my x hub left me about a yr ago n went overseas he never told me we were finished or anything we had a son together and a month when he got there told me we are divorced as he was marrying another woman and he wanted to forget me and our son as she didnt want him to have any contact so its been a yr now not a word from my x hub but now im engaged and my fiance ( as in arab culture we do this) wanted to see wether i was good or no good before so he sent a friend to go talk to my ex hub n my ex hub told his friend that i was a big sl*t and that he was only using me for the aus visa so of course i got hurt by this comment then 2 days later he sent his old friend in aus too talk to my fiancee and told me to go c his sis as he knows i loved his sis but wat i dnt understand y after 1 yr is he starting trouble 4 me n y after 1 yr does he want me 2 c his sis now my fiance now said he can do anything to my ex hub n wat do i want done n i want to hurt him like he has hurt me n i just dont know
2007-11-25 13:54:02 · 17 answers · asked by j 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i know he has a wife now and she is pregnant and my fiancee said does he want some one to have s*x wit his wife and video tape it as my fiance knows that my ex hub wife wasa sl*t b4 in lebanon i just dont know what i want i dont want anything too bad but i want revenge i was good to him when we were married and now he is treating a Sl*t with the ultimate respect and me like a dog n me like nothing n i want to hurt him for leaving our son n her what would you do if you had this oppurtunity ??
2007-11-25 13:57:40 · update #1
we were married muslim way you dont need papers to get a divorce
2007-11-25 13:58:39 · update #2
Jamila:
Best revenge is to have him stay with whatever and not let come to you.
Life is to beautiful. Forget about him. There are million of other soul. You are beautiful and you will have no problem. Take a vacation and enjoy your freedom. Call Social Excort and have good time. Your pain will relief.
2007-11-25 14:21:19 · answer #1 · answered by JH 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The best revenge is no revenge. Revenge will not relieve your pain or take away your anger. You must concentrate on your son and setting a good example for him and giving him all the love he needs. If your new fiancee' is a good man, your son will look to him as a father. You should cause no pain to others who have caused pain to you. It will only make your pain worse. The battle will never be over. Let it be over and let your fight be for your family and do the right thing.
2007-11-25 14:12:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
first it would be a cold day in hades when i would stay with a guy who was so unsure of me he had to have someone go to my ex to see whether I was a good person or not. That in itself is very degrading to you as a person. If your so called bf is not sure of the kind of person you are maybe he needs to step back and take a look at himself and then make a decision from that...What a schmuck!!! of course your ex will have nothing nice to say about you, most exs don't,( there are a few exceptions), you are usually the blame for the split up in the first place, my wife doesn't understand me, she is no good in bed, the list goes on and on. He needs to base his feelings on the relationship you and him have, not on the way your ex feels..DUH!!!
2007-11-25 14:37:39 · answer #3 · answered by myninny54 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You don't need to get revenge on your ex-husband. Be the bigger and better person and just leave it along. Also, you should have known that your ex-husband wouldn't say the nicest things about you considering how he left things with you. If he has done wrong, karma will effect him one day.
Also, you had to know you were divorced because your husband had to file divorce papers and you two would have had a court date infront of a judge who would grant you divorce.
EDIT: Alright, so you were married the Muslim way and didn't need divorce papers. You still shouldn't get revenge on your ex-husband. His actions will catch up with him one day. Act as if nothing happened and what he did hasn't effected you at all.
2007-11-25 13:58:19 · answer #4 · answered by Madison 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Strange tale - and hard to follow - nobody can tell you that you are divorced if you were legally married - unless you signed papers. Sounds like you need to get on with your life & focus on your son rather than getting some arab guy to do something to your ex - it's all very confusing, the way you described it. Think of your son - not your self.
2007-11-25 14:00:21 · answer #5 · answered by Eric K 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Make a pretend profile and use a photograph of a lovable female which you think of is his type. Befriend him and set up a date with him. Then ensue. this is the only actual revenge! Btw, is he rather nicely worth a while?
2016-12-10 06:09:30 · answer #6 · answered by stockett 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who knows why your ex would be so mean? Maybe hes just crazy!! Whatever the reason, leave him in your past and tell your new husband to leave him alone too! Its not ever a good idea to get revenge like that, besides for all the legal trouble it could get you into, and hes not worth all that.
2007-11-25 14:00:02 · answer #7 · answered by crzyldy3 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
In my opinion the best revenge is not acting like he bothers you. You have a new financee now just forget about your x and try to move on and forget about him just as he forgot about you. Good luck
2007-11-25 13:58:52 · answer #8 · answered by Mz Bree 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Best revenge move on with your life and dont ever push your son to him he left,
2007-11-25 14:02:45 · answer #9 · answered by Trasher 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's obvious that his girlfriend is controlling him like a puppet..
No need to get revenge, just let it go. It will only get worse if you put gas in a flame.
2007-11-25 13:59:48 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋