Am I a cheater?

Question

My high school sweetheart and I got a hold of eachother on myspace and we sent e-mails back and forth and Isaid a lot of things that I shouldn't have and didn't mean like leaving my husband and stuff. I am very happy with my husband and baby, I was just remembering High school and stuff. I would never leave my husband. My husband found out and read the e-mails and he took me back twice, it happened 2 times this year and I swore it won't again. I truly love my husband, I guess I was just leading my Ex on. My husband says it was cheating, I don't know. Do u think it is?

right when this happened I deleated my myspace account and no longer have contact with my ex by choice

Answer 1

you need to leave your ex alone and focus on your family.

Answer 2

Based on what u said u did cheat on ur husband although it was sexually.U basically invited ur ex to come into ur relationship.U even said u were leading ur ex on(this is the part that makes it cheating)also the fact that u didn't tell ur husband right away that u have any contact with ur ex was wrong.

Answer 3

yes its cheating, remember your husband does not have to accept that, he can easily leave and find another woman who is into him or go out and cheat also,and you'll be stuck home with the baby feeling sad with your myspace but without your husband. so dont mess up your marrige for something stupid when you say you love your husband.

Answer 4

Yes, you need to close your My Space so you won't be tempted to get back on it if you want to save your marriage. How would you feel if your husband had done this? The EX is not worth giving your husband up for. Good luck.

Answer 5

By legal definition, adultery involves sexual intercourse. Since you didn't do this, or at least you didn't say you did, you did not cheat according to the law. However, if you said things that indicated you might think about it, you have done your husband, who you claim you love, a huge disservice and he is right to mistrust you. You sound like someone who married immaturely, before she sowed all her wild oats. Think of it this way; what if it was reversed???

Answer 6

it is not neccessarily cheating. It also depends on what your values are. You husband might feel that you are emotionally cheating on him. If you really do love your husband, then apologize to him and mean it.
Stop all contact with your ex and explain to your husband why you said all those things.

Answer 7

your playing with fire girl.
not cheating, but also not being honest with yourself, your ex or your husband.
withholding that information from your husband (not telling him what you had said to the ex) would make him feel betrayed.
Betrayal boundaries are different with every person. Talk to you husband about what he considers betrayal to be so you are both clear on what is, and what isn't acceptable in your relationship.

Answer 8

if your like me you'll be right back on myspace in no time. its not cheating (flirting)but if it was the other way around would it be?kinda but not really. Sometimes I need to look around and really look at and see what the good things are in my life and marriage. Internet stuff lends itself to a lot of fantasy and its easy to hide. don't be so rough on your self. take care of each other. :)
myspace.com/crownandbridgeworks

Answer 9

Ask yourself this question - Would you consider it cheating if your husband did what you have done with his old high school sweetheart? If you say yes, then it is cheating.

Answer 10

Not cheating in the way you'd normally think, but in a way yeah it was cheating. Going behind ur hubby's back and doing stuff like that was cheating w/ someone else...emotionally etc.

Answer 11

I dont think it is cheating but it was heading there just because you want to look up an old flame does not mean you want to bed the guy but you cant rule that out