I met Eric on MySpace back in April, moved in with him 2 weeks later and married him 2 and a half months later. I love him with all of my heart and knew from the minute I met him that I would be with him forever. But here lately all I can think to myself is that he wants to get back with his exs and he wants every woman on earth but me. He really doesn't do anything to make me think that so I'm unsure where the feelings are coming from. I just feel like we're not as close anymore and I don't know how to fix it. I can look at photos of him and his exs and it just seems to me that they had more and were closer than him and I are. I'm always depressed and I'm always grouchy with him and I know that it will eventually push him away and I don't want that. So if anyone can help me to get these thoughts out of my head I would appreciate it.
2007-11-25 17:58:12 · 16 answers · asked by Yantis5280 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your relationship lacks the foundation of a solid relationship / marriage - Trust!
Unfortunately, your future is bleak. By the sounds of your rush to judgment, I expect your young? Realistically, an exit plan is wise at this point, and prudent for your future health.
Close this chapter, and look to open a new chapter soon!
2007-11-25 18:28:02 · answer #1 · answered by Nana Butterfly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoa, slow down. I just read your question and I feel that I know you better than anyone you know. I just read your question 1 min. ago and I consider you my best friend. But, lately I feel unsure where your feelings are coming from. I love you with all my heart (I knew this from the minute I read your question that I would respond to you forever.) Sorry for the sarcasm, but are you serious??? How on earth could you meet someone and enter a serious relationship in 7 months? I'm sorry that in recent days, months, weeks that your "just not as close anymore." You've NEVER been close. The reason why you feel the way you do is because you don't know this guy! I meet people everyday, some people I really like, some I don't. Have you ever heard the saying.."Rome wasn't built in a day?" Rome was a great society that took a long time to develop, just like the United States. As Americans, we have developed a great society. This didn't happen without pain and suffering.It took over a century to build a great,yet not perfect society. How can you LOVE something you've only been exposed to for about 210 days?
2007-11-26 02:28:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get therapy! If you married him within two and half months of knowing him, it sounds like you needed therapy before that to find out what you want, why you moved in with him 1/2 weeks after meeting him, and what you expect of marriage. How can you love someone, "with all my heart" when you've known him for 2 weeks? Be wary of Falling in Love with Love.
2007-11-26 02:09:27 · answer #3 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you entered a committed relationship before the trust was completely there. This isn't to say that it was wrong for you to marry him or that he isn't the one for you. I think you're just feeling insecure because you haven't had a chance to develop that closeness, yet being married is putting pressure on you.
Just let the relationship develop and remind yourself how amazing you are and why he chose you out of alllll the women in the world.
2007-11-26 02:08:41 · answer #4 · answered by rorybuns 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well i can actually really see where u are coming from i married my husband 3 months after we met..and we have now been married 2 years..i know its hard but theres nothing you can really do...if he wants to be with u he should show u..if he doesnt then its best not to waste anymore time...i say u sit down and try to have a serious heart to heart with him...and sooner or later you will know one way or the other if he wants to be with u...and u will know if u even want to be with him...sometimes women try to hold on to something thats not worth having anyway...just take your time and really think...if u know u cant stay with him the way things are then dont...good luck
2007-11-26 02:08:36 · answer #5 · answered by Brandi F 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You married someone you don't know at all... sorry to say.
It takes at least a year (usually longer) to get to know someone.
Meanwhile, most women have good intuition, and if you feel your guy is interested in his ex's, then he probably is.
Maybe it's time to do what is best for YOU... being depressed and grouchy is a normal reaction to a situation such as yours..
2007-11-26 02:06:21 · answer #6 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You really don't know him. Maybe they had more time to make more history then you all did. If you are feeling this way, then chances are the feelings are true. The only thing to do is talk about the problems, after that, if there's no evidence, then all you have is what you feel.
2007-11-26 02:14:22 · answer #7 · answered by Go GO Ressa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You lack trust and are a jealous person.
It's a flaw but it's not absoloutely horrible. It's common with women.
What you need to do is learn how to love yourself.. I think you moved to quickly with this guy.. you didn't love yourself so how can you love someone else?
If you don't have any trust this marriage won't work. I'd suggest therapy for you.
2007-11-26 02:08:10 · answer #8 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
first of all you sound like your own worse enemy, you are being really hard on yourself. you have to realize that you deserve love, and he loves you and you deserve him. i think we all snap at our husbands here and again but maybe you have some hidden resentment towards him. i think you need to see a personal counselor and work on your own issues and if you don't see things improving in your love life you may want to consider marriage counseling.
2007-11-26 02:06:42 · answer #9 · answered by Roxanne G 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know it's hard to trust somebody but if you don't want to give that trust to that someone... the feeling you are feeling right now is one of the outcomes of not giving your trust to that someone. You should give your trust to someone. You'll feel betrayal someday but it's part of giving your trust and knowing that that person doesn't deserve your trust then, dump him. Hoped I helped you.
2007-11-26 02:22:53 · answer #10 · answered by mezrah_brezenh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋