2007-11-23 17:31:10 · 29 answers · asked by Judith 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
4 months ago me & my long time BF broke up. Since then he did not show up. During those days I dated with a man who is the father of my baby but my ex showed up the day before I found out that I’m pregnant. He wants me back but the problem is I'm 4 weeks pregnant with the other man. What should I do? I love my ex so much but It’s too late.Should I marry the father of my baby?
2007-11-23 17:38:47 · update #1
If you do not love him do NOT marry him! It is not fair to either of you to marry someone who doesn't love you. It will lead to serious relationship troubles and your child will suffer because of it. If you want to be with him then work on building a relationship that can lead to love. Then if you fall in love with him and only then should you marry him. Whatever you do, be honest with him!
Congrats on the baby and best of luck!
2007-11-23 17:37:24 · answer #1 · answered by MISS H 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well think of the paths u have. U won't love him and u get married. U get into fights, ur child gets a bad influence of how families are, then u get divorced. Then there's the other path, u don't get married, but u get the child, ur child doesn't get a proper way of being a real family, although not many do. Then the least possible where he gets the child, and u go through ur life heartbroken, no child, and anything else to go with that.
I suggest u shouldn't get married and take the baby, it's better than living with a man u don't love.
2007-11-23 17:38:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Because your baby needs the presence and the love of both parents.
Well, if your ex has left you once. Then chances are that he will leave you again some time in the future. Perhaps you like him a lot. But it doesn't seem to me that he feels quite the same way about you.
If you choose the wrong guy. Then you can easily end up with no guy at all. A single woman with a child is not that popular among eligible men.
2007-11-23 17:34:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
without love with both parties its not going to work out . now if you want your ex back tell him the truth that you are pregnant with anothers child be upfront if you want your ex back now as far as you babys father if you dont love him then i would say no cause love is not just about marriage but there are strong connections between two ppl if one has it and the other doesnt then at some point the marriage will fail good luck on what you choose
2007-11-23 17:44:36 · answer #4 · answered by angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say if you are not in love then you definitely should not get married. I know some people do it for the child's sake, but eventually it will probably end up not working because a marriage will not work if you are not in love. You can still raise a child together and be great parents without being married. Eventually you will find the right person and you will be glad you didnt marry the wrong person.
2007-11-23 17:37:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Love grows in many different ways, in your case you assume love could be something different. Marriage is just a commitment between two people. A good father is love, a provider is good love, a good man is good love, a responsible man is good love. The list goes on. So what does love mean to you is the real question to answer.
2007-11-23 17:40:22 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not get married just to get married. Being married is work and you better love that person. Speak with your ex and see if he can live with another mans child.
2007-11-23 18:39:04 · answer #7 · answered by pacemark5 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Never marry someone you do not love. People these days take marriage so lightly and don't really care because they know there is a way out. I think it's sad and wronng to think this way. Marriage is saved for two people who are in love with each other and will for the rest of their lives. If you marry someone you do not love you will be lying to yourself, the father, and everyone else, it's not worth it. Do what will make you happy. If you do not love this man do you think you could be happy for the rest of your life?
2007-11-23 17:35:28 · answer #8 · answered by techfan_jen_10 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
If u truly do not love him, it will not be a happy marriage for either u or this man, nor a happy childhood for your baby. The best thing to do is to follow your heart and do what will make u happiest. It can be a hard decision, but if u work towards what is best for u, it will also be better for your child. I wish you luck.
2007-11-23 17:38:29 · answer #9 · answered by /\|][/| 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No! You have no reason to do it. This man can still be the father of the baby without being your husband. There is nothing worst growning up and being a child in a home of anger, fighting and plain o' unhappiness. You will regret it and you are doing no favor for the child.
DONT DO IT!!
2007-11-23 17:37:37 · answer #10 · answered by Samantha L 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋