I posted a question earlier about my relationship--I got up courage to talk to him about things. He and I talked and talked and he swore it wasn't anything more than a fantasy and he doesn't want anyone other than me.
I told him I just wasn't sure what to believe. He got all defensive and I told him I just wanted him to be happy. I said I'd rather him be happy with someone else rather than miserable with me. We talked more and I thought we'd talked everything out and it was gonna be ok.
He tried to be sexual toward me and I just wasn't in the mood. I've been hurting all day home alone and tired from cleaning up Thanksgiving while he was at the mall with friends and I just didn't want sex right then.
He got mad and said "What do you want from me" and I said I just wanted him happy he got all cranky and I said "be where you want to be weither it be here, at a friends, or whereever"
He left. Just grabbed his keys, kissed my cheek, and left.........
2007-11-23 21:24:44 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i would never tell a man i loved that i wanted him to be happy even with another, that's an open invitation for him to leave u. its as if u gave him permission. he doesn't feel loved, and if there is another woman perhaps she is doing all she can to convince him she is the one for him. sounds as if he wasn't sure but after what u said he probably is now. he seems to still love u, and if u love him u need to communicate it in a different way.
2007-11-23 23:46:42 · answer #1 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didn't read you other question...but it sounds like maybe he needs to know you want him & desire him. There is a good book called the Five Languages of Love. Now, if he is leaving you with work and continually goes out to have a good time, then you need to get control of the situation and move on because he isn't being respectful. He kissed you on the cheak....that is a good sign. Doesn't sound like it was a bad thing...you need to think about your actions and are you communicating to him that you love him in a way that he understands? If not, figure out what means you love him to him and then do it. Good luck to you.
2007-11-24 05:35:21 · answer #2 · answered by Skinny N 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did not read your first posting but I do see a problem here.
You say you want to keep him happy but you reject his advances because you are too tired from shopping.????
I suggest that you find someone that has been happily married for 30 years and ask they what cements their relationship, especially as it come to sex. You need to learn a lot more about men than you know.
Good luck
2007-11-24 05:32:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he just wants some time alone to cool off and think about things. He kissed you goodbye so I wouldn't worry about it. Maybe it's not worse; this could be a step towards the better you never know!
2007-11-24 05:27:58 · answer #4 · answered by bezsenný 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well maybe that should tell you something about his maturity . he does not sound like he is ready for a serious relationship if he thinks sex can solve things . he needs to know and learn that is not a way to solve things . I hope for your sake he grows up soon if not then you might have to make some very tough decisions for your life . good luck and god bless.
2007-11-24 05:29:52 · answer #5 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I posted an answer to your question last night.... He is normal...it is a fantasy...this is a fantasy that most all guys have....HE IS NORMAL..... he really does not want anyone else, he is married to and loves you and now you have told him to go be with someone else....that would really hurt someone....
2007-11-24 07:12:31 · answer #6 · answered by Rein 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He feels like you don't want him there... you've repeatedly told him to go where it makes him happy.
He's as confused as you, but doesn't know how to handle it so he's just going to go.
he will be back.
2007-11-24 05:28:42 · answer #7 · answered by Heather C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you and your boyfrind are under presure.
Take a lillte holoday to geother.
Relax or get drunk then hav sex.
2007-11-24 05:30:40 · answer #8 · answered by billy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he just did wot you as-kt him to do,you no men are big baby's . thy won't wot thy won't wen thy won't it .you hurt hes filings.he well poet for awhile, and come home,you get some rest ,so you can give him some titty ,ha-ha. good luck!!.
2007-11-24 05:51:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He went off to pout. He'll be back.
2007-11-24 07:42:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋