I've always wondered, is marriage worth it? Every marriage I've ever seen, including 3 of my fathers, have gone straight down the drain and caused nothing but strife.
My question is....what makes marriage worth it? What's good about it? Bad?
2007-11-23 19:27:08 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What makes marriage worth it?
Waking up next to the person you love. No one ever said being married would be easy. It's like any job: you have to work at it and continue to improve yourself to better the marriage.
What's good about it?
Good, bad or indifferent...I know that my wife is always there for me. We came into our marriage with an understanding of what our marriage was to be. We set guidelines and boundaries. We communicate about our likes and dislikes and the events of our day.
What is bad about marriage?
There are struggles that you will face during your marriage. It depends on how you and your spouse tackle the problems that will determine whether or not you will survive. My wife and I fight over small stuff, constantly, but we NEVER fight over major stuff. We always sit down and exam the issue and TOGETHER determine the best course of action.
The bigger question that you have to ask yourself is, "Will you devote yourself to ONE woman for the rest of you life, if you happen to find her?" That is the decision that you make when you get married. Will you take that step when it comes time?
2007-11-23 19:40:18 · answer #1 · answered by ChaRiaLer 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have been married almost 6 years now and I can say that I still love being around my husband. It's not always great, and there are times when we aren't to crazy about the other one. But its nice to know that you are a team and that there is always someone there that you can turn too. My favorite times are sitting around and joking with each other. Laying in bed at night talking.
Bad times are that you can't live with someone everyday for 6 years and always like each other. What makes or breaks a marriage though is sticking it out through those tough times and working your way back towards each other.
I get really frustrated when I see people getting divorce after 2 or 3 years of marriage. I think you when you are married divorce shouldn't be an option unless there has been cheating or abuse.
2007-11-23 19:41:56 · answer #2 · answered by mlbbell 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is absolutely worth it if you do it right. You can't go into it lightly, and you can't use divorce as an out when things get tough. Marriage is so you have someone to share your life with. Someone who will care what happens to you.
If you use divorce as an out, you will end up being married 3-4 times wondering why you ever got married at all. Marriage is something that you do once...til death. It's completely worth every second of work that you put into it.
Of course marriage has its bad parts. When you live with someone for so long, you will eventually disagree and maybe start to push each other's buttons. that's only temporary, though. And think about that as opposed to living by yourself in your old age watching nascar races on tv and eating bologna sandwiches. Marriage is 100% worth it.
2007-11-23 19:51:45 · answer #3 · answered by Been here before 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to go into a marriage knowing that there are going to be both good and bad things involved. The best thing is knowing that you have someone's support in almost everything that you do. Let's be honest--you're marrying someone who isn't exactly like you, so there are going to be differences and things that your significant other doesn't support. I think that people nowadays give up too easily on relationships. They take a LOT of work and you can't get away from that. Even the best relationships take a lot of work to understand each other.
The best thing you can do for a marriage is work at it very hard. You need to work to understand what the other person needs, even if he/she doesn't seem to work hard for what you need. I think you require a lot of patience and understanding, plus a lot of communication. If you think that love looks like one thing and your partner gives you something different, does that mean he/she doesn't care? Not at all--it just means that he/she doesn't show you care the way you need it to be shown.
2007-11-23 19:33:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow! Sounds like your dads have really set the example here.
I believe in marriage, but to make it work you have to have the right sort of person for you and you have to be serious about what you are doing. If all you are looking for when you are dating is a romp in the bed, your not looking for a spouse, you're looking for something else.
Marriage, to work, has to have a foundation of trust, respect and love. Both of you must be able to work together as partners and that requires some compatibility of interest. It will also require an investment on your part of both time and effort to always continue the courtship phase of your life because if you stop courting her, you are ignoring her. You can't expect her to be happy if you ignore her, just ask your mother.
The right spouse will be the secret to your happiness and success in all other areas of your life, as you will be for hers. Best of luck.
2007-11-23 19:48:29 · answer #5 · answered by go2seek 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The good thing for me is the commitment level for me to the guy. I am not as committed if I am not married. I make excuses as to why I can do this or that.
Also if there are kids involved it may be easier for families to accept the couple
2007-11-23 19:59:56 · answer #6 · answered by Kj 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what makes marriage worth it? it is for the love between the two people, loves never easy, and it will never be easy but thats where you two are to work together
2007-11-23 19:32:05 · answer #7 · answered by Alexandria C. (star-crossed) 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"Good: Sharing the same interests, having fun together."
Bad: Temper Tantrums. It's not just found in children.
2007-11-23 19:33:11 · answer #8 · answered by ChemoAngel 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not worth it, too many problems.
2007-11-23 20:04:54 · answer #9 · answered by WestCoastin4Life 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋