I'm emotionally and sexually attracted to my Mother-in-Law. Should I fight against my emotions?

Question

I've been married for 9 years.my m-i-l is 17 years older than I am.Her kindness has made me so attracted to her.Over the years my emotions have become stronger.I'm so in love with her that I just want to do whatever she wants.My f-i-l is a grumpy oldFashion man who's emotionally torturing the love of my life. The problem is that my wife is a wonderful woman.I don't want to hurt her.Over the past few years I was thinking to myself that this is just a fantasy and it will never hurt anybody.I would say that I'm mentally strong enough.I would say it's true that I think of my m-i-l whenever I make love to my wife but I can handle it.I was wrong. Recently, I've been hitting on my m-i-l and I hate those men who hit on women. The most disturbing thing is that I recently had a chance to be at my in law's place alone and I desperately went through her laundry and satisfied myself with her dirty panties.I swear I never enjoyed sexual desire more than that.I felt guilty but I did the same again.

Ok guys, Your answers were pretty harsh. I want to clarify something: I would never ever reveal my emotions to my m-i-l.It's more than obvious that she and I would never have an affair.She would never cheat on her husband (I wouldn't be attracted to her if she would have been a cheater)-I won't cheat on my wife either.You guys just say that I would ruin 2 families if I make a move.Well,I know that better than you do.Then some of you said get professional help.This is stupid.Because of this attraction,I've had the best relation with my in laws.I've been the best husband for my wife because I love her family more than she does.I don't want to give up this fantasy.I'm enjoying this desire very much so getting professional help is irrelevant.The question is that how I can keep this attraction in my mind and only as a fantasy.U guys can't understand how much I love her. I DON"T WANT TO DISTURB HER and I know she loves me as her own son.I prefer to die before I hurt her and/or my wife.

Answer 1

Wow how sad is that for your wife... She is being cheated of all your love and how sad that you just don't pick up and leave her alone so that your wife might find someone who truly loves her and is not someone like you who uses her body but thinks of her mother.......What a horrible thing for your wife and for you to play the roll of loving your wife when it is her mother your in love with.

You should pack your bags and move it on out.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

I Say Get Over The Feelings You Have For Your Mother-N-Law.......If She Loves Her Daughter, She Wouldn't Even Think Twice About Having An Affair With Her Daughters Husband.....Also, She's Married To Your Father-N-Law, Even If He's Emotionally Tourturing Her, She Makes The Decision To Stay With Him..... I Say Distance Yourself From Her....

Answer 4

I can't speak for you, you have to figure that out for yourself, but I can say that I was the same at your age and eventually came to decide I was gay. In my case, the emotional and romantic attraction to women never left, but I did start to get romantic and emotional attraction to men. I just had a sort of block in place, I was so attached to the traditional model of a man and women falling in love, getting married and having children. Even though I was physically attracted to men, I still imagined myself getting married to a woman and having kids some day. But I learned to accept that I didn't NEED that to be happy, and I could have an emotional and romantic attraction to a man, even if it wasn't conventional.

Answer 5

In the bible God says "even looking upon a woman to lust at her is commiting adultery already" If your wife is a good woman and is loyal and true! Do you really think risking it is worth it in the long run. Go away with your wife somewhere, spend every moment with her and try to remember what you fell in love with.
I recommend not going around your mother in law as much for awhile and when your tempted leave the room or tell your wife that you dont want to go over there. Never purposely place yourself in a situation to where you will be tempted. You are only human, but do you want to live with the pain, guilt and regret when you look at your beautiful wife everyday if you cheat on her with you m-i.l? Be strong bro! it makes you a man and will better you in the long run to help you deal with future temptations! If your wife did it and it bothers you then why do it to her? Think of the pain that comes from each tear in her eyes if she ever found out something happened.

Answer 6

Um, I think that you should talk to your mother-in-law about how you feel and see what she thinks about all of this. Me personally, I think that it's just plainly wrong but you can do whatever you want to. If she feels the same way then just divorce your wife and her divorce her husband and ya'll can get together or just do whatever. But one thing is for sure, you need to talk to your m-i-l....Good luck and let me know how everything goes.

Answer 7

I believe you should continue to fight the urges if you love your wife. Maybe you can speak to a a professional about it. I could be some kind of sexual fetish. I feel its just an unobtainable fantasy. If you continue hitting on her you could open yourself up for embarrassment. Your disrespecting your father in law as well as your wife. If you love your wife you will get some help or continue to be strong in your resistance.

Answer 8

Even though you are married, it is common that you are attracted to another woman other than your wife. The problem is, she is your mother in law. What worries me about all of this is that you have fixated on her... and are obsessing about her. You mention that your wife is a wonderful woman. It would hurt her grievously if she could read your mind and see the lewd feelings you have for her own mother. I know it will be difficult for you to stop thinking about her, because I fancy you think yourself in love with this woman, but you need to man up and stop this obsession immediately.

Answer 9

At this point, there are only two things you can do to help this.

You need to be spending less time with your MIL. The more time you are around here, the worse it will be.

You also need to seek counselling. I wouldn't tell your wife WHY you are seeking it, as it would devastate her.

You need to be rid of this obsession, or it is going to ruin your life.

Answer 10

Pervert