Marriage & Divorce - 25 November 2007

My friends husband wanted sex one night and she was not feeling like it. He started yelling at her then grabbed her and pinned her to the ground crying. She kept asking him to let her go. Finally he did.

My friend says this was a one time thing and it wont happen again.

Is there really a one time thing when your talking about abuse?

2007-11-25 15:22:46 · 13 answers · asked by mike s 1

My wife and I were at our neihbor's for thier Son's B-day (our son is same age). The husband was complaining to me that they his wife was always too tired etc... for sex. when we got home, my wife started telling me how she was complaining because he is never willing to watch the kids (I didn't know a parent had a choice), he didn't cook, do laundry and complained that she is always too tired. So I thought... if a beautiful women said "for every hour of work, we will have sex one time" would you do it??? Well, convert helping the wife around the house (and watch your own children for goodness sake) and maybe she won't be so tired, and maybe then you can have some time together. Of course, it may just result in YOU being too tired, but hey, then at least you won't complain.

2007-11-25 15:17:14 · 12 answers · asked by tom s 3

2007-11-25 15:17:13 · 7 answers · asked by nomorecapri 5

2007-11-25 15:12:43 · 23 answers · asked by i cant think of a nickname 1

My husband of 20 years has no interest in having sex with me. If we do have it then its once a month thing and he makes it seem as if it is a chore. He can only keep an erection with oral sex nothing else. I am so attracted to him and want it as much as I can get it. I am at a point now where I am thinking about cheating but have not at this point.

2007-11-25 15:06:32 · 8 answers · asked by nightplay205 1

with your partner....
I like to sit in the couch watching t.v hugging her and drinking a cup of choclate..

2007-11-25 15:03:07 · 6 answers · asked by SMILEY 2

I'm a single mom of a 2 yr old and a 1 yr old. I've been dating a man for six months now and he is talking about marriage. He goes to church every Sunday and tells me how much he loves me and my kids and wants to be together. I should be walking on air that someone is willing to love a ready made family but I find myself going back and forth emotionally. I like the comfort of having him around and my girls respond wonderfully to having a father figure in their life on daily basis. I just don't feel the same passion and desire for this man as I did for my kids father.

I've accepted me and my ex will not be together so why am I holding back with this good man that is in my life now? I'm afraid if I let him go I may never meet any one else and end up alone. If I stay with him will I ever feel that deep love I have always thought I would have when I met the right person?

2007-11-25 14:42:21 · 18 answers · asked by LuvMyGirls 5

which one does a married man have more feeling or is to

2007-11-25 14:30:44 · 28 answers · asked by NICEY 1

I've known this guy about a month...lol...I know it's not long. He's told me several times that he knows we have to be careful b/c of the situation I just got out of.(I just divorced my cheating husband) The thing is...I'm over it. Our marriage was over a long time before the divorce was final. I know it seems sweet that he wants to be careful...but I don't really want my divorce to be something that holds us back. I've told him I understand what he means b/c I don't want either one of us to get hurt & he said he's glad we are thinking alike & on the same page. He says he's scared of getting married b/c he wouldn't want his wife to cheat on him or for it to end. I divorced b/c I pretty much had no choice...my husband basically kicked me out. I'm afraid that him being so cautious is going to affect us not getting closer. He wants to be fwb first & hopefully become more. I am the type to fall hard & fast. Btw, we've hooked up twice & w/no protection. (kinda nervous)

2007-11-25 14:28:36 · 14 answers · asked by love my life 2

when a woman who is married with kids. a man. and in her.40.s starts comming on to a youngwer man who is in his. late teen.s wants it is it wrong on her part. for being so easy to do like this w.va trailer park trash who had me do her right in her own home is she a woman or just cheap trash she was very sicking i know for a fact those streach mark.s very sicking. i only did her where i hated her man . now ex. he divorced her. over it wasnt that her fault over being shuch a cheap whore . i dont feel no regret breaking her marrage up she was married. for.25. years as well shuch a cheap thing. really.

2007-11-25 14:25:22 · 12 answers · asked by matthew v 3

I am posting this question in Marriage and Divorce because my boyfriend and I have been together for a long time - and before you ask, the reason we aren't married is because I want to finish law school first, and he is fine with this.

Here is my issue. Our sex life is great - I am satisfied with it, and he has expressed that he is, too. The thing is, that before I was with him (way back in the dark ages) I was a more sexually adventurous gal - but he is a more traditional lover. Not to mean that he's boring, because he isn't, but I crave a more 'depraved' kind of kink. His idea of a wild night is to bust out some kama sutra type stuff with me and get acrobatic, but I am more (historically) into more S&M (light) stuff, and some bondage/BDSM stuff, and I also really enjoy playing with toys. He and I have never done this kind of thing, and I am tentative on how to approach him with it, as we have been together so long, and he appears to be completely satisfied with our sex life.

2007-11-25 14:23:49 · 12 answers · asked by HooliganGrrl 5

I am 30 years old and I have been waiting for this opportunity my entire life. I finally found a store front for my dance school I can afford with an estimate from the contractor he told me that it should cost 12,000. So I put together a benefit show casted dancers and choreographers and all I have to do is direct. Everything is going so well and now I found out I am 2 months pregnant the show is supposed to go up the second week of June and I am not due until July 5th. My husband is mad that I am continuing and he keeps arguing with me and telling me I am not thinking about our family but I feel I am. Once the show is over I can take a few months off relax with the baby and then set up the school. I feel like I am so close should I just stop let this pass me by and enjoy being pregnant what do? What do I tell all those people I think with planning it is possible but he keeps arguing with me am I being too focused and not seeing reality.
What should I do {Please no hurtful answers}

2007-11-25 14:19:27 · 13 answers · asked by juv 1

i feel like i love this guy that i've been chatting with for a year. i've seen pictures of him and i find him very attractive and his personality is amazing, he's smart, open minded, sweet, caring, etc. everything I want in a lifelong partner. he has changed me for the better, things i've never had the courage to do in the past, i've done, and i believe it's because I've had his support.

He finds me very attractive too, and says I inspire him and that im the most amazing person he's ever met. He's also told me that he thinks he's in love with me, but says it's probably just the internet making us feel like we are. Is he right or do you think we really are in love with each other?

2007-11-25 14:10:13 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

-youre asking for your freedom and he refused to give it

2007-11-25 13:55:06 · 13 answers · asked by jas 1

my x hub left me about a yr ago n went overseas he never told me we were finished or anything we had a son together and a month when he got there told me we are divorced as he was marrying another woman and he wanted to forget me and our son as she didnt want him to have any contact so its been a yr now not a word from my x hub but now im engaged and my fiance ( as in arab culture we do this) wanted to see wether i was good or no good before so he sent a friend to go talk to my ex hub n my ex hub told his friend that i was a big sl*t and that he was only using me for the aus visa so of course i got hurt by this comment then 2 days later he sent his old friend in aus too talk to my fiancee and told me to go c his sis as he knows i loved his sis but wat i dnt understand y after 1 yr is he starting trouble 4 me n y after 1 yr does he want me 2 c his sis now my fiance now said he can do anything to my ex hub n wat do i want done n i want to hurt him like he has hurt me n i just dont know

2007-11-25 13:54:02 · 17 answers · asked by j 6

Back in July I thought that my husband was cheating. I am still not sure that he wasn't, but I choose to stick it out and as far as I know there have been no more issues of that type since then. We used to fight all the time and now we rarely even talk and it's like we are in a "holding patteren". Sex is few and far between, but then again that has always been the case. I guess that I just feel like I am living with a roommate and not a spouce. I get along better and talk more to my ex husband more then I do my husband (before you start me and my ex share a child and he is married 4 states away). I haven;t cheated and don't plan to, but I just feel so "BLAH" We have been married 5 years and I can't stand to live another year with someone that I can't talk to.

Also before you start, this has nothing to do with the sex, and I HAVE tried EVERYTHING in the book to put sparks inthat area.

Any tips or advice?

2007-11-25 13:52:36 · 10 answers · asked by Brandi 5

with me repeatedly over and over again. He moved in with his sister and was a completely different person someone I had never seen before. He told me not to hold my breath he wouldnt be coming back home. If he loved me he wouldnt be putting me through this, if he loved me he wouldnt be telling me didnt and if he loved me hed be here at home. I called the girl confronted her and threatened to tell her husband, she in turn got scared and told him the end result was they didnt leave each other. My husband on the other hand stayed with his sister and kept acting like a jerk to me. A close friend of ours passed away on the 9th and my husband came home on the 11th of November he tells me he loves me now and that he said everything in anger and that the girl was just something that happened he was wrong and that he will leave it up to me what I want to do with the relationship he says he knows he messed up but acts as if nothing has happened How can he not love me 1 day then love me the next?

2007-11-25 13:50:32 · 9 answers · asked by mmedina96 4

my exwife new husband got into trouble with the law in another state, so she move there. is there some way i can get to see my kids more im not even getting them on my weekends ?

2007-11-25 13:49:06 · 4 answers · asked by RAYMOND N 1

I was with him 3 years,We had agreat thanksgiven and we were making plans for the weekend.we haven't been fighting things were good.I took him to work,he never came home. I get a call from his mom later that night that he had called and he is on a bus headed north...Now I am about to lose the place we were renting and my car and he showed no signs....I'm so scared and hurt..I wasn't working and he knew that I would lose everything if he did this..I need help so my daughter and I aren't homeless by next week and I need to know how someone can love you and do this.

2007-11-25 13:43:29 · 13 answers · asked by Joy B 2

i got married a girls and she cheated on me and someone told me she married to me because she want to get citizenship now its last day for her application and i'm confused either i should remove her application or keep it. i dont want her to think i'm taking some revenge or something plz help me ....

2007-11-25 13:36:31 · 6 answers · asked by Dhoka Baaz 1

my husband has left again for the 3rd or 4th time again. this time he got mad because he said i lied about working on the day after thanksgiving. first of all i did not lie i had to work but a few days later my boss said i didnt have too. but i needed to go in to finish a project i need to work on so i didnt tell him. but on thanksgiving evening i told him i might get off early and then he said oh you really dont have to work. and i said no but i need to go in and finish some work. he got mad and said i lied and all i needed to do is tell him that i need to go in for a special project. but that is a lie when i tell him the truth he gets mad and when i dont he gets mad. i damned if i do and i damned if i dont, he i just real controllling and has trust issue. i know that i dont need to be with him because he has been abusing me the whole time we have been together. but can he change, is their anyone who understands how i feel?

2007-11-25 13:36:01 · 15 answers · asked by shelly 1

2007-11-25 13:31:58 · 21 answers · asked by carol 1

I've always been a short+hot tempered person.Means,I can get angry very fast & it lasts upto few days.Most of the times,I practice patience,let-go attitude.But when I dont like a person or when I feel I've kept enuf patience,I canot tolerate him for even a single moment.Sadly though,this has happened with me &my husband.He is very stubborn,dominant, insensible (does not think before he talks),slow,less-earner than me,hyper-egoistic,demanding,moneyminded and self-centered.All -ves on one side.But he is loving and expects me to accept him the way he is.But me being more smarter,faster,cheerful,younger personality (we have 6yrs age difference & a kind of generation gap in our thinking).Now the problem is that I am not able to forgive and forget things easily.I keep geting upset with him and it ends up in a big fight.almost every alternate day or once in a week.It has affected our bond &now Iam demanding a separation.Although he loves me&doesnt want me to leave him.
What should I do?

2007-11-25 13:28:17 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

Even for sanitary reasons for my children?

2007-11-25 13:20:03 · 32 answers · asked by Mandy R 2

I have three great little boys. They are sweet, caring, smart, obedient...everything a mother could ask. Due to immaturity and a bad relationship with my husband, they have seen me lose my temper, lose control of my emotions and basically live trhough my depression.

They're 11, 9 and 8. ANd I Can see where they may be hurt by all of this, but have no idea how deep that goes. I'm at a turning point in my life where it is more impotrant to me than anything else for them to grow up to be healthy people, and am learning to simply be responsible and not blame my bad marriage for all of the things I don't feel as if I am doing for them....quality time, playing with them, listening, and just being a grown up.

Where do I start?

2007-11-25 13:19:18 · 45 answers · asked by Jennys 1

I am 21 and shes 22 we have been dating for almost 2 years and live together in a house. we have talked about getting engaged and married but idk how to ask her please help me

2007-11-25 13:15:42 · 10 answers · asked by Matt J 3

2007-11-25 13:14:14 · 41 answers · asked by jas 1

2007-11-25 13:10:16 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

OK. My husband has left. He is the breadwinner. I just got a job last Monday. He left $600.00 in the account. I had to buy groceries today for the five of us (me & 4 children). That came to $160.00. We have bills yet to pay coming to about $5,000/month. He works in construction and has made a decent living. But, now when I ask when I'll be getting more money for bills and such, his reply is "You'll get it when I get it." But, he's so sketchy about everything, I don't know what to do. Does this constitute abandonment? Also has not called the kids in three days.

2007-11-25 13:00:42 · 7 answers · asked by maria f 1

my husband wants a divorce for no reason, he says he will leave me half of the marital assests but wont give any assests he had before marriage. he already has a lawyer 2 in fact to handle the divorce he wants a clean one. he hasnt been cheating and i know that for sure cause my friends work with him and even when they tried to flirt with them he reacted coldly. he isnt gay either cause he cant even be around other men in a changing room or even look at one naked. he was very loving, brought gifts and such. he really wont tell me the reason for the divorce. why would he want one? what could be wrong?

he comes back home on time never is out with anyone never talks online. only this week he turned to be really emotionless.
he has also filed a restraining order against me and has moved out of the apartment. we have no children.

2007-11-25 12:20:04 · 8 answers · asked by Hi T 1