Marriage & Divorce - 25 November 2007

He has left for work this morning with specific instructions NOT to put the central heating on. He says that I can light the fire instead, but I'm too cold to go outside to get some fuel :-(

My hands are so cold I can hardly type!

What should I do? Sneak the heating on or grit my teeth and go outside for fuel for the fire?

2007-11-25 23:37:52 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband and I have been married for a year and 2 months. I orginally felt rushed into marriage but did it anyway. Once we were married, naturally we fought a lot and I left my husband. While I was gone, I had an affair (one night stand and not proud nor do I need to hear what a screw up I am). He wanted me back home..so I came home. (This is Feb.) After returning, things weren't the same for me, but I couldn't tell him. In Jun., I left again this time wanting to leave permanantly. I couldn't handle the way he would talk to me and treat me like crap. This time, I told him about the incident in February. We got counsel, he forgave me and everything was going well. I came home. We didn't fight, argue.. I got pregnant in Aug. Since my return home, I've done nothing but love him. I believe in change and forgiveness and I did both. Now, Im 3.5 months pregnant and he says he can't forgive me for the incident in Feb. and wants divorce. I'm confused. What can I do? I don't want a divorce!

2007-11-25 23:17:22 · 14 answers · asked by *~Cam's Mommy ~* 4

2007-11-25 22:58:17 · 12 answers · asked by Ankita P 2

My Daughter was killed in a car crash in 2003. Her husband was driving the vehicle. They had been married for three weeks and had a child of 3.5 at the time. He is now going out with the third women since her death. His current girlfriend of 9 months lives 12 miles away and has a child also. They have made the decision to take my Grandchild out of his school close to my home and move to her town and school. Relations have been strained since the death of my daughter although we have been very supportive in clearing his name following the accident and hiding the fact he had taken cannabis so it wasn't published on the front page of the newspaper. How do we maintain contact with our Grandson? Do we have rights?

2007-11-25 22:57:56 · 23 answers · asked by janjan666 1

My husband is mad because I'm not excited that he's home. He moved back after cheating on me and living with another girl for a year. Why does he expect me to be happy and to treat him well after putting me through this? He said he thought I would be happier.

2007-11-25 22:49:55 · 29 answers · asked by blue eyes 2

2007-11-25 22:24:20 · 12 answers · asked by sweet 3

married 3 years, together 7. im on the brink of despair with my life and feel i can take it no more.My husband has never been interested in lots of sex or being caring towards me, we have sex maybe once or twice a month but if i did not make a fuss about it then it would probably be once every two months. When we do have sex, i feel like im stupid for making a fuss.

i thought i could live this way and accept that i made vows i should keep forever. ive tried to talk to him, cried at him, shouted, but still no passion. there have been other problems in our relationship- he is very moody sometimes and can be critical. ive given him everything in me to try and keep our marriage- emotionally and financially to ensure that i have done my best. i have no confidence anymore-i never had much to begin with. its got to the point where im crying all the time, falling asleep crying with him going to sleep next to me and dreading my life.im only 27 and want a family.should i leave or stay?

2007-11-25 22:22:17 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous

called the cops on my ex who came to pick up the kids. He shows up at random times, expecting me to give up the children whenever he comes to pick them up. I've adjusted my schedule for him, especially now that he has to work and so we've had a verbal agreement, different from the court order.

He's 2 hours early and the children are napping. I told him to come back at his scheduled time. He gets upset and rings the doorbell in succession, about three times, again. He's not waiting. I told him again, please come back. I'll have the children up and ready by that time. He starts shouting obscenities and then he kicks the outer screen door. He makes a pass for my car and kicks in the front of it. Then he takes off.

He left footprints on the door & busted my license plate cover. I called the cops and the officer didnt come until an hour later. He wouldn't even run his license. He said my ex didn't actually damage anything, and he has no priors so he can't arrest him.

Is this true?

2007-11-25 22:15:08 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

We haven't seen each other in 15 years. We're both each others' "fishing story" - you know, the one that got away...
We married other people, I'm still married, he's not.
Any hints on how to handle it all?

2007-11-25 22:08:01 · 29 answers · asked by grrrl 3

really need advise bad

2007-11-25 21:13:41 · 11 answers · asked by dalfinsrule 1

one of my ways to keep in toch with my wife is to talk about happy memories and it worked thanks to yahoo.answer- i used the advices of people- but when i talk about anything else i find no reacting.




is there anything else i can use more than talking about our lovely past. i tried many things to use to start a conversation with my wife like jokes, kitchen, furniture etc but no interests? i need to make our relation more powerful. she forgived me and i know that she loves me and i love her more.


please help me to be a happy family!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

2007-11-25 20:37:16 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been happily married for fifteen years. My female coworkers on hot days wear practically nothing. One night after work, I was in the file room. A coworker that was married came in. We were talking and she asked if I liked her. Of course, I said yes, and she kissed me. I returned the favor. We ended up making love right there in the file room and we have not stopped. Six months later, my wife and I were at a local bar when she came in and asked to sit with us. After having a couple of brews, she asked if we wanted to have a threesome. My wife was interested, so we went to our house. That evening and next day were wonderful. I had wild sex with two beautiful blonds. We usually get together once a week and have a wonderful time together.

2007-11-25 20:04:08 · 30 answers · asked by jim 1

how do you deal with a situation where your spouse doesn't trust your relations with a workmate of yours despite having explained that you just work together and nothing more than friends?

2007-11-25 19:18:15 · 11 answers · asked by ktamay 1

I love my husband a lot. However, Whenever he does something that hurts me and I get upset, he gets mad at me. Even if he is clearly and admittedly in the wrong, he still gets mad at me if I'm upset.

Tonight he was looking for a packet of paperwork he needs for work tomorrow. He left it in the car. He couldn't find it, so I tried to help him. I found the paperwork in the trunk. I went to hand it to him and he grabbed it out of my hand and went in the house and slammed the door. I didn't rub it in his face that I found it or anything, I was just trying to help. This happens often. He takes things out on me or is ungreatful when I help him with things.

I told him that it hurts my feelings when he treats me that way and he just gave the a generic "sorry" and acted mad at me. I'm not sure of the correct way to respond to that. Tonight I told him that his apology meant nothing because he never does things differently afterwards. Was that wrong of me? What would you do?

2007-11-25 18:56:57 · 17 answers · asked by sarahbeth 4

If the person you were dating refused to live with you due to your adult children living at home would you leave them? or would push your ADULT children to grow up and move out and starting taking care of themselves, so you can go on with your life?

2007-11-25 18:50:46 · 12 answers · asked by mouse 1

2007-11-25 18:49:06 · 32 answers · asked by busy thinking! 1

2007-11-25 18:36:54 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

Im an egoistic person who has suceded always in work.But personal relationships 've always brought me down.Until now,I've not had a single personal relationship fulfililng.Although all my work relationships with colleagues,bosses,vendors,clients,etc have been very successful and I have earned a lot of respectfrom everyone.But somehow,my personal relationships have always failed.Itsonly that my family gives me lot of love and they like me as the person I m.They believe i m cheerful,get-along types,good sense of humor,optimistic.
So, why have i failed repeatedly in love?Even now,I m married.But I m on d verge of geting a divorce.The reason I feel is coz I may be too egoistic/proud/arrogant person to my hubby who is less successful in life and could not meet my personal expectations.We dont have kids.Ours was an arranged maraige.I am expected to spend my life without complaining.How do I do that?The only way out is that I focus 200% on my career without expecting a lovel life. Is it?

2007-11-25 18:22:31 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

Right now... this second... what would make u happy? I sooooo know what would make me happy but he's soooooo not doing it for me!! WTF

2007-11-25 18:21:28 · 18 answers · asked by NONAME 4

Ok this is going to sound bad. I chase and chase this guy and when he gives me something in return I don't want it..And some would call it that whole you want what you can't have till you have it.which may be true ..but theres more...He only really looks good when I am drunk.other than that I always see flaws in him.I hate his laugh but I'll look at him and tell him I love it..I tell him I love having sex but truth be known its the worst ever! He's to over weight but I tell him he carries it good.I know what a man wants to hear and I tell it to him perfectly.. I even started going for the sae NFL team as him. All comes down to this..he is scared to be with me because he says he doesn't want to mess anything up with us...I think I f-ed myself on this one. Its like I just want him to say I love you ..so I can in return say thank god f- you dude and F all the crap I had to deal with and how he's not worth it....i was inlove with him but he destroyed my heart..no I want to hurt him back!

2007-11-25 18:18:18 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

My sister got married to her husband like 3 years ago. He treated her like a queen for like a year and all of a sudden a nightmare. He beats her...laughs at the law...in and out of jail and the beatings get worse if she tries to leave. One time she left and he beat up my mom and my sister for hiding her and finally she came out of hiding and left with him to protect her family. He even beat up his own mother. I'm afraid for my sister..I know she will die if she does not get out. He threatens that if she leaves...he will hurt someone from our family and eventually he'll get out and she will get it bad...I feel so bad for her!! A retraining order, a peice of paper will not protect her. He tells us...I know where you all live. :0(

2007-11-25 18:11:54 · 22 answers · asked by Baby 2

I have a baby boy. Our differences have always existed. My husband is totally irresponsible and lacks sensitivity. I on the other hand took pride in my superwomen capability. However, of late I have been having health problems and my expectations from my husband have increased. I know the easiest thing to do is change myself. However, everything my husband does is becoming a problem. I do not want my son to have such an example in front of him. Can someone suggest what I need to do? The problems are affecting my sanity.

2007-11-25 18:06:55 · 17 answers · asked by babasbhakta 3

If a person is married but find themselves attracted to another person, and have flings with another other than their spouse, but they still love their spouse dearly, do you think it is wrong or just human nature

2007-11-25 17:59:01 · 21 answers · asked by ? 3

I met Eric on MySpace back in April, moved in with him 2 weeks later and married him 2 and a half months later. I love him with all of my heart and knew from the minute I met him that I would be with him forever. But here lately all I can think to myself is that he wants to get back with his exs and he wants every woman on earth but me. He really doesn't do anything to make me think that so I'm unsure where the feelings are coming from. I just feel like we're not as close anymore and I don't know how to fix it. I can look at photos of him and his exs and it just seems to me that they had more and were closer than him and I are. I'm always depressed and I'm always grouchy with him and I know that it will eventually push him away and I don't want that. So if anyone can help me to get these thoughts out of my head I would appreciate it.

2007-11-25 17:58:12 · 16 answers · asked by Yantis5280 1

My folks saved me last thurs from my bf's apartment coz he was getting a little out of hand with me, trying to get violent with me and was showing no respect when he talked to me. Now my mom wants me to end the r/s with him. My bf is suffering from depression so when he got violent, the only way i could think of was to get away from him. This , according to his friends, relatives and family doctor that I should have stayed around with him. I tried to calm him down , it was useless coz he looked very provoked. If he so claimed he loves me so much, why would he wanna lay hands on me ? I met him again today after 4 days of being apart, he told me I shouldn't have gone with my parents the other day, coz now for me to come back and stay with him is gonna be difficult. I'd like to help this poor guy recover from depression with my help of being around for him. But how can I convince my folks to allow me to stay with him again ?

2007-11-25 17:54:59 · 12 answers · asked by Arpengenie 1

what kind of grounds if a husband cheated on his wife?

2007-11-25 17:40:39 · 7 answers · asked by Mary-Ann M 1

a friend of mine cheated on his wife of half a year, do you think they'll get divorced? i'm the only person who knows he cheated like 4 times with his ex. he feels REALLY bad that it happens, but when she's around he can't control himself. his wife lives like 2 hours away, and i seriously doubt she'd ever find out on her own. he says he loves her and feels bad, but i feel like if you TRULY love a person, you wouldn't have it in you to cheat on them. what are the chances they'll divorce. i sort of hope they do, i think he rushed into getting married and wasn't ready.

2007-11-25 17:40:07 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-11-25 17:36:19 · 6 answers · asked by ~Amor~ 3

My mother raised me to be very old fashion. Therefore, I disagree with nudity and sexuel content in movies. I feel sex should be behind clothes doors for a reason. The problem is, my husband loves movies and his mother often invites me and him out to one. I always disagree because I do not like it. I feel it is very degrading for women. My husband disagrees and totally questioned it and refused to support how I feel. I love my husband and I love having sex but I don't think it is right for women and men to get paid to act it out on T.V that is not a good movie in my eyes. I feel if something is important to my husband (or to me) it should be important to me (or him). Should he be acting like this? What should I do about this? Change the way I have felt? Please no rude comments..

2007-11-25 17:35:54 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

So, my bf and I have been in an LDR for a year and a half. We've been fighting quite a bit lately (LDR= trust issues) it kinda comes with the territory. He springs on me tonight that I'm too controlling and he "needs some time to think." I assume we're "on a break" (translation: split up and okay to screw around) he says no, he just needs to think. What the F does that mean? Is he just stringing me along? Is there someone else? I just don't get it. In one breath, he's talking about moving here, in the next he's telling me how moving will kill his career. Is he trying to tell me something with all of this doubletalk? HELP?????

2007-11-25 17:35:15 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous