ok heres my story i was 17 and this 29 yr old beg to marry me and wrote me poems and song and told me he alwyas gonna be there fo me no matter what and i fell in love with him and give him 100% trust, he promised i was gonna beable to go to college well to keep him happy i end up workin 2 jobs trying to pay most of the bills and then 8 months later he started to treat me bad cuase alot of bills was coming and he was stressin, well i got into this bad car accident where my car wen under a semi trailer, ad he wasn there for me , put his new car sales man job be4 me didnt want to take me to the hospital! so i left cus i was shocked and i left, next day i tried to work thing out he didnt want nothing to do with me, then i found out i waspregnant and he didnt care wither, well after 7wks ihad a miscarrige, we've bin separated for 2 months and he dont want nothingto do with me! he backstab me, how can i get over this? does karma really happen? will he get punish for this?
2007-11-23 19:19:50 · 10 answers · asked by rhea 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You can take a good lesson on this. DON'T ever pay for bills that are not yours. It was obvious he was taken advantage of you. The pain you feel right now will prepare you down in the future. Now don't make the same mistake as you did on supporting a loser. If they can't pay half of the rent and be able to pay for their own bills, you shouldn't be associating with them. In turn this is your own Karma, on taking in a loser. From now on you can't do anything or nothing will happen unless you move forward with your life. What was done is done, and you can never change the past. Just make yourself a better person, and don't ever accept those kind of people in your life.
Why do I know so much, well I am a guy, and we have to deal with golddiggers and leeches one time or another. So now you know how the majority of men feel.
2007-11-23 19:56:59 · answer #1 · answered by aftershock 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound so hurt and I feel you. Yes he used you and Karma does happen to everyone. I want to know that even tho that is very sad that you lost the baby no one is ever happy about losing a human life. Look for the very hard lessons in this. You can turn your life around. Begin by grieving your lost of the baby acknowledge that first. Second just grieve the lost marriage. Third understand why did you got attracted to such a loser. You must be very beautiful for guy to ask you to marry you so early in life. Learn this beautiful women have geeks and creeps attracted to her all the time. You must become more selective with whom you get involved with. Learn to judge with a little more discrimination. Look for a man with character and haves values. Go back to college get educated so you will have a higher self-worth about yourself. Believe me you will heal from this and you will learn that you must never lower your standard for smooth talking player. Learn the games of players so you won't hook up with a player again. There a book called the game for players read up on their techniques Go to college you will attracted to more intelligent men you see that players are stupid usually too. Lastly remember you are more than the bad experiences and don't let it get inside of you.
2007-11-24 04:14:50 · answer #2 · answered by treatsinlife 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't realize this yet but you will come out of this a stronger and better person for this. I was so broken hearted i just wanted to go to sleep and never wake up. Someone told me if it's to hard to think about tomorrow then don't. Take one minute at a time when you get through that make it two minutes and so on. I had to do that for about a month then i got up to a day, i also said to myself i know there are alot of people like me going through this. I really believe when your heart is broken by someone you gave everything to and they just threw you away like you were a piece of trash.
I know how much you are hurting and trying to make some kind of sense in what he did to you, he is a very selfish man that's what it comes down to. The best thing you can do is to get mad at him get yourself in a frame of mind where you want to show him that what he did to you you are not going to let it destroy you. As hard as it will be don't show him that side of you show him that he didn't get to you and you are over him you want to move on.
2007-11-24 23:19:59 · answer #3 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
man. i don't think i can relate to your situation, but i do believe i've been that heart broken before.
of course he will get punished for this. he's already being punished because he's missing out on you.
i'm not saying that you can just pick things up from where you left off before this marriage, but as soon as you feel ready and unaffected about this event, go stabalize your life like how you would've without that guy.
find that place in your mind taht expands like a beach. write down all your pains, fears, doubts on paper...wrap it in a bottle and let it set sail to fade toward the setting sun...
that way, it's still in your mind, but far, far away
2007-11-24 03:29:09 · answer #4 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes my friend...you can take rest in knowing that Kharma will infact happen. I have seen it myself on everyone that has ever tried to and or succeeded to hurt me. Sometimes though the Kharma hits them in a different area then what you may want to have happen to him but it will happen...and he will be sorry.
keep telling yourself that you are better off with someone who will love and respect you. you deserve a man to treat you right, and you should never settle for anything less or you will lose your own self repect in the long run....and thats far worse.
Hang in there hun...things will be brighter but take this time to heal and build up your goals in life again. Stay the coarse...
2007-11-24 03:26:50 · answer #5 · answered by just bored 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont worry if he gets punished or not- if he really loved you he woyuld have waiuted till you were 18 and not done any of that. Builf yiour life up and change your numbers.
2007-11-24 03:52:24 · answer #6 · answered by kttphoenix 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know what? pick up the pieces of your life and make it better. don't go back or even try to go back to him. he is not worth it! for a change, try loving yourself also. you lost yourself in order to give it to him. everything is being balanced in life. what he did to you he will also experience in some way. the most important thing is, fix your life and make it better. and forget him.easy to say but hard to do, yes. but it is not impossible to achieve. you can do it, girl.
2007-11-24 03:28:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I sincerely hope he gets punished for this! he sounds like a total backsabbing jerk. just try to move on to someone else, and try to forget about what a jacka** that guy was.
2007-11-24 03:24:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its gonna take a long while for u to get over this but u will as for him he will get whats coming to him,good luck
2007-11-24 03:30:13 · answer #9 · answered by Rosie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time is a Great healer
Cheers
2007-11-24 03:23:51 · answer #10 · answered by Prince 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋