I had a very good relationship with my partner that called it off because she said that she is not ready to commit yet. We live in different towns about 4 hours away & met on the internet. The chemistry was incredible. She called it off a couple weeks ago because she said that she was not being fair to me & that she was not going to hurt me. She said she did not want to commit and that she was not leaving her job or where she worked. She said she needed to finish her therapy before she was ready for any relationship and that I had been through enough shitty relaionships & she was not going to contribute to it. I get a text message from her once in a great while. For Thanksgiving she sent me a Big warm thanksgiving hug & said that I was a part of her and she carried our experiences together in her heart always. We both love each other no doubt, but she is not ready to commit or leave her job of 8 years or the town she lives in. I can not leave where I live either. What do you do?
2007-11-23 01:34:45 · 3 answers · asked by J.J. 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If neither of you are willing to move than you stay in limbo. She doesn't want to hurt you. You're not willing to give up your job or where you live (not sure why) but if the chemistry was that incredible, I would be looking at transferring to her area. Provided that I talked with her about such a move.
If you are not willing to move or compromise and she is not then you have no alternative but to move along. Chalk this experience up as a great one and try and find the next big thing in your community since you are not planning on moving.
Narrow your focus and if you both agree - stay in touch with each other as friends.
2007-11-23 06:28:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
whilst somebody dumps you will possibly desire to pay much less interest to any long checklist of excuses why they are in a position to't be with you and concentration on the reality that they are in a position to't be with you. Any motives she's giving could be that she's feeling to blame because of the fact she does care approximately you, does not choose to be sure you injury, yet finally your courting is not greater important than her activity and the human beings in her lifestyles. i've got moved for relationships earlier, i've got had many distinctive jobs in my lifestyles and if I pronounced i did no longer choose to pass or did no longer choose to alter jobs it o.k. might desire to be that I merely wished out of the courting and felt the might desire to provide a reason whilst extremely the only reason is i did no longer choose to be in that courting anymore. regrettably her offering you with the justifications has given you some desire that in case you conquer the "themes" then you definitely might properly be at the same time returned. the single subject you will no longer have the skill to conquer is the area approximately her no longer desiring to commit.
2016-11-12 11:35:48 · answer #2 · answered by feiss 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Walk away. If you showed up at her place, she would have a hard time explaining to her husband who you are.
2007-11-23 01:42:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋