How do I compete?????

Question

My husband and I both work full time. We both make good money although he makes almost double what I do. He has already given me my christmas present................ A family cruise this comming summer (paid in full ) . I don't make enough money to get him anyhting close to that. He always does this...The presents he gives me are far more expensive than I can afford to give him. What can I get him to compete with what he gave me????

I didn't mean to make it sound like a competion. But when someone gives you something that huge and you give them a foot messager(what I gave him last year) you feel bad.

Answer 1

By being clever, something he needs (or would benefit from) but has not thought of on his own.
Or something he would really like but would never get for himself. Like a Harley or a pool table.

Answer 2

Giving gifts should not be a competition. What he gave you was not just for you, but for both of you, so don't feel obligated to have to spend as much money. Just give him something from your heart. You can also talk to him about how you feel about him giving such expensive gifts that you too want to give him something equally nice, but cannot because you can't afford it. Then ask if you two can agree to set a limit on an amount you both can afford. There can also be times when you two can figure out how much you want to spend for gifts for each other, then put the money together and buy something for you both. Just try to get gift giving to not feel like a competition, because there won't be any winners. Just someone hurt and someone resented.

Answer 3

You're looking at this all wrong. Did you ever think that it is really easier to just write a check and have someone else do all the work? Some guys buy the expensive gift because it doesn't take that much time.
Picking out a personal gift is very hard and takes thinking and trying to figure out what to get without you knowing it.

Your gifts seem to be more intimate and well thought out. That is usually the case when funds are limited. He should appreciate the caring you give.

If he's into sex ...think about how that can be jazzed up. Maybe a porn flick with you providing the "special ending". That many times is PRICELESS.

Answer 4

So, stop your complaining honey. Realize that you are blessed with a wonderful sounding husband. Please don't worry that your gifts are not as lavish as his. It's his job to spoil you and it sounds like he can afford to. Men are not as superficial as women. He's not running to his friends complaining that you are not getting him "expensive" gifts. He is your husband not boyfriend.

Plus, the kinds of gifts men like don't cost that much. They love a good cooked meal. A nice steak and potatoes. They love an awesome sexual experience. Let your husband come home to you, dressed up in something super sexy, giving him anything he wants. These are priceless moments to him.

Or you can always save up for some nice gifts. I'm sure he would love a flat screen tv (At walmart the prices are not bad, but sure less expensive than a cruise) A xbox 360.

Make the gifts more personal. These gifts show how much you love him. Please don't compete with your husband. Just show him love and enjoy this wonderful time when you two are so blessed.

Answer 5

Since when is gift giving a competition? If it is for you, then you are missing the whole point of giving gifts. He may just want to give something great because he can afford to, not because he wants to outdo what you give. Give what you can afford and tell him that's the best you can do. If that's not good enough, then there is something wrong with the way you are going about this whole thing. Give from the heart, within your means and don't worry if it doesn't measure up to what he gave you. It's the thought that counts.

Answer 6

Dress up and give an an extra treat ; )

This Christmas I'm in the middle of a move and will get home just on time for Christmas. I will give my bf things that he needs mostly. Yes, he'll be getting a golf glove and socks and a couple of DVD's LOL!!!!! His gifts have to fit on my carry-on lugagge. We really do not exchange gifts, what we do is create memories, because those last forever.

Good luck

Answer 7

Its not a competition............be thankful he cares for u and wanted to take your family on a cruise. Give him something from the heart. A nice photo with an inscription, a nice ring, tickets to a ballgame,it doesn't have to be on an equal dollar value.
Sounds like you've got a nice guy, don't sweat the small stuff! Enjoy that cruise!

Answer 8

Since you can't afford anything close to what he gave you, go the other direction. Think of something sweet and personal that you could do or get and instead of it being expensive, it would be from the heart which is better anyway.

Answer 9

You don't compete. I used to be married to a man making 4 times my salary and he understood I could not come up with trips and expensive presents. I would offer him something that meant I had been listening to him like...that book he always wanted to read but never got it....I got his family Crest framed with the history of his ancestors ...etc.

When you get something expensive...learn to say Thank you with a smile and not feel bad about it.

Answer 10

If he is getting you a cruise then get him some clothes to see you in on the cruise that will make him take second looks at you. If you really want something for him then just get him some trinket of a sort. If he smokes a personalized lighter if he wears jewry a nice watch or ring. Just something small that when he see he knows where it came from.

Answer 11

why do you feel this need to compete? Christmas should be about giving a person something that you know they will love, not how much the gift costs. Your husband gave you this great gift because A. he can afford to and B. He knew you'd like it. So just enjoy his great gifts, and get him something from your heart that you know he will love. It doesn't matter how much it costs.