how do you deal with a situation where your spouse doesn't trust your relations with a workmate of yours despite having explained that you just work together and nothing more than friends?
2007-11-25 19:18:15 · 11 answers · asked by ktamay 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Calling someone a spoilt child is not going to help the situation.
You could try and involve your spouse, if possible, in you work life as well as your private life.
It could just be a case of 'the fear of the unknown'.
It's common for a spouse to feel the need to be involved in every aspect of your life. They want to feel close to you and to feel important to you where ever you are.
Your spouse may feel pushed out if they are not involved in some way with your work life and this can lead to jealousy. Especially if your spouse has an active imagination.
If you go out on a Friday after work to the pub, invite your spouse. They can meet your friends and see first hand that they are not trying to steal you away.
A little interaction can go a long way.
2007-11-25 19:33:09 · answer #1 · answered by bluemecha 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Depends on what is going on.
Married men should not have female friend relationships that do not include their wife - it's the "forsaking all others" part of their wedding vows.
Surely she realizes that you must work with woman if you are a co-worker. Keep it strictly business with her: no going out to lunch (or anywhere else) with her - unless a whole group from your office is going out together.
Watch your comments - don't compliment this other woman a lot to your wife and if you have to for some reason, make sure it isn't about her looks, but about a work skill like "she's competent or a decent secretary."
Is this co-worker crossing any boundaries that your wife is seeing? Like touching you? Petting your shoulder or something? Lots of flirty joking? It's up to you to establish firm boundaries with other women so that they do interfere with your wife.
If your wife hasn't met this person, invite her to work so you can introduce her. Your wife may be imaging her to be extremely pretty, seductive, or something and she isn't. This will show her reality.
Always take your wife's side - never another woman.
Hope this helps.
Joy to you!
2007-11-25 19:34:23 · answer #2 · answered by frillyfroofroo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, your spouse shouldn't feel jealous unless you said something to him about your co-worker. You may have shared something innocent, not thinking that it would come back to bite you. The best bet is, to reassure your spouse that they are the only one for you. Give them extra love and attention. Avoid the co-worker when your spouse is around.
Just keep things cool. Don't bring up anything work related that will trigger your spouse to be negative.
Your spouse should love you enough to trust you.
-Good luck and Happy Holidays.
2007-11-25 19:27:35 · answer #3 · answered by †Evonne† 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There is no way of solving the issue.
Once some one has got something like that
in their head there is no removing it.
the only way to resolve the situation is not to have any thing to do with the person,
which is hard to do if it is job related.
All you can do is just keep it job related,
no late home from work
no work dinner parties or if their is take your partner along and hopefully the work mate will bring their partner along too
which always helps if you know the other person has some1 too!
2007-11-25 21:56:53 · answer #4 · answered by magic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's not much you can do about it. A healthy marriage is based on trust. And trust seems to be lacking in your case. I would recommend seeing a marriage counselor to sort things out.
I've heard of some cases where spouse A is cheating but spouse A will accuse spouse B of the same thing. Hopefully this is not true in your case.
2007-11-25 19:34:15 · answer #5 · answered by Samson the Guinea Pig 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
hopefully there will be a situation where u can all spend time together - maybe the christmas doo. ? It's not a nice situation, but it happens a lot, it may turn out to be a valuable lesson for you both - good luck * *
2007-11-26 01:48:34 · answer #6 · answered by Claire 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe they see something you dont. my little wife is not aware as she should be. I have had reasons to not trust others when i do trust her
2007-11-25 19:24:07 · answer #7 · answered by rufstuff 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
more than likely he is the one up to know good
2007-11-25 19:39:15 · answer #8 · answered by Maynard Monroe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds jealous more like it. If cant cant handle your explanation tell him he is acting like a spoilt child
2007-11-25 19:22:53 · answer #9 · answered by CreativeMusicArtist 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Have you asked her why she feels this way?
2007-11-25 19:44:15 · answer #10 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋