Im an egoistic person who has suceded always in work.But personal relationships 've always brought me down.Until now,I've not had a single personal relationship fulfililng.Although all my work relationships with colleagues,bosses,vendors,clients,etc have been very successful and I have earned a lot of respectfrom everyone.But somehow,my personal relationships have always failed.Itsonly that my family gives me lot of love and they like me as the person I m.They believe i m cheerful,get-along types,good sense of humor,optimistic.
So, why have i failed repeatedly in love?Even now,I m married.But I m on d verge of geting a divorce.The reason I feel is coz I may be too egoistic/proud/arrogant person to my hubby who is less successful in life and could not meet my personal expectations.We dont have kids.Ours was an arranged maraige.I am expected to spend my life without complaining.How do I do that?The only way out is that I focus 200% on my career without expecting a lovel life. Is it?
2007-11-25 18:22:31 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I always believe in saying " you won't have the best of both worlds.." Coz when it happens you won't see what you are able to get through and what you are missing. You were really the one who could answer your question coz you were the one who really sees the real score. but with what you say, I guess its better that you spend time visualizing things. Ask yourself if the only way to be happy and to make things work was to get divorced. If the answer is yes then do it. Not just for yourself but for your partner also. If you think that he also was no longer happy with what was happening then do what's best for the two of you. Pray coz prayer really works...
2007-11-25 18:36:02 · answer #1 · answered by RHEA 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't work on any of those things unless you love your partner. I think you need to un-arrange the marriage. This is not a failure on your part if you never loved him. Maybe you thought you did and turned out to be wrong. I know exactly what you mean when you speak of his failure to meet your expectations. The plain truth is you are convinced you are better than he is. Not a good balance for a marriage, simply because that feeling undermines all of the other ones. Sadly if you are to feel and practice patience, tolerance, forebearance, and compassion, you absolutely must have respect before all else. You may need some counseling to straighten a few of your own kinks, but I'm sure you are capable of having a loving rewarding relationship, even if not with your current husband.
2007-11-26 02:43:21 · answer #2 · answered by older is wiser 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you are not prepared for a love relationship at this time in your life, and have not been, ever?
Time may change this...... so if you do get divorced, consider casual relationships, and casual dating for companionship... or the company of woman friends...
Just because we are interested in sex and having a good time, doesn't mean we are "ready" for a committment...
take care.
2007-11-26 02:28:33 · answer #3 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋