My mother raised me to be very old fashion. Therefore, I disagree with nudity and sexuel content in movies. I feel sex should be behind clothes doors for a reason. The problem is, my husband loves movies and his mother often invites me and him out to one. I always disagree because I do not like it. I feel it is very degrading for women. My husband disagrees and totally questioned it and refused to support how I feel. I love my husband and I love having sex but I don't think it is right for women and men to get paid to act it out on T.V that is not a good movie in my eyes. I feel if something is important to my husband (or to me) it should be important to me (or him). Should he be acting like this? What should I do about this? Change the way I have felt? Please no rude comments..
2007-11-25 17:35:54 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We have been married for almost a year but have been together since I was 14. Well since he doesn't live with him mother now he says when we go to the movies it is their way of spending time together. I don't want to be rude and just not go I would look like a *****. Don't you think it would be rude of me to say no when she asks me? I am afraid she will think its silly since I am a grown women. I think my issue with it is my dad used to watch porn and it affected my mom so much and so now it kills me to see that because of how it hurt my mom.
2007-11-25 17:54:03 · update #1
You are each entitled to your own separate beliefs and opinions, and should also respect eachother's beliefs and opinions. My husband and I have many different interests. He likes to hunt, I like to shop and fix things around the house. We don't do those things together - we just agree to take time to do those things by ourselves, and find things we have in common to enjoy together. Just because he enjoys movies doesn't mean you have to. You can allow him to go see them with his mother, and politely decline to go. He shouldn't hassle you about it. He should respect the fact that you have a belief and that you are sticking to it. You however, should not berate him for going to the movies, as he was raised differently and has different values than you. Married couples will never agree on everything. Sometimes you just have to agree to disagree, and keep on loving eachother!
2007-11-25 17:56:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should talk to your husband and your mother in law and let them both know how you feel and why. Then tell them you don't want to go and watch these type of movies anymore, but that your want them to go and have a good time. Tell them to consider it Mother and son night out. Tell them you will meet them for dinner before the movie or something where you can all be together and then after dinner they can go and see the movie and you can go home. That way you are all doing something together, everyone gets what they want, no one gets hurt and everyone is happy. Good Luck.
2007-11-26 02:08:04 · answer #2 · answered by dcdaniel1968 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People have different opinions on different issues, and thats one of the few things people have control over these days. I am sure your husband understands and respects your opinion on nudity and sex scenes. But his opinion is different, dont change how you feel and your values because other people dont follow them. just pick out movies that suite your taste try to make a compromise. im sure there are things he thinks and you disagree. the world wouldnt make sense if everyone agreed. what would we talk about?
2007-11-26 01:47:13 · answer #3 · answered by Ashley S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say to a degree I agree with you but here is the issue, in this day and age sex sells and it is everywhere. it is almost impossible to get away from. I am not saying you should change your beliefs but perhaps you should talk to a professional and find out why this bothers you to this degree. you are an adult and you know the people in movies (unless it is porn) are not really having sex at all. try talking to someone and seeing if something happened in your past that makes you sensitive to the subject.
2007-11-26 01:44:17 · answer #4 · answered by Roxanne G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can't you say no to the movie? Can you talk to your mother in law? How long have you been married? If your totally against it, then don't go. If he can't respect that simple request, then he doesn't respect you, your feelings, or your opinion. If that's the case, that's bad. It seems like a trivial thing for him to get angry about. If your uncomfortable, you can't change it. Why would he make it an issue?
2007-11-26 01:46:19 · answer #5 · answered by skrzych 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and your husband are two separate individuals with different ideas... neither of you can force ideas on the other...
Also, i'd like to say that your husband obviously watched movies and TV with sexual content BEFORE you got married... so why complain now?
If you don't like these movies, don't watch them....
and take care.
2007-11-26 01:46:10 · answer #6 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is one of those subjects every couple shoudl talk about BEFORE they get married. You need to work this out with a third party- pastor/counselor, to get some unity going inm this marraige.
2007-11-26 05:16:28 · answer #7 · answered by kttphoenix 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say get this settled before kids come along. If you can't agree on a movie .. oh boy .. look out ..
Good Luck!
2007-11-26 02:06:27 · answer #8 · answered by Queenie` 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋