but i want to know if he is cheating on me as we are not divorced. Plus after 3 yrs i feel used for a greencard two months after he got it he left. I really think i want to know because i just want to see if it was the greencard or cheating after three yrs you want to know why it's over. The strange thing is it is over even though we are not divorced. Why do i want to know so badly it's driving me nuts.
2007-11-27 13:33:54 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Plus there are times i call and he acts so strangely i think makes my curiosity worst?
2007-11-27 13:35:09 · update #1
believe me the less u know the better u will be emotionally. the more u know and find out the worse u will feel. u want to know because u need to know if he ever did love u or if it was all a waste of your time and love. focus on what good u do have in your life, as u will find no good in finding out what u already know is true. if he loved u he would be there, it is hard to accept that someone used u in such a cruel manor, but they did or it appears they did. don't go there in your mind, as it will hurt u. u really haven't let go of it yet, as if there is still some unfinished business, that he will be sorry for something, but he won't, so stop torturing yourself on this, men like this are never sorry, they had an agenda, and once they accomplished it they moved on to use someone else.
2007-11-27 13:50:04 · answer #1 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably a combination of green card and cheating on you, where did you find this guy?? Sounds like you haven't gotten over something that he'sforgot about a long time ago,
2007-11-27 21:51:51 · answer #2 · answered by Rudy C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say 'this is one of those lessons learned in life' about people.
I would also say knowing whether or not if he is cheating on you isn't productive. Only destructive on you. He's evidently not caring whether or not you find out. And all it's going to do is hurt you,,,,not him.
Your inquisitiveness means it's not over, it's not closed. You haven't turned him loose, not within yourself.
2007-11-27 21:46:00 · answer #3 · answered by Susan M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, if he is not with you then forget it. NO GOOD WILL COME OUT OF KNOWING. Next if he commited marriage fraud you should have spoken up earlier. But lucking for you it is not to late. With a little of info call I.C.E. which is Immigration at 1-800-X-SECTOR. Move on and get over him.
2007-11-27 21:55:41 · answer #4 · answered by jalwells 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you should have been wise to the fact that he used you to get his green card--he left after 2 months and you let him string u along for the next 3 yrs--OPEN ur eyes--u should have moved on 3 years ago! FORGET HIM!
2007-11-27 21:42:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ask yourself, what will you gain from the truth? Absolutely nothing. You will not get closure, only more pain. The best revenge is to live well, very well. Let it roll off your shoulders. Get a divorce and get your life back together. Show him what he passed up.
2007-11-27 21:41:31 · answer #6 · answered by Jessica C 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should report him to the NIS. His green card can be revoked. You have the proof that he was only pretending to love you to get it. If you can, get something in writing or emails from him that he doesn't want you.
2007-11-27 21:49:37 · answer #7 · answered by old beatnik 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can get really good advice at www.survivinginfidelity. com---this site is great for advice on all kinds of situations. Good luck sweetie.
2007-11-27 21:44:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's gone, so try to move on.. i know you're probably very hurt, but why prolong the agony by calling or wondering?
sometimes, we dont' need to know.
2007-11-27 21:37:56 · answer #9 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're to fixed on what he's doing, what do you care? Remember it's over!
2007-11-27 21:43:36 · answer #10 · answered by beamer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋