I don't know why but I've noticed that my husband show's little to no sexual interest in me. I have never felt insecure about myself because I know I'm a good looking person, I get attention all the time when I go out. So I know that he's not unattracted to me. But for some reason even if i dress really sexy in front of him he doesn't show much interest. He cuddles w/me every night but that's as far as it goes. Should I just give him his space and pretend I don't care? I've already tried several things. I've already told him that he's been very distant, and he says he's just been tired. I told him he's changed, n he begins telling me that he loves me a lot n will never change. Am i just being a little sensitive because I just had a baby and my minds always telling me negative things? I don't even physically feel like i had a baby because I didn't gain ANY weight whatsoever and my body's back to 120 lbs. few days back he complained n said i don't ever come on to him. is it maybe me?
2007-11-23 03:53:10 · 19 answers · asked by SugaNsPice 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
WOW! I know exactly what your going through. Me and my wife just went through the same thing - mind you were are in our early 20's. We were obviously attracted to each other at some time, so there's no problem there. The PROBLEM is, your husband doesn't feel that love from you as you once showed him. We men are not verbal, we do not communicate - or at least I didn't. We show our communication through actions, like being silent, not interested, like he can do better...
My wife and even my neighbor noticed the change in my behavior. They said you looked stressed, pissed, like you don't want to be here... And I said your right. I don't want to be here. I've tried many times on making things right and you can only take so much and then give up- as it seems your husband has, as I did too. But then they ask, what's wrong. Why aren't you happy? They said you have everything! A house, a truck, job, everything you could ever ask for... But then I said, yes, but I'm not happy. I don't have my wife. And they just looked at eachother and were stunned. It's true - I felt my wife was not in this with me. As much as she's said she was, her actions, affection, (the list goes on), as well as mine, weren't the same. She NEVER initiated anything. It seemed like I was the only one that wanted her and she just accepted it. But not once would she get on me and want me.... Until now. I can relate to this like you wouldn't believe and I know how your husband is feeling. He needs you back. He might have everything but has a VOID with you. Get that intimacy back into the relationship. If you give him his space, that will make him feel ever more unwanted and will just make things go on longer. Good luck.
2007-11-23 05:09:36 · answer #1 · answered by Me 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
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I don't know why but I've noticed that my husband show's little to no sexual interest in me. I have never felt insecure about myself because I know I'm a good looking person, I get attention all the time when I go out. So I know that he's not unattracted to me. But for some...
2015-08-12 04:06:55 · answer #3 · answered by January 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am currently going through a similar problem with my wife. I don't know why I have been the way you describe with her. Maybe I look at porn too much and am using that to fulfill my sexual desires or maybe it's due to stress at work....I don't know. I get turned off so quickly sometimes and I can't tell you why. I know I get turned off when we can't have a conversation that is interesting and stimulating. If she says that slightest thing that sounds unintelligent then I'm mentally gone.
2007-11-23 04:14:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ok sweetie, Most men say just what is on their minds. If he is tired let it be. He will come to you when he is ready. Rest assured if he loves you he will. Stop trying so hard and be yourself. Focus your energy on that new baby he/she needs you more than you need your husband right now. He will come around. If you just had that baby your emotions are all over the place right now. Go to your husband and tell him you want him in those words. Most men wait for the woman to make the first move. They were trained that way. He is a gentleman for waiting for you. Good Luck and Congrats on the new baby!!!!!
2007-11-23 04:01:50 · answer #5 · answered by Sweet Momma 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Tell him what you need. Talk to him, maybe he wants something from you. The only way to find out what is going on in each others heads is to talk. You have just had a baby, so don't assume anything. Your relationship has changed, not for the worse, but it has changed. You two need to talk and figure out everything together.
2007-11-23 04:33:39 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here is the answer you don't want to hear but I just went thru the same thing and guess what? My husband had been cheating on me for 3 years. So, if he doesn't want you it is because he is getting some somewhere else. Open your eyes. My husband is the perfect guy. Nobody would have thought. You can hate me for this comment but I am being totally honest. Sorry.
2013-10-05 15:34:37 · answer #7 · answered by blade 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like one of those cases where the husband doesn't see his wife as a sexual partner anymore but as the
2007-11-23 04:03:19 · answer #8 · answered by Jane Marple 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
it could be b/c you just had a baby not too long ago that he isn't ready to have sex just yet. see, when that happens, men are afraid of being with the woman againg...it takes time for them to adjust to what went on. they see us in a different light. i know, my husband wouldn't even touch me after our daughter was born...he was so scared he would hurt me and just wasn't ready to be with me like that again. give it some time and if it doesn't happen soon, talk to him and express how you are feeling and that you need not just the emotional support, but the physical as well.
2007-11-23 04:01:49 · answer #9 · answered by Latino Heat 4ever 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its biology. Men will get biologically bored with you very quickly. Women by the hundreds post here asking why their hubbys are looking at porn and beating off in the other room when they have a live in bed waiting for them. Guys are biologically polygamous and need variety. My wife asked why men need constantly different pictures of naked women or different DVD's to watch. Why can't one or two pics do it like it is for most women. Because that is the way it is. Guys need variety, which is why there are 12,000 topless bars and only one male review for females that had to go on the road just to survive. Don't take it personally, he would eventually get bored with a porn star. There are a lot of short term things people will tell you to do, but they are all short term. There are other things to do, but most of the people on this forum don't like that stuff and very few people go for it anyway. Good luck.
2007-11-23 04:05:54 · answer #10 · answered by bocasbeachbum 6 · 1⤊ 3⤋