why dont men agree to their love for their wives? why are they so egoist? In our relationship my husband has never ever given importance to my feelings. . he never has any word of praise for me whatever good i do. he has a lot of 'main' in our relationship. he never hugs me , never kisses me. its only at the time when he wants me on bed only then he comes close to me. and that too once in a week. othervise he never touches me . he never holds my hands.
i have lost all my confidence. i feel shattered because of his this type of behaviour. i am a good looking, educated smart lady. but he has made me as if i am thing to be used & then ignored. i feel hurt. what do i do. its not that he is not expressive. he shows his love towards the kids, towards his mother towards every other person in his family, including his brother, sister etc. but has never ever shown his feelings towards me.
i have started disrespecting & disliking him
2007-11-23 01:45:23 · 6 answers · asked by cancer 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you have no confidence then you need to find a good therapist to work on you. By doing that you might figure out whether it's possible to stay in this marriage or not.
2007-11-23 02:01:04 · answer #1 · answered by Jen70 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, men aren't the only ones with big egos. During the 19 years we were married, my ex apologized twice. Yes, 2 times! It was always my job to admit I was wrong. This guy has real problems and is probably a control freak. This way you're the one always trying to please him, change for him, make all the overtures, etc. You're being used and so was I. I do know it's hard to see that at the time, but he needs to either agree to counseling or you tell him it's over. That's because he's only going to want more control as time goes along and not only will you not respect and dislike him, you'll hate his guts.
2007-11-23 03:24:29 · answer #2 · answered by bikinkawboy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him what you're telling "us". Find out what the problem is (Because there IS a problem) Talk, talk, and more talk. To help him along maybe you should take the iniative. Try holding his hand or giving him kisses. I'll become easier, sincere, and more natural for both of you over time.
2007-11-23 01:52:05 · answer #3 · answered by gatsgrl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband likes me and loves me...he listens to how I feel, he tells me how he feels, we have no secrets between us and we are the best of friends....we laugh together all of the time, we hold each other at night and say our prayers together in each others arms, we cook together, do laundry together, work through problems together.....I love this man with all of my heart and I feel that he loves me in the same way. I don't think you have much of a marriage and I wouldn't like what you have either..I don't think you like each other....try learning how to be his friend, start over so to speak. I wish you the best.
2007-11-23 02:03:19 · answer #4 · answered by Rein 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because silly, the wives already know that they're sorry....the sorriest things that they ever did see.
2007-11-23 01:58:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
all men arent the same...compatibility counts,,
2007-11-23 01:53:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋