with me repeatedly over and over again. He moved in with his sister and was a completely different person someone I had never seen before. He told me not to hold my breath he wouldnt be coming back home. If he loved me he wouldnt be putting me through this, if he loved me he wouldnt be telling me didnt and if he loved me hed be here at home. I called the girl confronted her and threatened to tell her husband, she in turn got scared and told him the end result was they didnt leave each other. My husband on the other hand stayed with his sister and kept acting like a jerk to me. A close friend of ours passed away on the 9th and my husband came home on the 11th of November he tells me he loves me now and that he said everything in anger and that the girl was just something that happened he was wrong and that he will leave it up to me what I want to do with the relationship he says he knows he messed up but acts as if nothing has happened How can he not love me 1 day then love me the next?
2007-11-25 13:50:32 · 9 answers · asked by mmedina96 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If my guy ever did such a thing I could never ever forgive him or stop thinking about it every time i saw him....I also believe I'd loose trust a great deal of it for him so if you feel the same please don't put yourself through it. Like he said he loves you but isn't in love with you...sadly he is a fool to hurt you! He doesn't deserve a second chance....not at all because what if another girl comes along...do you believe he'd make the right choice this time. He is once again another guy who doesn't know how to treat an amazing lady. Keep your head up and take some time alone or spend time with family and friends. Do you believe you could trust him again?...
--You deserve someone who's in love with you...so much so.
But that's for you to decide. Why was he angered at you...? Because you stood up for yourself and feelings from what you knew wasn't right? There's something more to this...he sure can talk the talk but can he actually take the time to listen to you and know where your coming from?
2007-11-25 14:09:07 · answer #1 · answered by Simplicity ♫ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like that your husband had intentions of being with the other girl .. but the other girl kicked your husband to the curve & stayed with her own husband ... the other girl did not want your husband - so your husband was left all alone by his lover.
It also sounds like your husband had the free will to do bad things to you .. and say bad things to you .. because he had someone else - and he just wanted you to go away ... so he could have his new life ... AND .. it sounds like he had absolutely no concern for your feelings. He just put a lot of bad things on you .. and could have cared less. This speaks tons about the kind of person he is .. and what he is capapble of doing.
Your husband probably knows that you love him .. and that you wanted him. It sounds like that he thinks he can just simply come back .. no problem. That is why he acts as if nothing as happened .. he is just back .. he probably thinks you are proud he is back .. he is there again - until next time. He probably thinks he can get away with it.
There is a HUGE difference in someone who " loves you " .. and in someone who " is IN love with you ".
If it were me .. I would probably remind him of his words to me.
You have choices.
You can stay .. and take his bull .. and try to get over the affair. OR .. you can kick him to the curb .. kinda like his girlfriend kicked him to the curb.
It seems he could hurt you very easily . Question is, when will he do it again? AND .. HOW could he do it so easily.
If he loves you today .. then he loved you yesterday. REAL love is there to stay .. even if we don't want it to be there. If what he did to you, is an example of his love .. then go figure.
If you can, calm down .. put your hear aside .. and look at the reality of the situation of what he has so easily done to you. Think of your future. Will he repeat this again? Does he make you feel loved?
Try to think this out clearly. Make your decisions wisely.
2007-11-25 14:16:26 · answer #2 · answered by Tara 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are second choice. The other woman choose her husband so he came back to you. I know that sounds harsh and I am sorry but it is true. He will do it to you again. You will do for now until he finds another. He was angry at what? He was the one doing wrong. He acts like nothing happened because he thinks you will just let it go. If you do that girl this is only the first. Can you live with that?
2007-11-25 13:56:58 · answer #3 · answered by kim h 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋
probably because things didn't work out with the other one, especially with you confronting her and the pressure...so rather than have nothing, he wants you at least
Don't do it, he's just awful, heartless
Take a chance on someone better!!!
Anyone with capacity to act like such a lousy, dirty dog, kick him to the curb, they are usually repeat offenders, maybe not right away, but there's a big red flag blaring in your face!!!
You are vulnerable and probably want to take him back but just know what type of scum he is and what you'll most likely have to look forward
The only way I'd take him back is just to comfort myself while I prepare for better and ditch him when time is right and leave a note saying "You got served biatch!"
2007-11-25 14:35:09 · answer #4 · answered by Jack Bent 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's called, being a good liar. He doesn't love you. Remember, you were history when he had a girlfriend. Now, that she's gone, he's decided that you're better than nothing.
How OK are you with being treated like leftovers? Do you think you could ever get over that?
2007-11-25 15:04:19 · answer #5 · answered by Sondra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sad to say we live in a very selfsish society...we want what we want at everyone elses expense. He hurt you and alot of things are said while angered it's up to you to decipher between the trying to hurt you or actual confessions. He now realizes he put you second and it came full circle...It is your call in the end but please love yourself enough to not be naive and have this event repeated on you. You are in my prayers!
2007-11-25 14:07:42 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
get an attorney and tell him to fork over the cash and half the assets
2007-11-25 14:00:36 · answer #7 · answered by Up Y 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Get his money first. Then decide if you want to move back with him.
If he does this again at least you have his money.
2007-11-25 15:40:34 · answer #8 · answered by cynic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can get a lot of great advice at www.survivinginfidelity. com---Good luck!
2007-11-25 14:00:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
MOVE ON IT'S HARDER FOR US BUT JUST PRAY AND KEEP GOING.....
2007-11-25 14:01:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋