I am 30 years old and I have been waiting for this opportunity my entire life. I finally found a store front for my dance school I can afford with an estimate from the contractor he told me that it should cost 12,000. So I put together a benefit show casted dancers and choreographers and all I have to do is direct. Everything is going so well and now I found out I am 2 months pregnant the show is supposed to go up the second week of June and I am not due until July 5th. My husband is mad that I am continuing and he keeps arguing with me and telling me I am not thinking about our family but I feel I am. Once the show is over I can take a few months off relax with the baby and then set up the school. I feel like I am so close should I just stop let this pass me by and enjoy being pregnant what do? What do I tell all those people I think with planning it is possible but he keeps arguing with me am I being too focused and not seeing reality.
What should I do {Please no hurtful answers}
2007-11-25 14:19:27 · 13 answers · asked by juv 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First, tell your husband you honestly feel you can and should do this since the baby is not supposed to be here until after the show. You have waited for this opportunity for so long, you really should go for it. Pregnancy is not in no way a disability nor should it prevent you from EVERYTHING.
If your doctor approves of your work load and stress level conditions, then that aught to make your husband happier. Tell him you are doing this no matter what but would feel much better about it with his support. Just make a deal that you will arrange to see your doctor a few more times tan you would normally have to, you will take several rest breaks during the days, and if your doctor says no more, you will stop as long as you can find a stand in or able to put it off a while.
Congratulations with your baby, and your opportunity for your dance school. I just know it will all work out for you.
2007-11-25 14:30:23 · answer #1 · answered by homemaker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh never let a naysayer stop you from fulfilling your dreams. There are so many women that live up to their potential and have lived authentically (and were pregnant and have kids). If you are living your dream, then you are already doing what most of us aren't. Your husband is trying to take care of you and your baby, so that part is sweet and you should take his being mad as not so much a lack of support for you, but of genuine concern. When you are hiring and directing, make sure you do have a good support system (asst. director) that can spot you if you need a day or more off. Good luck!
2007-11-25 22:27:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should continue with your plans. You said it yourself, you've been waiting for this opportunity YOUR ENTIRE LIFE. I don't see how this is being selfish. I have some serious reservations about your husband not being supportive of your life dream. Especially since everything is going so well. All you're going to do is direct, you're not actually doing the dancing are you? I think you will be fine throughout your pregnancy.
2007-11-25 22:26:18 · answer #3 · answered by hotdocmama 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go ahead and do what makes you happy. If you are just directing the show and don't have to dance in it then that is better for the baby I think.
You'll do fine.
Good luck!
2007-11-25 22:25:01 · answer #4 · answered by hiddenstar 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should go for it. It's what you have always wanted to do! It's no pipe dream, it's all planned out. Your hubby is concerned for you and the baby. Reassure him, and let him help with the studio too, perhaps he could help design a playroom for the baby there.
2007-11-25 22:34:51 · answer #5 · answered by Daisy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is the first child for both of you, I think he's just being protective of you.
Work until your doctor tells you different. Or until you feel too tired.
Then start up your school after the baby is born.
2007-11-25 22:36:16 · answer #6 · answered by Ella 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, please follow your dreams. The baby is a blessing and is not , by any means, a hinderance. You will be fine no matter what decision you make, but just be assured that it IS your decision to make. And I say go for it! You have already made some smart, creative choices. Bravo!
2007-11-25 22:29:27 · answer #7 · answered by Buggadocious 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
But what is upset about? What is trying to tell you are his concerns? It is tradition to not work and stay home, is he a traditional man? You two need to talk without anger, fear of rejection, speak honestly. Come up with a plan together and stick to it.
2007-11-25 22:26:18 · answer #8 · answered by jalwells 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for it honey, otherwise there will always be some excuse to do with the baby or future babies to stop you !!
We only live once!!
Good luck with the show and your pregnancy!
2007-11-25 22:31:43 · answer #9 · answered by gloria b 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're bought into the Women's Lib myth that you can do it all, haven't you? Ninety percent of all businesses fail in the first two years.
Be a SAHM, the hardest job you'll ever love.
2007-11-25 22:27:18 · answer #10 · answered by TryItOnce 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋