Marriage & Divorce - 25 November 2007

Can anyone not be a smart alec and give advise. I am sick with Hep-c, fused spine on disability blah blah. Canadian wife of 8 years fed up with all the debt and living in hell hole Michigan.She wants to go home and haven't got the money to move her. Son hung himself a few years back, really have had a hard time. I'm on NO meds as we aren't covered by ins. Should I sell the house and get her home and apply for some pitiful houseing on my disability income(for however long S.S. will last) I know I'm gonna get some wild answers. No meds or counceling seem to help and I have tried one hell of a lot of meds and shrinks.......I get nightmares of my son hanging there. Family are really non-existant. I live in a state (mich.) where services are cut to the core. How to hell is anyone going to give me advise when, the situation is too complex? I know WHAT to do to make things better, I just don't have the physical strength to go forward, allways feel like have flu, pain that undiscribable.

2007-11-25 11:27:18 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have lost over 100 lbs, and today put on makeup, did my hair, dressed up a little and my huband didn't say a word. My kids did... They were like wow mom. All I wanted to do was cry... What would you do? I know we have problems, but at least something....

2007-11-25 11:17:36 · 21 answers · asked by YankeeSouthernMama 2

would you go back to your ex if they ask you out again or you just move on.

2007-11-25 11:12:52 · 15 answers · asked by @NGEL B@BY 7

I recently got married and moved in with my husband. Since I moved in with him I have done most of the work around the house (wash dishes/clothes, clean, cook dinner, etc.). I feel that he doesn't appreciate that I do those things for him, like he's already too comfortable and we've only been married a few months. This is the second marriage for both of us, so I wouldn't say we have unrealistic ideals about a marriage. Anyways, also since we got married, he doesn't shower everyday, only wants to have sex when he feels like it, or do anything else when he feels like. Not that I want to when he hasn't showered, but it's the principle. Anywho...I feel like I do a lot for him and really don't feel appreciated for the things I do and put up with (his family). I want to talk to him about this but I know it will "blow his mind" and he will get extremely defensive about it and it will be a huge "discussion". How can I or should I say something to him?

2007-11-25 11:03:16 · 31 answers · asked by J 2

my ex is blackmailing me emotionally. he keeps saying he is going to commit suicide. I fell for it for 5 years. I talked him out of it every time - or maybe it was just a game to get my attention and to get his own way. Our relationship ended a month ago, and he is blaming me for his depression (even though he was depressed before we met (which he denied until 3 months into the relationship).I know I shouldn't be so weak. I can't be treated like dirt because he suffers from depression. my friends tell me he is bluffing and i should cut all ties. It's a bit of a gamble to take seeing as he has tried to commit suicide twice before (before we met). I found out recently he spent time in a mental institution. He has no (close) friends and no family. I am the closest to him, but i can't take it anymore. (it brings me down). I care about him yet i want to break free - but how would i feel if he did hang himself? i wish i'd never met him. i don't know what to do. what would you do?

2007-11-25 10:49:28 · 22 answers · asked by ♫●♥♪♦ Water Lizard ♫●♥♪♦ 2

OK so.. I'm preparing a draft work choices agreement for my wife and I. We both work from home and the hours are really flexible .. we can be "around" when the kids arrive home from school.... and we spend more time together.

In terms of working conditions, what do you think is fair? For example... should the "quickie" be limited by time and or quantity.... or should it remain spontaneous?

Also, should tantrums be allowed in the workplace?

Do you have any other recommendations for this draft workplace agreement?

2007-11-25 10:48:20 · 10 answers · asked by Icy Gazpacho 6

I know all the what could be answers, and the right things to say to this senerio. But, it does not help me. I am a person of faith, but i guess i have not found peace there now either. I feel our family, grown childern, are fragmented, we cannot seem to get together any longer, without one or the others having drama in their lives, or in need.The details are to numerous and complicated, surfice to say, we have grandchildren that are having babies, our children raising there grandchildren due to poor parenting skills.Then there seems to be the dependency on us, we try to let them manage on there own as much as practical.Yet, when we have needs, not material, but emotional, like just visiting to say hi, or a call, it never comes.It hurts. They say were great and they love us, but there emotions don't seem to show it, when i try and explain, they seem to chalk it up to my older years...It makes me sad..

2007-11-25 10:45:59 · 10 answers · asked by do.drop 4

2007-11-25 10:43:05 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

My man gave me a cheap engagement ring that cost less than $100. I'm so good, I deserve better. Should I make him get me a more expensive one?

2007-11-25 10:42:51 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-11-25 10:40:22 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

My best friend poured her heart out 2 me. I didn't know that her & hubby were having so many issues. They both admit to being madly in love/soulmates, yet fight like cats & dogs. He was fed up after 3 years & attempted to kiss a massage therapist after a 2 hour back rub down. She rejected his attempts thank God for my friend, but ended up calling my friend to tell her what happened. When he got home he was ready to talk about it & poured out his heart to her about how her coldness to him in the marriage makes him feel like she doesn't love him and he was at a breaking point. Not wanting out of the marriage, just feeling like his wife has given up on him & him in turn letting all guards down to "manly" urges. They have 3 kids, 1 new born. Stress & financial issues are high in this home. They seem to truly be meant for one another, what can they do? He seems to be sincerely sorry but how can she know for sure? They are gonna go to there church for some counseling! :(

2007-11-25 10:38:26 · 11 answers · asked by S A 1

I'm 23, a law student, and fairly desirable, I would say (not to sound conceited, haha). My friends say I'm really attractive (5'5", long brown hair, brown eyes, 120lbs). My ex and I broke up about a month ago. It was fairly serious - we'd talked about marriage. Now, whenever I see happy couples, I feel sad and alone. A lot of my friends have gotten engaged recently, and as much as I want to be happy for them, I'm insanely jealous and can't help but feel bitter about the whole situation. I know I don't need a man to complete me, but it would be nice to have someone to love. I can't figure out why I'm not meeting the right guys, and why I'm not finding someone. How do I stop feeling so bitter about being single?

2007-11-25 10:34:58 · 9 answers · asked by skichamonix515 3

looking for new positions,....in the bedroom,... any suggestions ??

2007-11-25 10:29:34 · 10 answers · asked by Foxie 3

and someone asks you directly if your husband ever hit you.. how do you answer? Do you say, "No"? What if someone comes along and says, "Yes he did. I saw him spank you that one time."
How are you supposed to answer?

I'm just curious.

2007-11-25 10:29:04 · 54 answers · asked by crc00000 2

I've been married for 9 years.my m-i-l is 17 years older than I am.Her kindness has made me so attracted to her.Over the years my emotions have become stronger.I'm so in love with her that I just want to do whatever she wants.My f-i-l is a grumpy oldFashion man who's emotionally torturing the love of my life. The problem is that my wife is a wonderful woman.I don't want to hurt her.Over the past few years I was thinking to myself that this is just a fantasy and it will never hurt anybody.I would say that I'm mentally strong enough.I would say it's true that I think of my m-i-l whenever I make love to my wife but I can handle it.I was wrong. Recently, I've been hitting on my m-i-l and I hate those men who hit on women. The most disturbing thing is that I recently had a chance to be at my in law's place alone and I desperately went through her laundry and satisfied myself with her dirty panties.I swear I never enjoyed sexual desire more than that.I felt guilty but I did the same again.

2007-11-25 10:19:52 · 24 answers · asked by mentor 1

2007-11-25 10:19:47 · 13 answers · asked by FlounderingFishy 4

I'm not sure where things actually started going wrong between me and my husband but just lately (past 2 months) we've not been getting along. It's both of our faults, neither of us is making the effort anymore. Things in the bedroom have not been great either. I'm not even sure why things have been strained between us, we have 3 kids and life is always busy but I'm not sure what's changed. A perfect example of how things have been is tonight I was watching TV and I laughed, he came in from the kitchen and shut the lounge door on me saying he couldn't stand the noise!! We have 2 nights away in a hotel booked for this weekend and to be honest I'm dreading it, my husband even suggested we cancel it as he thought it would be too much hassle!!! I'm afraid we won't have anything to talk about and the weekend will be disaster and the oppertunity to talk things through will be lost. Help!

2007-11-25 10:10:35 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous

Me and my wife (now seperated) have been apart for 3 months.
She was physically abusive towards me and spit in my face! She has a good heart, but she so prideful and never said sorry when she know's she should have! Now it does take two to tango and my fault was dragging out arguments because she was so oblivious to the point because of her pride. She never would accept responsibility for her actions and I am guilty of calling her a few names when she hit me and spit in my face. The first time she hit me was when I mentioned I wanted a divorce because we werent getting along. I would never hit her back or ever lay my hand on a woman EVER. I forgave her and still do with out of hope and love that one day she will see what shes done and admit to it. I am always the first to apologize when I know im wrong! But she always brags how strong she is and recently I told her that a big problem was that "you never said you're sorry" and she replied "well im not like that" I want her back! why?

2007-11-25 09:54:29 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

bra and panty sets shouldn't she just enjoy it and stop teasing him about it? I
t happened almost a week ago and she still keeps calling me Jamey and asking me if I want to go to Victoria Seceret or try on some of her dresses. I'm just scares she might tell one of her gabby sisters

2007-11-25 09:53:05 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous

if you had a chance to go back in time and change something in your life what would it be and why

2007-11-25 09:37:06 · 19 answers · asked by lulu 2

I have been playing football with my husband and his pals. they play a rough game of tackle which sometimes includes the men "accidentally" tackling the women by grabbing our boobs to tackle us. my husband says its all in good fun so to just deal with it when one of his friends does it to me. does anyone have any advice how to get these guys back? one problem is i'm only 5'4 and most of these guys are big and built.
the guys think its so funny that i'm so vunerable because its so easy to take me down with a squeeze up there

2007-11-25 09:30:27 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-11-25 09:29:30 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

my wife left me and our kids over a year ago. she go for two or three weeks without seeing or even calling the kids. when she does see ttem its to see her friends.its rarely just her and the kids. i think she only trying make herself look good in front her friends and to say see i love my kids and make an impression.the two oldest are not fooled and fell the same way i do. what do you poeple think /

2007-11-25 09:22:40 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

i'm an emotional and jealous man.. what do i do? it doesn't go away! is it really bad? i care about her so much :(

2007-11-25 09:15:12 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

My boyfriend is 22 years old. He switched majors and is still finishing undergraduate school, meanwhile because his parents can afford to still be paying for him (for everything). He also has 3 younger siblings and is the oldest so feels guilty that he is stil in school and his parents are still paying for them and thinks he owes them an amount of respect, which is completely understandable. But he is just a little too close with his family. We have been going out now for 9 months and I just met them this week. He has not even told them that he went home with me and met my family. He comes from a traditional cuban family and I know the women hold onto their kids for dear life, but why does he feel that he needs to respect them by being afraid of them. He is still tied to his mom's nipple, ANY ADVICE HOW TO GET MY MAN TO SEE ME AS THE ONLY WOMAN IN HIS LIFE?and not be so attached to his family that he acts happier to see them then when he sees me? Should it be me or mom if i'm important

2007-11-25 09:07:42 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-11-25 09:05:01 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-11-25 08:53:03 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-11-25 08:29:53 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

I did'nt till last night i don't pay the bills and that so i'm not bothered about knowing i trust him with all are money matters.The mad thing was i know he's on a good wage but i was 15 grand under i was shocked on how clueless i was !!!

2007-11-25 08:28:54 · 19 answers · asked by noot 3

2007-11-25 08:15:39 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous