If your husband didn't comment on...?

Question

I have lost over 100 lbs, and today put on makeup, did my hair, dressed up a little and my huband didn't say a word. My kids did... They were like wow mom. All I wanted to do was cry... What would you do? I know we have problems, but at least something....

ps. The other day, when my friend was over i tried on a pair of jeans of my daughters and almost fit and she couldnt believe he wouldnt say or even barely glance at me. So even she noticed.

Answer 1

He may be feeling a bit insecure about your weight loss... Give him a break, try to see this from his perspective... I am sure he realizes how good you look... How could he not! God bless****

Answer 2

First off...CONGRATS ON LOSING 100 pounds!! Way to go for you.
Men are just jerks sometimes (not all!). And sometimes men don't notice things like that (when we dye our hair and buy new clothes), doesn't mean that they don't care though. Does he NEVER complaiment you, or just this last time?? Sometimes I just have to ask my hubby if he likes my outfit or my new hair cut, then when I ask, he is like "wow, you look great!"
Also, you have lost 100 pounds...not just in one day :) I have also lost weight and I think when your spouse sees you all the time, they get used to it and it is hard to notice.
Tell him how you feel. Honestly. Tell him that it hurt your feelings when he didn't notice that you put on make up and dressed up. Men are not great communticators (Like I said before NOT ALL!), he might have thought you looked fab, just didn't say it out loud. Tell him how you feel! :)

Answer 3

Your husband may be very invested in keeping you look as you did before. He may be very insecure. Do not not not let him make you feel bad - YOU are doing what you are doing for YOU - I am sure you look great, and are way healthier. If he does not choose to give you positive feedback, then that is his loss! You say you have problems - hello, this seems like part and parcel of the whole thing. The better you look and feel, the more he will try to undermine you IF he feels he can get away with it. Don't let him; you need to be your own best friend...

Answer 4

Perhaps he feels threatened? When you were 100lbs heavier, he had no concerns that you were his, and no other guy would want you. But now he doesn't have that assurance. So be the best wife you can be, no flirting with other guys, and let him know beyond a shadow of a doubt you are his and no one else's.

Also, do you compliment anything about him? If so, then something is wrong with the husband. If not, then don't expect compliments from him.

Answer 5

Girl as long as your precious babies said something it shouldn't matter! Evidently he jealous and dosent want you to know how good you look. You know wether you want to believe this are not but spouses do get jealous of one another. It can be from having a better job than them, car, or just your looks! It happens and that is really sad and selfish. But you know what your kids saw exactly what you wanted to hear and there words came straight from the heart. And if you want, talk to him, because that's your husband and he needs to know how you feel. CoGrAtUlAtIoNs

Answer 6

I say good for you!! You should be proud of yourself! It is not for us to expect any compliments from anyone else... Maybe your husband is just too shy to say anything as he might suffer from a self esteem issue... feeling intimidated to say you look nice when he is feeling poorly. Also, if he admits to you that you look fab, maybe he's worried you'll find a hottie and dump him. For some reason, some men are more comfortable and secure in a relationship when their spouse is not all dolled up. Or maybe it's just a lot of change for him to adapt to. If you know you look great, don't cry about it. Just enjoy it.

Answer 7

Well since you've lost this weight over a period of time, if he hasn't said anything up until now, what made you think he'd say something now?

Your "problems" have nothing to do with looking nice. If they're going to be overcome you need some counseling....or a good divorce attorney.

Answer 8

Sorry, but many, many men have the sensitivity of a Water Buffalo. It doesn't mean that he doesn't love you. I am sure that he is proud of what you've done, and is grateful to be your husband. He is just being a quiet male.

Ask him, "what do you think?", or say, "what would you think if I were to gain it all back?" Tease him with, "I think the men are beginning to notice me." Watch his eyebrows.

Answer 9

Look .. you obviously know what you think.. so make sure instead of guessing. Do what you need to do.

Assess your life together..if you love him .. is it worth it to stay with him or let him go? What would that mean to the kids? Come on woman. Look at your lives together.... MAKE that life worthwhile or it is just a lie. Make yourself over inside as well as outside. BE the grandest woman alive. BE a great and fantastic example to your babies!

Answer 10

we can not make a determination of what is going on from a few short lines from your point of view as to him not commenting on how you look.

here is what is important: why it is so important what he thinks. start taking care of you (EMOTIONALLY, spiritually etc) and dont worry what he thinks or says.

pay attention here:
what are you eating?
what regular daily exercise are you getting (gentle walking is exercise)
what relaxation techniques are you practicing twice daily 20 minutes each session?

i feel like a broken record. learn and understand what the above questions mean. then, your life will turn around

see:
askwaltstollmd dot com
hypnotherapy-psychotherapy dot com

Answer 11

I am sorry that you have an insensitive husband...You are truly a beautiful woman...and you should be very proud of yourself for losing the weight....You must have some awesome kids as well...who took notice of their mother and gave her a deserving compliment....