I had a very good relationship with my partner that called it off because she said that she is not ready to commit yet. We live in different towns about 4 hours away & met on the internet. The chemistry was incredible. She called it off a couple weeks ago because she said that she was not being fair to me & that she was not going to hurt me. She said she did not want to commit and that she was not leaving her job or where she worked. She said she needed to finish her therapy before she was ready for any relationship and that I had been through enough shitty relaionships & she was not going to contribute to it. I get a text message from her once in a great while. For Thanksgiving she sent me a Big warm thanksgiving hug & said that I was a part of her and she carried our experiences together in her heart always. We both love each other no doubt, but she is not ready to commit or leave her job of 8 years or the town she lives in. I can not leave where I live either. What do you do?
2007-11-23 01:39:03 · 7 answers · asked by J.J. 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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2007-11-23 01:45:41 · answer #1 · answered by †Evonne† 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
all the excuses in the world don't matter, the only one truth that matters is she does not want it. This is the problem with internet dating, had you been spending the time in person as you had on the net, this would have shown or been senced earlier. It is so easy to fall or be impressed with others over the net, but real life is different. In real life this relationship would have never been, as for distance. There is absolutely nothing you can do, even if you could move, she has made it plain "no". This was not meant to be, let it go and do you dating in person. Internet relationship that work or last long term are few and far between, think of it as a lottery because that is the statistics.
2007-11-23 01:52:08 · answer #2 · answered by ferochira 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait it out for awhile.
Let her continue with her therapy that is a good thing for you cause you don't want or need the extra baggage.
Stay in contact maybe call once a week to see how she is doing.
Maybe in 6 months something will change in the job area and one of you will have to move, hopefully closer to each other.
Another thing you need to consider is maybe she lied to you and used you for an excuse, maybe she is seeing someone else and just didn't want to tell you that.
Thing always happen for a reason even if we don't understand why.
2007-11-23 02:20:15 · answer #3 · answered by Emptiness 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its unfortunate that this is happening to you. When someone isn't ready to commit themselves, you should except this and remain good friends. She is honest by telling you that's she's not ready, so you should respect this.As time moves on, if she really loves you it will all work out in the end. You must have patience if she is the one you hope to be with one day. Weigh the odds, as time goes on and you will know in your heart if she is the one for you. Time is the only cure for this situation. Cocoa
2007-11-23 01:51:58 · answer #4 · answered by cocoa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
r u sure she didn't find another man or possibility?
Well, if neither wants to leave the job and she doesn't want to carry on long-distance like this, which can be hard on people, movie on for now.
If it's meant to be, it'll be. This separation may show her how much you were the right one and she'll come back...but then again, her pulling out like that, maybe you'll be glad you didn't marry her, it would have been a mistake
2007-11-23 01:46:58 · answer #5 · answered by Jack Bent 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You got a gift, instead of being tied down to one person, you are free to experience life. In order to destroy a relationship, get married.
2007-11-23 01:43:04 · answer #6 · answered by acedelux 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be thankful she is trying to work on her own life instead of dragging you down - she still cares
2007-11-23 01:43:48 · answer #7 · answered by T Leeves 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋