Is Porn CORRUPTING him?

Question

My partner over the last few months, after he got brave enough to hire an adult movie, seems to be watching it on a regular basis. At first i didn't mind, but watching it i think it degrades the real meaning of sex. They shag either other, they dont love each other. And they do all these fantasy things like girl on girl etc. My boyfriend used to like the innocent types, but now it seems he thinks strippers aren't 'sluts' and even got a number from a 'bi' one saying shes a 'cool' chick and might be a good friend. I put my foot down about that but iam wondering if watching porn is corrupting him and hes confusing it with the real world.. as i could not see the old him even wanting to give a stripper the time of day rather than getting her number. what do u think and how could i discourage the movies without controling.

Also do u think it is making him want more? i think sex should be coz you love someone not about all the fancy fantasy stuff which most of , i am not really in to. i am actually disgusted he would get a strippers number in the first place, what should i do or am in reading too much into nuthing

Answer 1

I don't think it's the porn you should be worried about, but rather the stripper and the phone number he got from her. That's way worse than a porn movie anyday.

Answer 2

In my humble opinion, he probably has not changed at all, but rather, is becoming comfortable with who he was the entire time but had been shy to show you. If you two are supposed to be mates, this means that each of you must be willing to satisfy the others needs, be it physical, emotional, financial, or otherwise. This does not mean be dependent on one and other, but inter-dependent. if your relationship is not that close to begin with, where you share these common needs, then you shouldn't be worried to begin with.
Men and women are programmed differently. Men are born into this world with a carnal sexual desire as well as a romantic, whereas women generally only admit to the romantic. You should analyze your own desires, intentions, and needs. If the needs of you or your partner are not compatible, and you are not willing to expand, then it might be in the best interest of you both to separate from that kind of relationship. That wouldn't make either of you the bad guy, just apples and oranges and it is important to be able to recognize these things.
Here is the bottom line. Do you love him? Does he satisfy your needs? Does he love you? Do you satisfy his needs? As long as you can answer yes to all four of those points, then you have something to work with, and should not confuse sexual appetite with not loving you, or not being dedicated to you.
If he wants a more dynamic sex life, it is your choice whether or not to follow him and see how it turns out - who knows? maybe this level of honesty will bring the two of you closer if you don't let it destroy you. Just always remember, everything in moderation, your needs must be met, and his as well, equally and without abuse.

Adam

Answer 3

There is a danger that after a while of porn, "regular" one woman one guy sex will be too tame and no longer stimulating to him... I've heard of men who had to have porn just to have regular sex with their partners... all of those images over time can definitely mess up what he finds sexy and erotic and stimulating and may do damage to him (and any partners he has). The younger the exposure, the greater the potential for a deviation of what a person finds stimulating...

Answer 4

I think he is using porn as a crutch. It's something he doesn't have to get you involved in, he can view it and do it anytime of the day and he has 24/7 acess to it. Can he have sex with you without it? Do you two have normal sex? I think he needs to stop watching that and pay attention to you.

Answer 5

No, porn in not corrupting him.

It is his own selfishness and immaturity that leads him astray.

Good luck.