I'm going to see my ex soon, I know we're going to end up in bed. Is it worth feeling guilty in advance?

Question

We haven't seen each other in 15 years. We're both each others' "fishing story" - you know, the one that got away...
We married other people, I'm still married, he's not.
Any hints on how to handle it all?

Answer 1

nothing is worth feeling guilty in advance for
plenty time for that later
and who knows, you may not feel it at all
so it will have been for nothing

relax
see what happens

Answer 2

Well, if you feel like you wanna end up in bed, go for it.

But take notice, the partner you married, is that fair for him/her?
It's marriage, you should be loyal. But then again, thats my opinion.

So the question comes down to, can you live with it and are you able to face the consequences because you can't live a secret forever and karma comes back twice as hard.

P.S. You should figure which one you want. Your ex or your married partner. You can't have both unfortunately. We'll, I take that back, you can but you will hurt one or the other, or possibly both and be feeling lonely.

Follow your heart.

Answer 3

Have fun!!! Don't feel guilty. Here are the facts of life just in case because I get the feeling you haven't learned them all yet:

1. There is no Santa
2. All men cheat
3. Marriage sucks
4. Everyone lies (you even lie to yourself)

Good luck and Happy Holidays. Email me
if you want honest answers from a man that doesn't
lie anymore.

Answer 4

You're married don't go see him. Why would you go see a man you know you're going to cheat on your husband with? Besides 15 years is a long time and a lot has changed, more than likely he is not the same person you fell in love with so long ago.

Answer 5

Unless you are willing to ruin your marriage and crush your husband, I would not go.

Or if you MUST go, take a friend or your husband along with you.

There is a reason this person is your ex. Try to remember that and all the gruesome details surrounding the break up now - before you go.

You can still be friends but you don't need to sleep together.

Answer 6

Don't end up in bed, better yet, do not see him, if you go to bed with him he will find out!!! Your husband, I mean!!!!


Someone else will find out and it will get back to your husband, do not do this to him do not break your husband's heart, around the holidays, how selfish!!!!

You took a vow in front of your husband and not your ex, stay away from your ex, there is a reason why you broke up in the first place, do not do it again!!!!!

If you can't see how much your husband loves you, you are blind, and if you still had feelings for your ex, why did you take your sacred vows in front of your husband, your family and his?????

If you do this, and it is your choice to do so, then watch out for Karma, karma, karma!!!!!!!!!

Answer 7

If I were you, I should avoid the whole situation unless you want to be with him on a permanent basis, then you should let your current partner know in advance of a sexual encounter with your ex. Surely he (your ex) is mature enough to go along with that. 15 years ia a long time and why put what you have now at risk unless of course you are not happy in you current relationship. Hope this helps.....

Answer 8

Don't risk your marriage for someone that has changed, just as you have. He may not even be the same person he was years ago.

How would you feel if your husband did that to you? Besides, how much respect will he have for a woman that will cheat on her husband. Not much, I can assure you. You are just a booty call, because he already knows that you are taken.

Answer 9

if u r feeling guilty den y do u wanna do it in the 1st place...

i mean think abt it ... u r thinking abt screwing up ur marriage for a man ...dumpd by 2 woman 1 of which is U...

n if u reeeeally want to c him... go wid some frnd ..come back home n have sex wid ur husband :D dat way u get to c us ex n have some fun too w/o ruinin ur married life :p

Answer 10

Dont meet him- you are going to ruin a perfectly good marriage for what?? A few minutes of self indulgence. You must surely think your marriage is worth more than that? You are going to hurt an awful lot of people here- think about it.

Answer 11

Man, that would be totally unfair for your husband....get over it will you?...past is past deal with whom you're with today...think it over many times before you attempt to ruined not only your marriage and your life but also to the life of the one you chose to marry....What if your husband does the same thing to you? Would that be alright?