OK. My husband has left. He is the breadwinner. I just got a job last Monday. He left $600.00 in the account. I had to buy groceries today for the five of us (me & 4 children). That came to $160.00. We have bills yet to pay coming to about $5,000/month. He works in construction and has made a decent living. But, now when I ask when I'll be getting more money for bills and such, his reply is "You'll get it when I get it." But, he's so sketchy about everything, I don't know what to do. Does this constitute abandonment? Also has not called the kids in three days.
2007-11-25 13:00:42 · 7 answers · asked by maria f 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I did not "make" him leave. He walked out on us for the second time in two weeks because he can't "handle" communication when problems arise. Kids are afraid of him due to his anger management problems and don't want to be left alone with him either.
2007-11-25 13:15:04 · update #1
Now, I have -$175.00 in the bank, less than a 1/4 tank of gas. Just started my new job and won't get paid until Thursday for just 3 days last week due to the holiday. Need toilet paper, shampoo, etc. Is this NOW abandonment???????
2007-11-26 23:13:05 · update #2
I'm not sure why you want it declared that he abandoned you. It's not necessary if you live in a no fault state. Contact an attorney tomorrow morning, ask to file for separation or divorce (some states do not have legal separation), ask for temporary custody, maintenance and child support. Ask the payments be garnished from his wages and be paid to you through the state's child support enforcement program.
Not calling the kids in three days won't matter. He will still be awarded parenting time in the temporary custody order.
2007-11-25 13:08:17 · answer #1 · answered by Jen70 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't mention specifically how long he has been absent -- only that you got a job a week ago (was he still around?) and that he hasn't called the kids in three days (is he on shift work?).
The duration of absence must surely have influence in abandonment assessment.
If it is but a matter of days, perhaps he is attempting to resolve some issues that at present he doesn't feel comfortable sharing yet. Anger management, emotional directions, life orientations and such sometimes require "time out" to sort.
Currently your concerns seem to be fiscal -- perhaps rightly -- but is this what stimulated his absence(?)
2007-11-25 13:42:06 · answer #2 · answered by malancam55 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really doesn't matter what you call it. See an attorney and discuss a separation agreement that arranges for support for the children at the very least. You may have to go to court, but he will have to assist in their support. Some men just feel they have no responsibility to care for a family when they decide to leave, they have poorly developed value systems- that isn't true they are still responsible according to law. In the mean time check into agencies that might provide assistance until you get on your feet.
2007-11-25 13:07:04 · answer #3 · answered by ScSpec 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has he said I am outta here? If he has left you and the children, and yes he is the breadwinner, then that could constitute abandonment. I would see some legal advise. I wish you the best!
2007-11-25 13:13:42 · answer #4 · answered by stefanibrown74 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here in NC it is called abandonment.
Any man that would leave his family,knowing that the wife can't support their kids in the same style as when he was there,needs to pay..You get yourself a good lawyer girl.
Ladybug
2007-11-25 13:20:00 · answer #5 · answered by ladybug 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Each State has different laws for abandonment.
You need to know the laws for your State.
He is definitely responsible fot taking care of the kids .. now.
2007-11-25 13:15:41 · answer #6 · answered by Tara 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In VA, yes.
2007-11-25 13:04:59 · answer #7 · answered by scicodawg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋