If the person you were dating refused to live with you due to your adult children living at home would you leave them? or would push your ADULT children to grow up and move out and starting taking care of themselves, so you can go on with your life?
2007-11-25 18:50:46 · 12 answers · asked by mouse 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Depending on my child's situation. If they are healthy and there is no reason they can't work they shouldn't be living at home anyway. But I wouldn't put my child out for a mate. I may just be crazy but why is the man coming to live in the womans house anyway why isn't he trying to find a place for the woman to live with him. You then are trading you kids for him. If you are dating he needs to have his own place.
2007-11-25 19:00:27 · answer #1 · answered by tikababy 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your children should always come first. However, what is your specific circumstance? Are your adult children living with you to get a free ride? If so, they need to be nudged out anyways. Are they living with you because they are looking for jobs, in college, or ill? Then your bf needs to accept that. If he doesn't want to live with you only because you have family living with you, then maybe he isn't the type of person you want to be with or live with in the first place. He entered the relationship knowing you had children and probably knew that they lived with you. Have an honest heart-to-heart talk with him and see if you can work this out.Good Luck!
2007-11-26 03:17:23 · answer #2 · answered by iloveeeyore 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men have come and gone from my life, but my kids are my kids forever. However, I would defiantly push my children to grow up and be responsible for themselves. There is a limit. You have to be the mom and not the friend. Your parenting job is done when you see your children living on their own, making it in the world.
2007-11-26 03:08:34 · answer #3 · answered by booper 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Your children should always be the most important people in your life, no matter how old they are. Find someone who likes your children. I would never push my children out of the door for anybody or any reason.
2007-11-26 04:21:17 · answer #4 · answered by Highland 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you have done your job raising them to be adults. they need to get out on their own so you can live your life now the way you want and be happy.
2007-11-26 03:12:17 · answer #5 · answered by luciousgreeneyedlady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe the person you are dating doesn't want to live with you?
Perhaps they are content with their own space.
It's possible to have a relationship while living in separate homes.
2007-11-26 03:04:59 · answer #6 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would encourage my kids to grow up, not for a man, but this is what they need to do anyway. You might want to check into why he feel the need for your kids to leave.
2007-11-26 03:07:55 · answer #7 · answered by Go GO Ressa 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i wouldnt ditch my kids for any new bf. thats harsh!
most parents do it, im sure you've read plenty and heard stories of mothers doing this or that or not believing their daughters about their new bfs and etc.. how did you feel about them? obviously he has acceptance issues and has not accepted that you have children in your life. id ditch him until he grew up. dont force your kids to move out, they will do so when they feel ready. encouragement is fine but dont push them.
2007-11-26 02:56:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I WOULD KICK HIM TO THE CURB! MY CHILDREN COME FIRST! NOW MATTER HOW OLD THEY ARE! WE CHOOSE TO HAVE CHILDREN, THEY DO NOT CHOOSE TO BE BORN! I DO NOT UNDERSTAND WHY WOMEN THINK THEY NEED A MAN TO LIVE WITH THEM? IF HE IS WORTH BEING IN YOUR LIFE THEN WHY HASN'T HE ASKED YOU TO MARRY HIM AND THEN LEAVE YOUR HOUSE TO YOUR KIDS TO LIVE IN?! THEN IF IT DOESN'T WORK OUT FOR YOU AND YOUR FLING, THEN YOU HAVE A HOUSE TO MOVE BACK INTO!
2007-11-26 02:58:42 · answer #9 · answered by momma_m_47280 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
your kid will leave you when s/he grow up.
2007-11-26 03:01:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋