is online love real or not?

Question

i feel like i love this guy that i've been chatting with for a year. i've seen pictures of him and i find him very attractive and his personality is amazing, he's smart, open minded, sweet, caring, etc. everything I want in a lifelong partner. he has changed me for the better, things i've never had the courage to do in the past, i've done, and i believe it's because I've had his support.

He finds me very attractive too, and says I inspire him and that im the most amazing person he's ever met. He's also told me that he thinks he's in love with me, but says it's probably just the internet making us feel like we are. Is he right or do you think we really are in love with each other?

we call each other often too.

I'm 19, and well aware of the dangers of the internet.

Answer 1

Love on online can be tremendously potent. Very powerful !!

I have wondered "why" for years.

The only answer that I come up with is that there are 2 people alone .. typing out the debths of their hearts (maybe, hopefully - it's real) ... and .. the person usually tries to be the very best - and the most impressive vision of themselves, to the other person. It comes across as most wonderful. And it can be a good thing .. or it can be a fluke .. or a very bad thing.

There was a professional man who had a wife and 3 very small children. The man's wife left the him and ran away with her online lover - who she had never met in person. The wife just walked out the door on her children, and her husband .. for a person she had never met in person. That is just an example of how powerful online feeling can get.

I know that real love can be formed .. right there online. It happens all the time.

I also know of several who have had their hearts so broken.

I know of 2 ladies who had the same thing happen to them .. but just in different circustances. The men who they had been corresponding with for many years .. and who had proclaimed their undying loved .. just disappeard one day .. they did not email any more .. kinda like poof .. and they were gone. And the ladies discovered that they were still alive and well. There had not been any problems .. the men just stopped .. without a single word of goodbye.

Another girl told me that she had an online guy who she fell madly in love with .. and he loved her back. They got together and the love was real .. however, neither one of them would agree to move the many miles away from their family .. so they quite seeing each other. The same girl told me that she started online talking to another man who was wonderful .. he sent her a picture of him .. in the picture he was of the same race as she & a very good looking guy. They decided to meet at a McDonald's. The girl's brother went with her .. which was a good thing .. because when the guy showed up .. he was was scarey & looked dangerous .. and he was NOT the man in the picture .. not even of the same race .. so the girl's brother got his sister away from the guy just in time.

When you are really in love with someone .. you don't have to ask anyone if you are in love. Your emotions take you over .. they hold you captive .. your heart races .. and your feelings let you know without a single doubt, that you are in love with this person ... and you don't want anyone else .. and the person becomes your world .. they dominate your thoughts .. and your life. Love does not give you a choice. It is potent .. and won't go away .. even when you want it to.

For real love .. you don't have to ask anyone. You will automatically know for sure .. this is a part of nature.

Answer 2

Someone has answered this already but: Been there, done that. I wouldn't recommend it to you. In fact, I think that would be really bad considering you have a family and a relationship to which you're supposedly so commited to! Do you see what's wrong with your affirmation? It seems you have a very wrong notion of what commitment is. What you're feeling is most likely the result of an obsession you've developed. It's not an abnormal thing, but in my opinion it's also not something you should go along with. You should realize it for what it is, and what it is is foolish. Still, the choice is yours. If you feel you must, no one can stop you. Just try not to be selfish. Remember that you have a family and you're in a relationship, and so is the man you chat with, so there would be many people that could come out hurt if the two of you decided you should risk it all for something that probably wouldn't work. There's no such thing as online love, there's only online speculation and curiosity about real potential, which may confuse you and make you believe that you feel something that in reality you probably wouldn't. I know this may be hard to take but believe me, it's probably better this way.

Answer 3

I found my fiance in an online game. He was in Cali and I was in Iowa. He moved 4 months later half-way across the country and here we are. Living happily and now engaged. Love can happen anywhere. Why don't you guys meet and see if the chemistry is there in real life?

I think the concept of meeting someone online is very interesting because you get to know the real person inside before the outside. This can lead to a truly strong relationship. I think it's something you should seriously consider taking to the next level.

Of course, you always have to be careful. Meet in a public place, etc. Since you've been talking to him for a year, I wouldn't worry TOO much, but you can never be too careful.

Besides, you don't want to look back on this and regret not ever seeing him, right? What if he's "the one?"

Answer 4

I met my hub via a singles ad, which was what we did before online relationships.

I know a couple where she was in Minnesota and he was in New Zealand. Another couple where he was in Toronto and she was in Santa Cruz.

It can work, but go very slowly. A lot of telephone calls. When the visit happens, have the visitor in a hotel. Meet in public places. Feel very secure before going to a house.

Answer 5

Well being someone who meet their husband online, it can happen. But the only person that can answer that is you. We meet online but we talked on the phone alot. If you love him and he loves you meet. Make this more real than just online, but make sure you don't do it alone! Be careful first and foremost!

Answer 6

He THINKS he is in love with you,but you know you love him right? What a boring life you must lead to fall in love with words. That's all he is is words he isn't real and you don't know who or what it is your even talking to. How old are you 15 maybe 16 you better be careful because there are alot of serial killers, rapist's,perverts on here just waiting to get someone like you to come see them and they will even pay for a ticket.

Answer 7

I think it's infatuation. Until you actually lay eyes on one another, and just talk, you'll never know.

In my own personal experiences, I enjoy the conversations we have, find the person attractive and such, but then when we'd meet, that certain je ne sais quoi wasn't there.

Answer 8

Yes online love can be very real. Have you ever met in person? that might be the best way to know for sure.

ps...if you do set up a meeting, make sure the first time is in a very public place, just to be safe

good luck

Answer 9

I'd plan a trip to meet this man in a public place. Get to know him in person.

Later, if he's a bit away from you and you have to fly, then I would get tickets, spend a week or something and have dates with him.

This is how my friend did it. Sometimes people aren't presenting their whole selves. Just be careful.

Answer 10

There are no written rules for love. Actually, from what you've said, you probably know more about this gentleman/penpal than you would know about a guy who took you to the movies... (just sitting there for two hours in silence). I think it's definitely possible to get to know someone in this way and fall in love.