · asked by J.J. 1

I had a very good relationship with my partner that called it off because she said that she is not ready to commit yet. We live in different towns about 4 hours away & met on the internet. The chemistry was incredible. She called it off a couple weeks ago because she said that she was not being fair to me & that she was not going to hurt me. She said she did not want to commit and that she was not leaving her job or where she worked. She said she needed to finish her therapy before she was ready for any relationship and that I had been through enough shitty relaionships & she was not going to contribute to it. I get a text message from her once in a great while. For Thanksgiving she sent me a Big warm thanksgiving hug & said that I was a part of her and she carried our experiences together in her heart always. We both love each other no doubt, but she is not ready to commit or leave her job of 8 years or the town she lives in. I can not leave where I live either. What do you do?

2007-11-23 01:35:56 · 12 answers · asked by J.J. 1

I had a very good relationship with my partner that called it off because she said that she is not ready to commit yet. We live in different towns about 4 hours away & met on the internet. The chemistry was incredible. She called it off a couple weeks ago because she said that she was not being fair to me & that she was not going to hurt me. She said she did not want to commit and that she was not leaving her job or where she worked. She said she needed to finish her therapy before she was ready for any relationship and that I had been through enough shitty relaionships & she was not going to contribute to it. I get a text message from her once in a great while. For Thanksgiving she sent me a Big warm thanksgiving hug & said that I was a part of her and she carried our experiences together in her heart always. We both love each other no doubt, but she is not ready to commit or leave her job of 8 years or the town she lives in. I can not leave where I live either. What do you do?

2007-11-23 01:34:45 · 3 answers · asked by J.J. 1

I really hate my ex who broke my heart to a point where i dont want to see him.The thing is we live in a same city and i dont knoe how i would react if i ran into him.How can handle it if i were to run into him?

2007-11-23 01:32:23 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

Do you have to married to be classed as a daughter inlaw?

2007-11-23 01:25:10 · 21 answers · asked by Blondie 2

2007-11-23 01:07:04 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

Now a days, making friends on the internet is common. Many people fall in love through chatting. And falling in love leads to marriage, but what happens after that?? Unsuccessful marriage, Divorce, depression and finally suicide.

2007-11-23 00:10:13 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous