I am in a long term relationship that is very good. I have a once in a lifetime opportunity to take a job in a different country. My partner can't move for at least 6 months and she might not even find a new job in the new city. I want the job but it makes me extremely sad (and somewhat non-functional) to think that I will be without her or that we have to be long-distance. What do I do?
2007-11-23 15:21:17 · 12 answers · asked by Charles M 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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2007-11-23 15:28:23 · update #1
Moving to th U.S. requires a job offer for her VISA because we are not married.
2007-11-23 15:33:02 · update #2
I would turn it down if I couldn't take my partner.
Seldom are "once in a lifetime opportunities" more important than ditching your spouse for 6 months.
(It's probably an opportunity, but as sure as you are talented and motivated, there will surely be others in due time.)
2007-11-23 15:28:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
me and my bf aren't that far yet but he recently accepted a job into another country which will separate us. He couldn't resist the offer....now he will have to settle there and may be (just maybe) if i can find a job there- i'd follow but that will be in 3-4 months before it can actually happen.....still no guarantees. My point is, its a difficult choice to make but one has to be sacrificed. I don't want to put it that he prefers his job over me...i'd rather think in an affirmative who knows i might get a better job there and in the end it will all fall into right place so we'd wait and see. If it fails, some things aren't meant to be. however, i believe so that the USA is not an easy place to penetrate unless you are european.
2007-11-24 06:47:23 · answer #2 · answered by jables 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would take the job, if you dont you will always wonder what could have been, because if you cant live with out her you can quit the job and go back to the girl,,,,but in all honesty I am a hopeless romantic and will always choose love first and it has held me back quite a bit
2007-11-23 23:38:11 · answer #3 · answered by James 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
six months really isn't that long and she can be actively looking in the meantime. I look at it like things happen for a reason and we just don't always know what it is right away but it will reveal itself. If you do not take the new job, will you always ask yourself, "what If"?
2007-11-23 23:36:23 · answer #4 · answered by April First 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mate go for the job if she can't get a job in six months and you really hate it in your new job then you can always leave then.
2007-11-24 00:00:32 · answer #5 · answered by happy to 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey man, good luck to you, Just remember to stay close in your hearts even if you're far away. Six months passes quickly. If it will help you both in the future, then do it.
2007-11-24 00:34:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
But she might find a job and 6 months isn't that long...
2007-11-23 23:25:46 · answer #7 · answered by i_b_winkn_at_u 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't you dare try to pin this HUGE decision on us!
The best advise I can give you is which will wait for you, the job or the woman?
Good luck.
2007-11-23 23:25:59 · answer #8 · answered by box of rain 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the opportunity is better, I said go for it. Your partner can move in 6months, time will go fast, while you are in the new city you can pick up application for her
2007-11-23 23:31:26 · answer #9 · answered by dbrh_soto 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are the one that has to make the decision. you are the one that will have to suffer the concequences.
keep in mind that six months is not forever.
2007-11-23 23:37:57 · answer #10 · answered by KRIS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋