My anger has overshadowed my love. Its become uncontrollable. Should I see a psychiatrist?

Question

I've always been a short+hot tempered person.Means,I can get angry very fast & it lasts upto few days.Most of the times,I practice patience,let-go attitude.But when I dont like a person or when I feel I've kept enuf patience,I canot tolerate him for even a single moment.Sadly though,this has happened with me &my husband.He is very stubborn,dominant, insensible (does not think before he talks),slow,less-earner than me,hyper-egoistic,demanding,moneyminded and self-centered.All -ves on one side.But he is loving and expects me to accept him the way he is.But me being more smarter,faster,cheerful,younger personality (we have 6yrs age difference & a kind of generation gap in our thinking).Now the problem is that I am not able to forgive and forget things easily.I keep geting upset with him and it ends up in a big fight.almost every alternate day or once in a week.It has affected our bond &now Iam demanding a separation.Although he loves me&doesnt want me to leave him.
What should I do?

Answer 1

he sounds like a typical passive agressive type, you can see a psychiatrist if you want just keep in mind if things dont work out in the long run he will probably try to use "mental illness" against you.

Answer 2

You certainly need to get control over your own feelings and anger. You brought this into the relationship and you chose someone who is equally dealing with his own anger and control issues. You also chose someone that you felt from the beginning that wasn't up to your qualifications. You can't blame him for that. It was your choice. Six years is not a generation gap. Your mutual feelings of control and angst are. The two of you need some outside help if you really want to get through this both for your own marriage or if you hope to move on to another. You didn't mention whether you had children which is a huge issue. But you really need to work on your anger issues and your own inability to handle the smallest issues without losing it. This is not normal along with the fact that you view your husband as so much lower than you in general. Re-read what you wrote. Would you want to be those people?

Answer 3

Couple's counseling for the marriage, individual counseling for yourself.

Also, just so you're on the right page - a Psychiatrist is a doctor that mainly just prescribes medication. Some also do counseling, but that usually isn't a specialty. A Psychologist will do counseling. You can also see a social worker or a licensed professional counselor, or licensed marriage and family therapist, etc. These are all people who have degrees and training in counseling, etc. Doesn't have to be a PhD.....

Answer 4

Gratitude. I find that most people find it hard to be angry about something they are grateful for. Anger has a way of burning us more than the person we are angry at. So to ask if you need some kind of counseling is a question you already know the answer to. In the meantime, count to 10 or 1000 or what ever it takes to cool off and then try to remember what you should be grateful for.

Answer 5

See about having anger counceling

Talk with a medical doctor about having your hormone levels checked. Hormones can cause this. Have your blood pressure checked, too.

Also -- you could check with your medical doctor to give you some medication to help calm you down for awhile. Sometimes when you get calmed for awhile ... the calm will last .. and everything will get rounded out for you.

Seek all the help you can find.

Answer 6

You should definitely see a psychologist. They will evaluate you and see if you need a psychiatrist. It cant hurt to deal with your anger. You should also go to couples counseling with your husband. I think it will help a lot!! Good luck!