Long story,so I'll break it down to the basics.
A few years ago the wife(now ex) cheated on me, got knocked up and I divorced her.
She got the house and car (which I still make payments on) as well as alimony and child support for a kid that is not even mine.
Since the divorce, my boss has let me do as much overtime as I could, but with the sluggish economy he can no longer approve overtime.
I got a night job at Home Depot but it's 1/3 of what I made on O.T.
I have friends and family who have been very good to me and deserve something, but with her maintenance, the attorneys payments and the cutbacks at work I don't even have enough to pay my own bills.
I thought if I stole some things (from stores, not individuals) it might be excusable ?
2007-11-23 02:18:29 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It took over a year ,but DNA has proven the child is not mine,There will be a hearing in March of 2008. But all that stuff costs a lot of money .
And according to the state my gross earnings disqualify me from any assistance.
2007-11-23 02:57:25 · update #1
Look....do what you gotta do....
2007-11-23 02:32:50 · answer #1 · answered by ♥SummerRain♥ 6 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Can you get a gift another way? Have you even asked your church, or the "Salvation Army" how to gift your family without any money? Or look to see if there cheap gifts at their second hand store. Stealing is wrong, except in a real life or death situation. IF you had to steal something to save a life, that might be forgiveable. But not stealing so you can look like you have more money than you do. Be honest with your childrem, that your "gift" is paying off the family debts. Sorry you married this bad woman, but the world does not owe you anything. You inflicted this mother on your children yourself!!! If you cannot support your family, gifts are a form of a lie anyway. A gift should be over and above the support your family is owed! If you family was starving, and you stole bread, I would not condemn you, although many would! Stealing to "buy your way" with so-called "gifts" is NEVER OK!!! Give them your time, or a gift like a hand made Christmas message etc. I grew up dirt poor, with no TV or toys, but I loved my poor immigrant parents...although they could no give me gifts!!! Why sell your soul to te devil, in order to steal, so you can lie and say you have a lot of money? In the end, they will just wonder why you did not give MORE!!! The greatest wealth of earth is SATISFACTION with what you have (THANKS giving)!!! And being at peace, with God and your own conscience.
2016-05-25 02:33:17 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I seriously hope your joking. I too went through a divorce. It takes two no matter what! It was your decision to call it quits. You don't punish a child when it's not of their doing, even though I may agree with you on certain things.The best thing you can give each one is LOVE, Im sure they will understand your situation. If not! they weren't all that good of a friend, or person. I sure don't put any one of my friends or family above another because they bought me something, when the others could afford too. The price of LOVE far out weights all other treasures. I will pray that God will ease your financial situation
and make you realize you are a better person for doing the right thing. There is always some one in a more destitute situation then ourselves,and there were never any promises saying life would be fair. Good Luck! you had to ask even though you knew the answer. This to will pass, hang in there because later on you will be able to help someone else in times of troubled waters.
2007-11-23 02:49:00 · answer #3 · answered by mandm68 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
NO, it's not justifiable to steal. Don't do it. You could petition the courts about the child support and alimony, and you can ask the court to order a paternity test on the child. But don't go the coward's criminal route and steal just so you can give someon a holiday gift. Do something from the heart, like making your friends a nice dinner.
2007-11-23 02:32:38 · answer #4 · answered by ♛Qu€€n♛J€§§¡¢a♛™ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweetie STEALING is never and will never be excusable. you need to give those good friends and family members a nice heart felt card expressing your gratitude and support they have shown you through your time of need. you need to look into taking the real father of the baby to court for reimbursement. and try googling thekidisnotmine.com. there is an organization out there that will assist fathers in your situation. paying child support for kids that are not theirs. and if she got the car she should be paying for it. i think you really got the short end of the deal. your attorneys didnt do you any justice. but sweetie dont steal anything. you will only go to jail and than your situation will be worse. so hang in there and continue to hustle like you are doing and it will get better. GodBless
2007-11-23 02:37:50 · answer #5 · answered by Crystal G 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As bleak as things sound for you right now, it's never ok to steal. It sounds like you've got good people around you that care about you. They are also aware of your financial situation, and don't you think they know you can't afford gifts right now? And even if you were able to steal something for them, do you think they would accept it knowing you would get in trouble? You're a good man. You're going to make it through this messy time in your life. The success that's coming will be so much sweeter if you can say that you did it right. God bless you.
2007-11-23 02:29:13 · answer #6 · answered by prissytwin 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I do sympathize, but please don't do this. Ethical aspects aside, what if you were caught and prosecuted? What if one of the recipients found out their gift was stolen? I'm sure your friends are aware of your financial hardship, wouldn't they question how you were able to purchase gifts for them? You sound like you have some good, loyal friends that really care about you. Get them a card and tell them how you feel about them, how much their friendship means to you. It may sound like nothing but believe me, they'll love it.
Do you have access to low cost legal aide - get a consultation and see if you can have the child support and alimony orders amended due to your current financial situation.
I am so sorry you're going through this, I wish you the very best.
2007-11-23 02:31:23 · answer #7 · answered by LoFlo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all the problem is why are you paying child support for a kid that isn't yours? Was in proven by DNA? That will help with money issues. Stealing isn't going to help you at all. You know right from wrong. Call local charities and see if they can help you. Putting yourself in jail is not worth it.
2007-11-23 02:28:03 · answer #8 · answered by Nikki 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are no excuses for stealing.....unless you are taking food in order to survive...I know that I wouldn't feel very good receiving a gift from someone who stole the gift...Aren't your friends and family mature enough to understand that you are having some financial difficulties right now?
2007-11-23 02:24:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's never okay to steal. Just explain that you can't afford to buy gifts for them this year, but that you'll offer your time or services instead. Home Depot really isn't going to like it when they catch you stealing and when you lose your job, you'll have even less money to pay your bills and your leach of an ex-wife.
2007-11-23 02:25:00 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Stealing huh?
What a wondeful way to CELEBRATE the BIRTH of our LORD!
Jiminy crickets! and there is no mention of children other than the little one that belongs to someone else? have you taken on the role of daddy with that one..emotionally not just financially.
If you think STEALING is an appropriate response to get gifts for "friends" and/ or family (who? cousins? aunts? your MOM?) then I understand completely why she was able to clear her conscience to cheat....and cheating is always wrong too.
got to hope this is a joke. sorry. if not..home depot managers? have you done your employee background checks lately????
2007-11-23 04:15:05 · answer #11 · answered by foxinsox 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋